Weirdest breakup in history!

[thoughtyouweretheone]

So I posted a little while ago about my breakup, and the guy who I thought was commitment phobic. I am fuming mad and really need to vent here. We were broken up for 5 weeks now and I went NC for 2 weeks solid after our break up. HE kept telling me he needed time, always jumped from one relationship to the next his whole 20's, and needed a break to be single and alone. After 2 weeks he msged me out of the blue to tell me he was leaving for Europe the next day for Christmas!! ALONE! I was like, WTF, really? I knew he had friends over there, but it was strange. BEing dumped over the Holidays sucks even more!! We dated for 2 years and I thought I was gunna marry this guy. He told me he wanted to at least!

 

SO I am obviously pissed off that he contacts me now. HE calls me and begs me for 2 hours to come over and see me before he leaves. I give in. I'm emotional, he makes the moves on me, stays the night and tells me everything I wanted to hear. I love you, I just need some time to do the things I wanna do, mayeb we can fix things in a few months, right girl wrong time...etc. I cut contact once again. He leaves for 10 days. msgs me on christmas eve saying he misses me, merry christmas. I write back merry christmas. No I miss you's.

 

He gets back and texts me the next day saying "I'm back safe if you even care, hope you had a good holiday". I didn't reply. He than called me the next day and told me how much he missed me, how he wanted to see me on New years. I said no, leave me alone. He agreed, but said ill probably call you anyway. We argued and hung up. New Years comes and he calls and texts me. I reply happy new year. we talk for a bit, he says he had a bad time cause he was missing me. The NEXT DAY, I go on Facebook, and see pics of him and another girl in Europe. We both deactivated our facebooks when we were dating, but somehow that day I just happened to go on there to look at others new years pics and there he was. She had tagged him in at least 10 snuggled up pictures of just the 2 of them. WTF. I was livid. I called him up and he kept telling me they were just friends. he met her when she was here visitiing the month before our breakup. Turns out he met her at the strip club he works at. SHES A STRIPPER!! totally blindsided. He was never the type to be into that kind of girl with tonnes of tattoos. HE even came back home with a giant tattoo of a women's face on his forearm that looked JUST LIKE HER!! OMG. When I saw it I was so upset. He clamied it wasnt her, but I found out recently it was because he's now dating her even thought she lives so far away. She changed her status on FB and I knew right away it was with him he just wouldnt admit it.

 

We talked a few times since and he would never fess up. he fed me bull**** about how he still loved me and wasnt into anyone else. I finally confronted him about it and he told me the truth tonight. they are dating!! after a few weeks. Why wouldnt he just tell me the truth? He didn't want to hurt me? bull****! he already did. I'm so angry. I was just starting to move on a bit with very LC, but I keep hearing more about the story and it stirs up old feelings. I am in shock, I feel like I knew who he was but he's showing a completely different character and I just can't believe it. Who is this person I spent 2 years of my life with? It's a total rebound and I know it won't last, but why would he lead me on and keep contact if he was with her the whole time? I feel like he downgraded big time! I'm an attractive girl, takes care of herself, and was an amazing GF. He always took me for granted. He will regret the day he ever left me. I know that for certain. What a LOSER!!!

[Missing Him]

He got a tattoo of her face?

 

Of course he'll regret it. He seems like the type that makes very bad decisions.

 

Cut all communication with him and move on. You're hurting now, but you'll breathe a huge sigh of relief in a few months when you realize what a bullet you dodged.

[MyAngel]

Wow. What a jerk. You think you know someone and then THIS happens as you realise you never knew them at all. You would feel awful right now. He has made a poor choice here and he will come to regret it. Make sure you're not waiting around for this idiot.

[FailedFirstLove]

Omg. What a messed up guy. I could not tell you enough why this guy is messed up and no time should be spent on him. It seems ridiculous. He just wanted two girls dangling on either arm. But since you found out. He only has that one. And a stripper as a gf? Umm please. How long would that last! Having your gf Danube and strip in front of 100 men a night...

[irene408]

this guy is a loser. but the good thing about your situation is that you'll be able to move on a lot quicker. i had the same experience with one of my ex and i was able to tell him to f off in just a few weeks after dating for 3 years. you're doing great!! he'll definitely regret it in the future and you know what? it's not your problem. consider him doing you a huge favor by leaving. you are way better off without him.

[LduKaZ]

He sounds like a pig. Trust me, there are way better men out there, this is coming from one of them. Try dating someone different next time, someone more relationship focused. Be thankful that he met HER, as she has possibly saved your life. Imagine yourself married to this pig, taking care of his children, while deep inside he has the urge to go and have affairs with strippers.

 

You sound like a wonderful girl! Keep on being who you are!

[thoughtyouweretheone]

I'm just in complete shock. This is a story for the archives. I never EVER would of expected any of this from the guy I knew. Blown away! However, logically, everything you're saying is 100% true, but it doesn't hurt any less. I can't help but think sometimes what am I missing? Was I boring? Was I too invested? But this is just insecurity talking. I will be appreciated for all that I have to give someday! I've never felt so hurt & betrayed in my whole existence. Things will only get better from here!