stevie_23 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Let’s list our physical effects resulting from our breakups, shall we? Also, how long they lasted (if they’re over yet) - Total loss of appetite (this improved after about 3 weeks enough for me to start eating chocolate and other junk if I had the distraction of craptastic reality TV, and I’m now on the way to being able to eat more normally even without distraction). - Resulting weight loss of about 15-20lbs. - Nausea upon waking in the middle of the night. Feel fine when I wake up and then BAM! Within 5 seconds, nausea and churning stomach. This actually lessened after about 2 weeks and now never happens anymore (5 weeks later). - Chest pain and tightness, at random times in the day and especially upon waking in the night and in the morning. Accompanied by angry / stressed out thought patterns and repetitive dwelling of issues. This lessened after 2-3 weeks mostly, and is now only a rare occurrence. - A white eyebrow hair (seriously, lol). - Shaking / quivering hands all the time. - I wake up in the morning and find I’ve been clenching my jaw and teeth (not grinding, but clenching).
MyAngel Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 The first week or so I was comfort eating! I had lost a few Kgs in the last 6 months but those few days of eating junk rectified that! Now, a month on, I'm feeling terribly depressed and have lost my appetite. I cry so much I throw up. My mouth is a permanent sad face That's about it. I think I've done okay, all things considered.
confusedfille Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I agree with most of yours. I can't eat. Can't sleep. And when I sleep, I dream about him so it's just one big nightmare. I've lost 7 lbs and it's barely been a week. My heart beats rapidly and it hurts, literally. I want this pain to go away...
Author stevie_23 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 It’s all terrible, isn’t it? *sigh* It’s weird in terms of my eating and weight loss, for the first 1-2 weeks I could hardly eat. I felt sick whenever I looked at or smelled food. I’d only eat to keep my body going so it didn’t collapse and I didn’t feel too uncomfortably empty in my stomach. I was eating junk food (like I’d get a McDonalds happy meal but only manage a third of it) and tiny portions of my usual healthy dinners. No breakfast. No lunch, etc. Then after a week I’d have chocolate and junk at night as a snack while I watched TV to numb my mind. And yet despite all this junk food consumption, which usually (from past experience) would put on about 10lbs in a few months, I have still not put any weight back on. It must be all the nervous energy burning it off.
th90 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I was just like you! Loss of appetite topped with vomiting for first 2 weeks. I slowly regained my appetite from the 3rd week onwards also was forced by my mum to eat. She was worried sick for me. I've always have the nausea when i wake up in the middle of the night. Sometimes I get so drowsy I throw up. Chest pain. Scared the hell out of me. Had it for an hour before bed and when I woke up. Had 2 episodes in a month. I thought I was getting a mild episode of myocardial infarction. Chest tightness! Hate it. Had it once for an hour. On a separate occasion from the chest pain. Couldnt breathe out of nowhere due to pain. On and off insomnia. Emotionally unstable. Even when it's totally unrelated to me. When I see other people in the hospital suffering for example. Or something really beautiful. Or even animals showing love to their offsprings in documentary. There's so much more but typing on the phone sucks lol
Author stevie_23 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 You typed very well for using a phone. Lol. If I did that my post would be full of typos, heheh. Weirdly enough, one physical symptom I don’t have is lethargy. In the past, and for many years, I’ve found I quite liked to have a nap in the afternoon on the weekends. I’d get home from being out, relax on the couch with a magazine or book and then end up falling asleep for 2 hours or so. But these days, there’s none of that. I think maybe because I can’t stand to just be still and quiet on the couch anymore. I need distractions and can’t relax enough to just nod off like I used to. I have just started on anti-depressants 2 days ago, and although apparently they take 2-6 weeks to work fully, I have noticed (and it may be the placebo effect, but I don’t really mind if it is or isn’t) that I feel more “above” my worries and pain. I am aware of it, and my feelings, but feel almost…sleepy, but not. Like it’s all a bit beneath me and I am peaceful and more relaxed. Thank god for that.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I've lost so much weight in the past month , that I practically need to get a new wardrobe... All my jeans are too loose now... Had the same problem 3 months ago, when he broke up with me for the first time. This time around it wasn't half as bad, though. The first time around, I couldn't eat anything for 3 days, then survived on 1 kitkat bar a day... even after we got back together (after a week), I still couldn't eat properly... I think I was too traumatized to be able to eat anything.
confusedfille Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 It's awful, but being a girl I'm trying to embrace the weight loss. I feel nauseous, too, but I've forced myself to eat so I don't pass out. Hang in there, we will survive
th90 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I didnt lose weight. I'm already underweight by alot. My BMI is about 17 only. No matter how much I eat I just couldnt gain weight. Probably due to my less dense bone mass thanks to my lactose intolerance and my milk phobia lol I think the only way for me is to get pregnant hah!
confusedfille Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I have just started on anti-depressants 2 days ago, and although apparently they take 2-6 weeks to work fully, I have noticed (and it may be the placebo effect, but I don’t really mind if it is or isn’t) that I feel more “above” my worries and pain. I am aware of it, and my feelings, but feel almost…sleepy, but not. Like it’s all a bit beneath me and I am peaceful and more relaxed. Thank god for that. My situation is a bit difference since I am currently abroad and don't have many friends, so I know it's coupled with homesickness, but I'm so tempted to try to get anti-depressants. At the same time, I'm scared of becoming dependant. My sister is visiting me in a few days, so I'm gonna wait it out. I'm glad they are working for you. My friend took some, too, and she described it the exact same way.
MyAngel Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Yeah, weight loss and break ups usually go hand in hand! I don't want to lose weight so I am trying to keep up with my food, plus I know I have to eat to stay healthy. Also: had stopped biting my nails for almost a year. I have bitten off 3 now. Laziness. I literally couldn't do any housework etc for 2 weeks. I didn't want to do anything.
LostOne1 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I lost about 20 pounds.. NOT good though. I think 10 pounds woulda been okay. I lost a lot of muscle I had too. So I basically have bveen working out all over again to develop everything. Sucks, but it gives me something to do a new goal I suppose. I have a free gym pass now for the next 4 months so I might as well use it. Will be using it tmrw.
Amelie1980 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I haven't improved over the last 7 weeks but then it was a drawn out break up.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 (edited) Here's mine! - major anxiety and panic attacks. - loss of appetite. - weight loss - under eye circles bags. You name it. - restless sleeping. With constant nightmares. - waking up early every morning regardless of when I sleep. - unable to sleep without TV turned on. - craziness. Where I'm unable to stop talking about him to people - unable to keep up conversation with others - cant concentrate at all - addicted even more to phone. Tryin to do ways to calm down. - Ly on the bed all day. Unable to move = unhealthy Edited January 14, 2013 by FailedFirstLove
todreaminblue Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Emotional instability,rapid weight loss becomes controlled after a while,loss of appetite, the shakes, anxiety, feelings of humiliation and shame.I deal with things a lot better than i used to.I don't know if it is from heartache or my mental illness or if normal people would stress with what i deal with. Dont know the definition of normal. Havent met a normal yet..so I just take it one day at a time .My hair goes grey when i stress, physically i go down hill when i stress out.I have miscarried in the past due to stress.I develop internal and external problems...so I try to keep on an even keel.I am uneven at the moment, but I am coping I know i am meant to cope, I have too, so I do...I have family and friends I need to cope for..they have more issues than I do, so I have to stay sane.I try not to dwell adn I try to get as much fresh air as possible.......deb.
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