RavNouS Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I want to try and keep this as short as possible. I met this girl about a month ago during SantaCon festivities (Saturday all day drinking). We hung out all day and then ended up having sex at her place. she kicked me out afterwards, but we continued to text, etc. afterwards. She had nose surgery and was unable to do anything for 2 weeks. Fast forward to the past weekend and a half. We had our first real date last Friday which went very well (went bowling, tons of teasing, making out, etc.). She basically invited herself to my buddies wedding and asked me to go on a weekend trip with her & her friends in the next week or so. We meet up with my friends and wind up dancing/hooking up on the side the whole time. I try to get back to her place for a night cap and she shuts me down (says I'll have to see her a bit more before that happens again). The next night she invites me to a birthday party for her friend and I bring a few of my friends along. We meet up, go back to hooking up with each other as we move around a certain part of the city. I leave with her again and get to her front door where she shuts me down again. Our texting back and forth stays strong this whole time & she eventually says "#you'rejusttrytosleepwithme" in that exact fashion. I reply simply with "#notgoingtoletyoutakeadvantageofme". We met up again this past Tuesday at a local arcade, she was apparently locked out of her apartment and had just come from the dentist. We have a drink and chat for a while which goes pretty good, but she acts very standoffish (says she was tired). We play a few games which she was apparently excited for, but she had this bored look on her face the whole time (I could tell by her body language as well). I was actually nursing a new injury and not myself either (I have a confirmed chest wall contusion). So we cut it and walked to the train station together, where she proceeded to rush to catch her train and aimed to give me a peck on the cheek. I give her a kiss on the lips instead and say we'll talk again soon. We did not have a make out session or hold hands this time around, but I did put my hands on different parts of her body, etc. I was out with a friend at a basketball game Friday and decided to text her and see what she was up to. We went back and forth about a few different topics (I mentioned that I found out what was causing my pain, and that it affected me quite a bit Tuesday). We haven't texted/spoken since Friday and I'm afraid she thinks I'm only after sex (which I'm not, I think a long term relationship with her would be great). How should I proceed with this? Would telling her exactly how I feel about her be the best course of action here? She didn't pick up on my hints that I would like her to be more... Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
Author RavNouS Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Any ideas? Would love another perspective on this.
will1988 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 First off areas of your story are controdictory... like the part where you talk about the arcade and how it was fun and went well, but she looked bored. lol. So which is it? All nit-picking aside, it seems like you all were nothing more than a hook up/ fling and the fling has run its course. I'd say go NC, and see if she contacts you. If not, just move along. She seems like she is not interested any more, so why should you?
Author RavNouS Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 In the beginning conversation was going well and everything seemed fine. It was when we started playing the various games that she looked disinterested & bored. I had a feeling that would be the consensus, to me it just seems like silence confirms that I was only after sex when that wasn't/isn't the case. I'm going to wait and see if she reaches out to me and go from there. Thanks for the reply.
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