grkBoy Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I think it depends on how she presents herself. If she walks in looking like KD Lang or Ellen Degeneres, of course a lot of guys won't be emailing her. However, a woman who presents herself as confident, sexy, stylish, has good looks, etc...can still turn heads with the short hair (especially if she went for a cut that flatters her). I've found a few women with short hair attractive, mainly because they picked a cut that flatters them, take care of themselves, have a sense of style, and carry a sexuality that shows. The only time I and other men come down on short hair is when a girl seemingly decides to do it after she gets into a RL or marriage. So the guy falls for this knockout with long flowing hair, then she comes home with it all chopped off...and she wonder why her man now can't get erect for her or why he suddenly seems less interested in her as a woman. I've heard the "it's just hair" rhetoric, but I ask women who say that how they would honestly react if their man shaved his head, or colored his hair a wild color, or got a mohawk, or mullet? How would they react if he decided to grow a shaggy beard? How would they react if he stopped exercising and gained 150 lbs? This is why I tell people not to drastically change who they are when they get into a RL. People fell in love with one person, but will fall out of love when this person seemingly vanishes. With single women, they present themselves initially as the girl with short hair, etc...hence why it's different. A guy dating her is picking her as she is. Even then, growing it out might then change how he feels just as much. 1
Els Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 (edited) Are you talking Emma Watson/Halle Berry short, or just shoulder-length? There seems to be a bit of a disconnect in what some people perceive as 'short'. A friend once asked me what I thought about her getting a 'short haircut', and my response was 'ehhh'... she then shows me a picture of the style she intends and it's a good few inches below the shoulder. In what world is that short? I can't imagine most men would have a problem with shoulder length hair in and of itself, though I can see why some would not be attracted to 1-2 inch long hair on women. Edited January 14, 2013 by Elswyth
edgygirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I ask women who say that how they would honestly react if their man shaved his head, or colored his hair a wild color, or got a mohawk, or mullet? How would they react if he decided to grow a shaggy beard? I would honestly love all the options above. even a mullet can be cool if it's a stylish haircut. I guess some people are more conservative than others. The only time I and other men come down on short hair is when a girl seemingly decides to do it after she gets into a RL or marriage. So the guy falls for this knockout with long flowing hair, then she comes home with it all chopped off...and she wonder why her man now can't get erect for her or why he suddenly seems less interested in her as a woman. Are you serious? I would never want to be with a man who thinks this way. Will you also have a problem getting it on if she got cancer and had to shave her head? Hmpf. People change with age you know.
Eclypse Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I'm going to be honest here and say that I don't like short haircuts on women. However for me a short hair is kd Lang style or a buzz cut butch style (sorry cant think of a better word for it). Long hair for many men is associated with feminity and female attractiveness. However, I also have no idea what a bob cut is but if my google images search was correct then you have nothing to worry about. That looks sexy and well off the buzz look. I also consider this style to be so hot it melts it my pants off http://www.snitchseeker.com/gallery/albums/userpics/84186/glamour4.jpg Not all women can pull it off but if you can, men will be lining up
Eclypse Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 [quote=edgygirl; Are you serious? I would never want to be with a man who thinks this way. Will you also have a problem getting it on if she got cancer and had to shave her head? Hmpf. People change with age you know. I would not like it if my girlfriend came home looking like Ellen Degeneres. She has such beautiful flowing hair and it was a major part of my attraction to her. Would you be ok with your man getting a teardrop or mike Tyson tattoo?
Els Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I would not like it if my girlfriend came home looking like Ellen Degeneres. She has such beautiful flowing hair and it was a major part of my attraction to her. Would you be ok with your man getting a teardrop or mike Tyson tattoo? Well, I don't think it's fair to compare a haircut to a tattoo. Tattoos should be compared to tattoos, and haircuts to haircuts. She has said that she is fine with whatever drastic hairstyle change her man wishes to get, including a mullet or shaved completely bald, so it's pretty fair for her to want the same, I'd think.
edgygirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I would not like it if my girlfriend came home looking like Ellen Degeneres. She has such beautiful flowing hair and it was a major part of my attraction to her. Would you be ok with your man getting a teardrop or mike Tyson tattoo? Haha are you really comparing a face tatoo with a girl who decided she doesn't want to have long hair anymore? You'd better get that in the prenup - that if your girl cuts the hair, she's out or gets nothing. Talk about shallow. It is curious how people think that their SO will look the same forever. Flash news: people get old! Your SO will eventually look like her mom! There's no way out of it. And yes, most woman eventually cut their hair. Same as most guys will lose their hair! Hello? In any case, I never go for guys who put too much importance into looks and/or like the Barbie type. I know what's important for them, and it doesn't attract me in the least. And before you ask it, I heard all my life that I'm either pretty or hot. Still, I don't like guys who put the most importance into it. Men who fell for me always told me it was because of my personality. That's the way I like it. I hope the OP feels the same.
