PerkyPenguin Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 (edited) Hi all, I hope you guys don't mind that I share a bit of my story and also to get some advice and opinions. Story: I was with my girl for 2 years. You can call it a long distance relationship as I needed 2 more years to finish my degree and finish up my bar examinations. To cut the story short, in 2012, she found out in my old ipod photos and videos of my ex and I. I totally forgot about the Ipod and it's contents, suffice to say, she was hurt. Like crying and stuff, saying that I promised never to hurt her and that that incident hurt her real bad. We managed to get over it and reconcile, after that I left back to finish my degree. Throughout the entire year, all was well, we talked, texted, exchanged pictures on a daily basis. I told her how I was sorry for leaving her alone and that I promised to come back accomplished to give her the life that we both promised each other. She did ask me whether I was going to marry her before. So all seemed fine and I concentrated on my studies Anyways, I graduated, finished my examinations and was offered a job at the national power company in their legal department doing compliance. Guess what ? I turned it down. I kinda regret my decision until today. Coming back to misery and sadness. So I came back on October'12, really excited to see her. She came to look for me after work and we decided to pick my cousin up from airport and go dinner together. Throughout the entire night, all seemed fine. She was holding my hand, the only time I realised something was wrong was when I wanted to kiss her and she turned her head away. So, after dinner she sent me home. Texted me saying she was at home, but by 12 midnight, she dropped the bomb saying we should just be normal friends. WHAT THE F.. I tried calling her and texting her but she seems to have either blocked me or removed the sim card. Facebook seemed the only solution to bring my message across, so I msged her there, and it took her days to reply saying that I have hurt her, and I never made it up with her after that incident, and that I disrespected her family when I turned down a family dinner she invited me to. That she could not keep living imagining what we could have been. I then decided to say what I needed to say in FB, apologised what I needed to apologise and decided to leave this city and go to another place to work. To get away from it all, not wanting any contact with her. I felt really gutted. I never felt like this before. I swear it was one of the worst feelings that I have ever experienced. I think I put too much emotion into it that is why I got it bad. Man was so stupid. After 2 months of no contact, I thought I will send her just a simple Christmas Card, she msgd my FB to thank me. So I replied that I will be in her city for 2 weeks for work and thought we should come out and to see how she is doing. No reply even after she saw my message. So just yesterday, it was my birthday. And to make matters worse, I got a friend who happens to work in a bank where this new admin guy told her that he is dating this girl for half a year, and guess what, it was my ex. Ouch! So I figured, before the break up, she was with this dude. That is when I decided to just delete her off facebook once and for all and all the private folders we had. Oh, just to let u guys know, she still keeps her 4 private folders of us even after the break up. It really made me feel that perhaps I could still win her back. Anyways, I deleted my folder of her. The thing is, now she FB message me wishing me Happy Birthday and Hoping I have a great one.... F! Seriously ? A great birthday ? But I have yet to respond. I dont even know should I even respond. Honesty, I was trying to separate emotional response and prudent response when I decided to delete her. Now her birthday is on the 1st of Feb, and I actually told myself I will only respond on her birthday to wish her Happy Birthday too. Advice/Opinion: So guys, do U think I am being petty by deleting her and subsequently ignoring her till her bday ? Edited January 14, 2013 by PerkyPenguin
MyAngel Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 No you are not being petty by deleting her from fb. She had another guy while you two were supposedly still together!! When I was reading your story, I felt something was a little off. That explains a lot... Sorry 1
Author PerkyPenguin Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Thanks for the reply. After the break up, she still kept the folders with our pictures in the four folders. Why would she do that ? Makes me start to wonder about a few of those folders that I can't see, but knowing their existence. I think she will delete the folders as I have defriended her and deleted my private folders to her. Is there like a collection of exes in her private folders? If so... OUCH man... that sucks. There are good memories, but I sure as hell don't want to be reminded of such good times and how abruptly it ended. Brutal!
MyAngel Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Well, I still have photos saved of my ex. I think it's normal to an extent. Although I don't sit and look at them, it's comforting to know they are there. Also, photos are memories of happy times. Just because it's not happy now, doesn't mean it was never happy. You know
Author PerkyPenguin Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 I agree with you. I do want to remember the good memories only, but currently, it will also remind me of the bad as the puzzles of this picture starts to assemble itself together. Just that maybe I am weak. Most of my guy friends laughed at me saying its my fault for putting too much emotion into the relationship and that this is the price I pay. Which is true, I never felt this bad with my other breakups before. This one hit me quite hard.
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