manders_01 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I watched this movie for the millionth time today and the big overarching theme is that if a man wants to be with you, he will do so. But then, of course, to make it a happy ending and to mirror at least a small fraction of real life, there are always exceptions and the woman putting herself out there changes the man's mind. I'm wondering if that exception is something that happens 1% of the time? 10% of the time? 25% of the time? And what causes the exceptions?
MrCastle Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I don't think female centric romcoms are a good indicator of real life relationships. If someone wants to be with you, they will be. Regardless of gender. No exceptions. 1
Phoe Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 ^^ I agree. If someone wants to be with you they will be. If they don't, they won't. Trying to analyze that 1% margin is depressing and not useful at all
Mrlonelyone Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 If I could give one bit of advice to all genetic born female women it would be this. Realize that males are all simple creatures when it comes to relationships. We say what we mean and mean what we say. If no promises are made no promises should be assumed (In other words X # of dates does not mean your a couple, having a relationship defining talk and getting that promise does.) Plus as has been said if a man likes you, then it won't matter how you act he will like you and tolerate you and even make excuses for a certain amount of bad behavior.
Treasa Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 If someone wants to be with you, they will be. Regardless of gender. No exceptions. Unless you obtain a restraining order. 1
Author manders_01 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 (edited) I don't think female centric romcoms are a good indicator of real life relationships. If someone wants to be with you, they will be. Regardless of gender. No exceptions. While the movie is what made me start thinking about it, I think the book was actually written from a less fictional standpoint. ^^ I agree. If someone wants to be with you they will be. If they don't, they won't. Trying to analyze that 1% margin is depressing and not useful at all Why is it depressing and not useful to wonder about something? I'm not wondering because it's a situation I'm currently in (though admittedly I have been). The movie, and somewhat in turn, the book, have just made me wonder. And since there are loads of men on a forum dedicated to relationships, I figured this was the best place to pose the question. Maybe it's not actually an answerable question but it at least merits input that those that are reading the thread can form their own opinions from. --- And also, my understanding of the "rule" is that if someone wants to be with you, they will, is that it's an immediate be together. I know people that have been exceptions to that "rule", I'm sure others know exceptions to that "rule". So I disagree, there are always exceptions. Edited January 14, 2013 by manders_01
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