Eclypse Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Haha are you really comparing a face tatoo with a girl who decided she doesn't want to have long hair anymore? You'd better get that in the prenup - that if your girl cuts the hair, she's out or gets nothing. Talk about shallow. It is curious how people think that their SO will look the same forever. Flash news: people get old! Your SO will eventually look like her mom! There's no way out of it. And yes, most woman eventually cut their hair. Same as most guys will lose their hair! Hello? In any case, I never go for guys who put too much importance into looks and/or like the Barbie type. I know what's important for them, and it doesn't attract me in the least. And before you ask it, I heard all my life that I'm either pretty or hot. Still, I don't like guys who put the most importance into it. Men who fell for me always told me it was because of my personality. That's the way I like it. I hope the OP feels the same. Sorry, that was a bad example. I didbt think it through. What I meant was they were both drastically altering ones appearance. My gf said she would hate if I shaved my hair bald. I'm not going to do that. Physical attraction is important. Same with weight gain. If she turns into a couch potato and pigs out on McDonald's and gets a gut I will seriously be turned off. Same vice versa. Obviously mini skirts at 60 would raise eyebrows but I think there is no point in becoming matronly just because you are getting older. Mental attraction is important. As is physical. People age as they get older, but I firmly believe you can still remain physically attractive to your partner, albeit in slightly different ways. I asked my gf if she'd ever cut her hair and she said never. FTR my dad at 51 has a full head of hair, as does his father. 1
edgygirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Be realistic. This doesn't exist in life: I asked my gf if she'd ever cut her hair and she said never. People will look different in different phases of their life. No one stays the same forever. Physical attraction is important. But if someone can't accept that their SO might gain weight for whatever reason, or that they won't have the same haircut forever... that's pretty shallow in my opinion. If I found a person attractive to begin with, the essence is there. If they gain 50 pounds, I will still love them. If they want to change their hairstyle 180, I will still love them. If they get old, gray and lose part of their hair, I am pretty sure I will still love them. And if for some reason, I change, I hope they won't kick me in the curb. That's not the type of person I am looking for. Just be realistic. Perhaps you're too young to realize it, but you gf won't have the same hair forever. It's a fact of life and the sooner you understand it, the better for you. Obviously as you also get older, your perspective on what is attractive will change as well. And you'll understand that no one looks the same forever.
ThaWholigan Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I don't understand why women cut their hair when they get older - it just makes them look even older than they are Admittedly I do prefer long hair, but saying that I think that there are lots of women who suit short hair - just that there's a lot of women who don't suit short hair. Most guys I know aren't that bothered but there are some who much prefer the longer hair. You just need to find you demographic . 3
TheZebra Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Sorry, that was a bad example. I didbt think it through. What I meant was they were both drastically altering ones appearance. My gf said she would hate if I shaved my hair bald. I'm not going to do that. Physical attraction is important. Same with weight gain. If she turns into a couch potato and pigs out on McDonald's and gets a gut I will seriously be turned off. Same vice versa. Obviously mini skirts at 60 would raise eyebrows but I think there is no point in becoming matronly just because you are getting older. Mental attraction is important. As is physical. People age as they get older, but I firmly believe you can still remain physically attractive to your partner, albeit in slightly different ways. I asked my gf if she'd ever cut her hair and she said never. FTR my dad at 51 has a full head of hair, as does his father. I very much agree with this. I think it's very selfish when people get into a LTR and just let themselves go. It's not fair to tell your partner they can never be with anyone else, but then let yourself willingly rot away. For many things, it's not fair to blame age either. When I was 16 I could eat a full rack of ribs, fries, mozzarella sticks, and potato skins in a single sitting and not gain weight. Today, if I do that, I gain weight. It's not fair for my partner for me to say 'well, I'm older, so it's ok for me to continue this diet and look like a pig'. My parents are both in their 50s and they both look outstanding. My mother is in better shape than I am and always has impeccable clothes and hair. When we go out, she gets more compliments than I do. My dad got a bit of a belly, but he's working hard to get rid of it. He exercises for like 2 hours every day. My ex loved my hair long. It's more maintenance, but I agree that it looks good, so I always left it long for him. I always loved the way he looked in a specific outfit, so when we would go out, he'd wear it. Needless to say, the relationship was almost 5 years long and the amount of sex we had only increased with each year. We were both happy. 3
KungFuJoe Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Edgygirl, I dunno if I would agree with that completely. Hairstyle is one thing. I LOVE my wife's curly hair. But if she really really wanted to cut it real short or something I'm sure shed look great no matter what. But gaining weight? Sorry...unless it's due to a medical condition, this is a HELL NO. And she knows this because I've told her. And the same goes for me. I would never let myself go. There might be times where I'm not working out as much but my overall body shape and size doesn't change much.
