Onlyliveonce Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I no I shouldn't of but I broke no contact this morning with a text just asking how she is that was this 8am We've been texting since she is cold and sounds really pissed off said shes fed up and ****ed off I didn't ask why. She has kept texting though just about random stuff. I thought I'd just see if she fancied meeting up she said do you think we should things won't ever be the same.then said I don't no. I said cool and just get in contact if you ever fancy meeting up and left it at that. I no I have done all the things I shouldn't of but she responded to my texts so must mean something. Il leave it now and see what happens. Any tips would be good
mutant Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Yes! It does mean something when she responds to your texts. It means she's happy knowing you are still available despite getting dumped and that you are willing to feed her ego. Those random texts she sends is her way of checking if you are still under her spell. If you continue being her "friend" while you wait for her to "consider" you, things will get shi**y soon as she gets a new boyfriend. Please walk away right now before things get ugly. Cease communicating with her through all avenues and if you have problem with that you can refer to the NC guides that are available here. You dont have to hangon until you receive an invitation to her wedding as a "friend" 2
na49 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 she said do you think we should things won't ever be the same. If I heard this from my ex I would take the next exit and leave her the f*ck alone. It doesn't matter how much you want her, if she doesn't feel the same way about things, you're digging yourself into an even deeper hole. Stay NC even though you'll probably look for another reason to text her a week from now to see if she changed her mind.
Author Onlyliveonce Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 Well not been on here in a while this I'd what's happens so far We had limited contact for few mth me still doing the chasing (stupid I know) Anyway I decided no contact and it lasted 3 weeks till she contacted me started slowly then more and more. Iv played it really cool and we've been getting on great shes still single been on dating sites for over a yr now and I guess shes seen a few guys but nothing lasted.(I never ask her) Well last few weeks been getting on extra well and she has kissed me full on twice and my bday last week and she got me a day out at theme park and some underwear ???? She often brings up sex as well ( we haven't slept together this yr) She still goes hot and cold though one day I hear loads from her then nothing I can't work her out. I never contact her she always texts me or asks to go out cinema or for a drink. So Iv just come back from the gym and see her I'm town with her ex she was with him 5 yrs ago I waved she looked abit stunned. I can't make her out she must still be interested in me but why all the games and now this. I won't contact her il just see what she says shes bound to text in the morning. I'm confused I don't want to let myself start loving her again but can feel it happening.
barky2 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Leave the ball in her court and walk away. Resume nc. Walk away. Barky
Author Onlyliveonce Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 I don't want to look like I'm sulking though. I felt abit gutted seeing her with someone else but not as bad as I thought. I just don't get her she contacted me again why just mess about. I'm going to have to reply if she texts but will wont make conversation and then just slowly go into no contact again but for good this time.
Author Onlyliveonce Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 I no your right I just don't want to come across as jealous. So you think I should not reply at all and just walk away totally ??
jesse93 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I had this problem also, I gave in and texted my ex because a friend told me she missed me, anyway after that happened we started talking all the time because she wanted to be "friends" she was cold and distant, as you were explaining, I tried my hardest to stay friends with her, I thought that her texting me meant something that she still cared to work things out, but after a while I realized it was going no where she was moving on and I was sitting there so sad wanting to cry because I couldn't pretend to be a friend while I still love her, so I got fed up one night and just stopped talking to her completely, I couldn't handle it.. It's not worth breaking NC, NC is bad at first I'm not going to lie, I've almost had a mental break down a couple times the past few days but eventually it'll get better and you'll feel happier, you need to truly heal and texting her is setting you back I learned that the hard way, I was doing good with NC until I contacted her and now I feel like I'm at square one again. Stay NC, it's the best thing you can do... Believe me, and what everyone else says. 1
barky2 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I don't want to look like I'm sulking though. I felt abit gutted seeing her with someone else but not as bad as I thought. I just don't get her she contacted me again why just mess about. I'm going to have to reply if she texts but will wont make conversation and then just slowly go into no contact again but for good this time. Stop worrying about " what you look like" Wait no, worry about it. Worry about u saying..." I'm a grown ass man" Don't respond for a few texts and calls, i mean at least 5 unanswered. Then see what happens. Don't respond to everything, then u male yourself available. Available= not sexy to a woman. Barky
mutant Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 We had limited contact for few mth me still doing the chasing (stupid I know) Anyway I decided no contact and it lasted 3 weeks till she contacted me started slowly then more and more. NC means that you don't reply or initiate any sort of communication with the ex. It doesn't mean sitting around and waiting for the ex to contact you. Here's a NC guide that you can look at Caliguy no contact guide Iv played it really cool and we've been getting on great shes still single been on dating sites for over a yr now and I guess shes seen a few guys but nothing lasted.(I never ask her) So Iv just come back from the gym and see her I'm town with her ex she was with him 5 yrs ago I waved she looked abit stunned. Your Ex has been dating and sleeping around with several men while you are waiting for her. is that your definition of "playing it cool"? I would assume she has been seeing most of the men she has dated since 5 years ago. You are not the only guy she is seeing or sleeping with and you know it but you choose to ignore the facts. It's time you take the valuable advice that you have been offered here. It's been over a year now FFS just walk away and save yourself from this toxic situation. I can't make her out she must still be interested in me but why all the games and now this. I won't contact her il just see what she says shes bound to text in the morning. I'm confused I don't want to let myself start loving her again but can feel it happening. Why all the games? because you have allowed yourself to be a piece on her chessboard along with the ex from the past and other men from OLD that you don't know of. Your ex knows that you are available and she can get you anytime she wants to for sex or whatever. This is a bad place to operate from and will only hurt you again the long-run. You don't want to let yourself fall in love with her again? well then walk away. It may not be as simple as that but it's something you must do now. You may not see it right now but there are other women out there that will treat you in a much more dignified way and don't want to play stupid games p.s if you do decide to have sex with her please use protection.
Sunspots Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Go for no-contact. Don't torture yourself. Let her space to elaborate the feelings. If there is some, you will resonate. But get it slow. It takes time. It is not said it will work. With me it didn't. You got all my understanding and closeness. I had an important break up 4 months ago. May you always see clearly. Peace. Simon.
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