Lonely Ronin Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 This is more a question for the ladies, but guys feel free to answer as well. I have been considering old for a while now and when i was looking earlier today, I see some women who have huge must live within ranges. I live in a small city, and i noticed some women have ranges listed as 150, 200 or even 250 miles and this in on a website that lets you enter whatever yo want. Trying to start something with someone that far away seems really foreign to me, i mean even at highway speeds that's several hours away. Whats up with this? opinions?
tigressA Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 May just be that those people are more open to meeting someone further away because there are few prospects in their more immediate area. I know that I tend to meet overall better prospects outside my city. I think if I ever become really focused on meeting 'the one' that I will probably have to relocate.
MrCastle Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 LDR rarely works out, why even subject yourself to that sorta thing. Come to think of it, OLD itself rarely works out. Why subject yourself to any of it 1
D-Lish Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 For me? Not worth it. When I do a search on OLD, I keep it to 10 miles, lol. I don't have the time or inclination to start dating someone that I'd have to spend time in traffic- or in an airport, to get to. I've been there, done that, and it's exhausting to date someone that far away. It works for some people- but I'm not inclined to do it, and haven't been since I had a marriage that took my husband out of country for weeks at a time. That was a nightmare. I believe that people connect and can maintain relationships at a distance- but it's difficult, it's taxing- and it might be worth it for a lot of people- but it's not worth it for me. Not again.
Emilia Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Trying to start something with someone that far away seems really foreign to me, i mean even at highway speeds that's several hours away. Whats up with this? opinions? Foreign to me too. I always thought the idea of OLD was to meet a fair few people and hopefully one or two you will decently click with. How do you do that when they live hundreds of miles away? I suppose if I saw a profile like that I'd think he/she was looking for casual sex or wasn't serious about finding anyone
Anela Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 One guy had "everywhere" listed, because he travels for work - he was all over the place last year.
irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Wow, my timing is good....just posted this one.
irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 May just be that those people are more open to meeting someone further away because there are few prospects in their more immediate area. I know that I tend to meet overall better prospects outside my city. I think if I ever become really focused on meeting 'the one' that I will probably have to relocate. I have to agree, I pretty much emailed all the "prospects" within a 10 mile radius of my area, and not even get a response. Yes, they're still on the dating site, and yes, they'll continue to live the life of spinsterhood, so thus my reason to cast my net even wider geographically.
edgygirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I live in one of the largest cities and still am struggling to find the right guy. I don't really like the attitude of guys in my city, so I don't see any problem in expanding my search, and I have. Honestly I'd go to the moon for the right person. While it is true that it's not easy to make LD work, I think it's worth trying specially if you're in a small city and tried most prospects.
irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I live in one of the largest cities and still am struggling to find the right guy. I don't really like the attitude of guys in my city, so I don't see any problem in expanding my search, and I have. Honestly I'd go to the moon for the right person. While it is true that it's not easy to make LD work, I think it's worth trying specially if you're in a small city and tried most prospects. Yeah, in my city, I've seen some women on POF....probably a handful of average to attractive women I had already emailed...but no reply. The rest are more of the "Jerry Springer" guest candidates. lol OR people over 60.
Author Lonely Ronin Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Foreign to me too. I always thought the idea of OLD was to meet a fair few people and hopefully one or two you will decently click with. How do you do that when they live hundreds of miles away? I suppose if I saw a profile like that I'd think he/she was looking for casual sex or wasn't serious about finding anyone I thought about this, but I live in a city with a major college, if you want casual sex, you wouldn't have to travel hundreds of miles for it. It seems kind of baffling to me, as most of the women I noticed this with where very attractive & squared away, and probably had guys beating down the their doors.
Yellowteacup Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I met someone from NYC via the POF site a few years ago. I actually initiated the meeting after a week or two since OLD has a way of biting you in the behind if that person lives in a van down by the river. The meeting was a lot of fun, and I wound up spending the entire week in NYC. (Thank my lucky stars for friends living in the city!) When I returned home, we spoke about him visiting my city, etc. But his career depended on him traveling quite a lot, and keeping up with a LDR is tough. So we decided to be friends after a while. C'est la vie.
FitChick Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I don't care where Mr Right lives. LDRs weed out the serious from the timewasters (guys only looking for sex). Not for the emotionally needy, lazy or poor. 1
Author Lonely Ronin Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 I don't care where Mr Right lives. LDRs weed out the serious from the timewasters (guys only looking for sex). Not for the emotionally needy, lazy or poor. lol, I must make sure we never date....
Casablanca Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I wouldnt start trying to date someone who lives more than an hour away
LittleTiger Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 If you are looking for Mr/Ms 'Right' (aka someone special), as opposed to Mr/Ms 'Right Now' (aka someone to date) then it's worth looking 'everywhere'. Especially if your local pool of potential partners is small. I live out in the middle of the countryside. If I had said 10 mile radius only I would have been limiting myself to a handful of men over 70 or men of my own age who are already married. Instead I went to the other extreme and started a very successful LDR with someone on the other side of the world (12,000 miles). He is my best friend and soulmate and worth all the heartache and hassle of being apart so much. Thank goodness for the internet and OLD, otherwise we would never have met. :love: 2
MoreThanThat Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 All 4 relationships I have had since my marriage ended almost 9 years ago have been LDR. None were intentional, it just happened that way. None from OLD (never tried it). I can live anywhere since I can work from anywhere. Finding the right person for me is more important than location. As was mentioned LDR will weed out the less serious ones. But there are a lot of other issues which can make it difficult.
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