Eclypse Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Be realistic. This doesn't exist in life: People will look different in different phases of their life. No one stays the same forever. Physical attraction is important. But if someone can't accept that their SO might gain weight for whatever reason, or that they won't have the same haircut forever... that's pretty shallow in my opinion. If I found a person attractive to begin with, the essence is there. If they gain 50 pounds, I will still love them. If they want to change their hairstyle 180, I will still love them. If they get old, gray and lose part of their hair, I am pretty sure I will still love them. And if for some reason, I change, I hope they won't kick me in the curb. That's not the type of person I am looking for. Just be realistic. Perhaps you're too young to realize it, but you gf won't have the same hair forever. It's a fact of life and the sooner you understand it, the better for you. Obviously as you also get older, your perspective on what is attractive will change as well. And you'll understand that no one looks the same forever. No one looks the same forever. I've seen family albums. Perhaps your right. Maybe in 10 or 20 years with more life experience my outlook will change. I love my girlfriend for the great person she is, and also for her beauty. I try to keep myself in peak physical condition not just for her, but for myself. I've had a few xtra pounds before and I felt horrible. Anyway, I guess what I was trying to get at was there are physical changes you can control, and those you can't, like balding or extreme weight gain (unless from thyroid or something). For now though, I'll keep my physical ideal of a woman with long, flowing hair.
Taramere Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 During dating or attempts to date, do women with short but feminine hair (e.g. a bob) by default lose out to their peers in long hair? How many men gravitate toward women in short hair? Nope. I've generally found that when my hair is cut into a slightly-below-jaw -length bob (which is as short as I'll go) I get more attention. My hair's usually shoulder length though sometimes I'll let it grow four or five inches longer. Even though theoretically men are supposed to prefer longer hair, I think that so many women out there have long hair that a shorter, snappier style can make a woman stand out from the crowd..and it often looks more chic. Men aren't supposed to care about women looking chic and stylish, but I think they often do tend to be swayed by such things in practice. 1
edgygirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Edgygirl, I dunno if I would agree with that completely. Hairstyle is one thing. I LOVE my wife's curly hair. But if she really really wanted to cut it real short or something I'm sure shed look great no matter what. But gaining weight? Sorry...unless it's due to a medical condition, this is a HELL NO. And she knows this because I've told her. And the same goes for me. I would never let myself go. There might be times where I'm not working out as much but my overall body shape and size doesn't change much. Ok so let's put it this way... some people get depressed and gain weight. Most people gain weight for a reason and not because they wanted to, right? So what you guys are saying is that if your SO gains weight, you'd kick them to the curb? Man... that's not my way of thinking. I like to think my SO would be supportive if I had problems in life that led me to look different. Also, the hair thing... I can't relate to that really. But I am quite accepting and I like alternative cultures and like it when people want to change their looks. It reminds me of that Cyndi Lauper clip where she waffles and dies her hair orange. The guy goes ahhh?: I guess if you are one that subscribes to traditional looks in society, you'd be bothered by a drastic change in looks. I am not one of those. I think it's boring. Maybe I am just too futuristic lol.
KungFuJoe Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 You have to have a specific face type to look really good in short hair as a woman, imo. For the most part, I don't prefer short hair. I need something to grab onto as well.
