evondavis1 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I am dying to contact the ex tonight and ask these questions! Are you happy now? Are you happy our family is now split up? Are you happy that your don't have to deal with me anymore? Are you happy with your new life? Are you happy that you married a stranger 6 weeks after we broke up? Are you happy that you got her pregnant by mistake? Are you happy that she is probably using you for a green card? Are you happy that you are on the verge of bankruptcy? Are you happy that your wife lives 3 hours away? Are you happy that you sleep alone in your bed? Are you happy that because of your choices, I decided to dissolve our business that we worked so hard for? Are you happy that I am a single mom now? Are you happy that you don't have to come home to me anymore? Are you happy that your whole family is upset with you? Are you happy that none of your friends are on your side? Are you happy that you married this stranger, and yet you were coming around and calling me and crying about our breakup? Are you happy you told me you married her because you were lonely, and you got more angry with me when the finances came out, and we are more broke than you thought. Are you happy to be living at your sisters house, with her husband, kids and dogs? Are you happy that my mom considers you dead in her eyes? Are you happy that we now have to share custody of our beautiful 3 year old son? Are you happy that you have to pay child support until he is 18? Are you happy that we have to split our weekends, and I can no longer go to our summer home, with my family, with my son. Are you happy with what you have done to me? Are you happy with your impulsivity? Are you happy?
FailedFirstLove Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I am dying to contact the ex tonight and ask these questions! Are you happy now? Are you happy our family is now split up? Are you happy that your don't have to deal with me anymore? Are you happy with your new life? Are you happy that you married a stranger 6 weeks after we broke up? Are you happy that you got her pregnant by mistake? Are you happy that she is probably using you for a green card? Are you happy that you are on the verge of bankruptcy? Are you happy that your wife lives 3 hours away? Are you happy that you sleep alone in your bed? Are you happy that because of your choices, I decided to dissolve our business that we worked so hard for? Are you happy that I am a single mom now? Are you happy that you don't have to come home to me anymore? Are you happy that your whole family is upset with you? Are you happy that none of your friends are on your side? Are you happy that you married this stranger, and yet you were coming around and calling me and crying about our breakup? Are you happy you told me you married her because you were lonely, and you got more angry with me when the finances came out, and we are more broke than you thought. Are you happy to be living at your sisters house, with her husband, kids and dogs? Are you happy that my mom considers you dead in her eyes? Are you happy that we now have to share custody of our beautiful 3 year old son? Are you happy that you have to pay child support until he is 18? Are you happy that we have to split our weekends, and I can no longer go to our summer home, with my family, with my son. Are you happy with what you have done to me? Are you happy with your impulsivity? Are you happy? Argh the temptation!!!! When will it end! I'm dying to ask him questions as well! Just to find out one thing: ARE YOU HAPPIER WITHOUT ME?
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 It doesn't matter how happy they are. It only matters how happy you can potentially be. It only matters that you see a value in yourself, not to worry about trash. It only matters that, for your sake and your kids, you find a peace and happiness. His answers just don't matter. They can add up. Some people don't care. Some are heartless. Best to not worry over their answer. It wouldn't fix anything... 2
mike588 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I had some...some of the same questions after my ex. dumped me. I know the pain you feel but in time this will pass...believe me it will.
Author evondavis1 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Well I have good news, and bad news. The bad news is after weeks of him trying to talk to me, especially when he drops/picks up our son, I broke and talked to him. Good news - he confessed he is not happy and miserable. The only reason he is happy is because he new wife is "cool", they don't fight. I said, you don't fight "YET" So the Grass is not always greener. He F'd up his life, my son's life, and his new wife's life. I will be fine. In fact, I have the design to create the life I want and truely think about what I want. He is stuck, I have no pity for him anymore. He is impulsive and selfish, and he gets what he deserves! I actually cried and was sad and depressed for weeks before this, and now I know. I know that I will be HAPPY again someday!
Author evondavis1 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 AND, no, he is not happier without me, told me he was happy with his old life with me, but I am starting to not care anymore.
Keenly Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 in your giant list of questions you certainly do a good job of not accepting any responsibility YOU might of had in the situation. You place all the blame squarely on him and everything that has happened is his fault while you play the victim. You are telling me you did NOTHING wrong ever at all, and that you were a perfect angel, and this big bad man came along and messed up your life? 1
weallfalldown Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 he'll prob just say yes to everything........leave it be...........awaken the dead, to become the haunted over and over......
Author evondavis1 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 in your giant list of questions you certainly do a good job of not accepting any responsibility YOU might of had in the situation. You place all the blame squarely on him and everything that has happened is his fault while you play the victim. You are telling me you did NOTHING wrong ever at all, and that you were a perfect angel, and this big bad man came along and messed up your life? Maybe if you knew my story, you wouldn't be so quick to judge me. My ex was an emotional abuser, actually diagnosed with ADHD and NPD. So until you know, don't judge.
weallfalldown Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 i swear half the population has been diagnosed with adhd, bi polar, manic this and that......wtf is the world coming to??????????????
weallfalldown Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 in your giant list of questions you certainly do a good job of not accepting any responsibility YOU might of had in the situation. You place all the blame squarely on him and everything that has happened is his fault while you play the victim. You are telling me you did NOTHING wrong ever at all, and that you were a perfect angel, and this big bad man came along and messed up your life? very true, women do tend to blame blame blame lol
Author evondavis1 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Did I ever say I was not to blame and perfect? I am not perfect, nobody is perfect. What you guys don't understand is that i was 1000000% committed to this man, my family, our home, our business. I was with this man for 7 years, who would not commit to me, because he was selfish and only thought about himself. He bought a boat last year, from our account, without telling me, or discussing. He was talking to other girls behind my back, he was doing drugs behind my back. He kept things behind my back. He bought 2 trucks without discussing it with me....do you see now? Do I have to defend myself to you guys, NO! so don't assume that all women are terrible. 7 years with a man, and no marriage, he used me out of convenience....why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free....see my point? He even told me he should have left me 5 years ago...do you see my point?
weallfalldown Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 i swear americans are the most greedy materialistic people.... some people are never happy.... just leave him be lady........head up. move on!!!
Author evondavis1 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Thank you, my head is almost there.....I am moving on, and I just hit a bump in the road. I am doing my best, and with that, I have to learn not to care about this man, who clearly could give 2 poops about me and our son. don't forget, he left our son to!
weallfalldown Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Its a dog eat dog world........and remember plenty of women do the same.... We're all to blame.......nuke us all lol...
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