KungFuJoe Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Ok so let's put it this way... some people get depressed and gain weight. Most people gain weight for a reason and not because they wanted to, right? So what you guys are saying is that if your SO gains weight, you'd kick them to the curb? Man... that's not my way of thinking. I like to think my SO would be supportive if I had problems in life that led me to look different. Also, the hair thing... I can't relate to that really. But I am quite accepting and I like alternative cultures and like it when people want to change their looks. It reminds me of that Cyndi Lauper clip where she waffles and dies her hair orange. The guy goes ahhh?: I guess if you are one that subscribes to traditional looks in society, you'd be bothered by a drastic change in looks. I am not one of those. I think it's boring. Maybe I am just too futuristic lol. Depression is a medical problem. I'm talking about being a lazy bum sitting around not doing **** eating bon bons.
edgygirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Depression is a medical problem. I'm talking about being a lazy bum sitting around not doing **** eating bon bons. Alright... that I would agree no one really likes in a SO Hmm now I feel like eating bonbons.
TheZebra Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Depression is a medical problem. I'm talking about being a lazy bum sitting around not doing **** eating bon bons. Yes, as is cancer (when relating to hair). If my partner (God forbid) is to lose his hair due to cancer I will never leave him, for example. I would hope he wouldn't leave me if the circumstances were reversed as well. Those are circumstances outside of our control, and I would stick by my partner no matter what the medical emergency.
GoodOnPaper Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I don't understand why women cut their hair when they get older - it just makes them look even older than they are. If they don't have kids, then I agree -- but having kids is a big trigger. It's all about making hair low-maintenance. Young attractive women can pull off a short-short hair style but with women hitting middle age, it can easily look like they are giving up on their femininity. My wife's aware of this and is always looking for the happy medium on the hair style front.
edgygirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 If they don't have kids, then I agree -- but having kids is a big trigger. It's all about making hair low-maintenance. Young attractive women can pull off a short-short hair style but with women hitting middle age, it can easily look like they are giving up on their femininity. My wife's aware of this and is always looking for the happy medium on the hair style front. Not only that, I heard the quality of hair, kids or not, changes a lot. They say it's because of hormones. Haven't you all noticed that you don't have the same hair you had 10-15 years ago? I think hair changes as the skin changes. It's unrealistic to expect to have the same hair when you're older.
monicaelise Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 If they don't have kids, then I agree -- but having kids is a big trigger. It's all about making hair low-maintenance. Young attractive women can pull off a short-short hair style but with women hitting middle age, it can easily look like they are giving up on their femininity. My wife's aware of this and is always looking for the happy medium on the hair style front. This is exactly why I finally let my hair grow back out. Once everyone was past the age where I had to worry about little fingers getting caught or finding someone's lunch in my hair, I figured there wasn't any reason to fight my fro and just let it grow. I also agree that cutting one's hair often does have an aging effect. My face is already doing enough of that. I think a nice, long soft style keeps me from falling too far into the "hard, old woman" zone (it's also a whole lot easier to maintain and deal with day-to-day...if it gets in my way, I just pull it up). Also, as a semi-giantess I just feel more feminine with hair that is "to scale". This isn't going to be the case for everyone. OP, the bottom line is that men appear to want women who look like women, whatever their hair length is. If your bob makes you happy, keep it. It's not going to diminish your chances if all of your other "girly" ducks are in a row.
walfootrot2 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I love women with short hair. I find it a huge turn on. I had girlfriend once who shaved her head totally balled. It was great fun for both of u s.
2.50 a gallon Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Short hair has always been a turn off for me. On the other had I can be out shopping at the mall and notice a head of long hair in the shoppers in front and pick up the pace just to see what her face and body looked like. This past holiday I spotted one chased her down, and said "Wow, that's mine!" As it was my gf out shopping. As for the weight gain on our SO, it has happened to me, and yes it led to our breaking up. Skinny girls and over weight girls just don't turn me on, and there is nothing, oral or what have you that will sharpen my pencil. The mind might be willing the body just won't respond
pteromom Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I have short hair and get compliments from men and women all the time. I think whether it's long or short, the key is to have a style. Not just a mass of hair or a mess on your head. I think if it is short, you need to make sure you kick it up with color and a cool cut.
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