Tech_Guy1752 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Here’s the situation…Me and this Woman started talking about 3 months ago. The attraction was there right off the bat. The company was good, the conversation was good, and with both of us in our early 40s, we both agreed we don’t want to waste a lot of time. But at the same time, we don’t want to jump into anything. Well, my example on how to treat a Woman comes from my Dad. My parents have been married for 47 years. My dad still buys my Mom flowers to this day. Anyway, I’m a romantic. So I’ve bought this Woman flowers, candy, etc. And because I don’t want to “waste time” I told her that I was attracted to her not long after we started talking. However, she hasn’t definitively expressed any feelings towards me. She has gotten “jealous” about other Women talking to me on Facebook, but that’s still not a profession of feelings. She also questioned if I was “with anybody” on New Year’s Eve. I know she likes me. But I want her to say it. Or at least show it. She owns a tax preparation business, and this is the time of year when things get really busy for her. So what I did was I told her this, “Look, I know we both have these “walls” up & neither one of us just wants to jump into anything. But I’ve told you I feel. You told me you won’t tell me how you feel but I think that beautiful smile you’ve been giving me says it all. Maybe I’m wrong. I don’t know. What I do know is things are about to get really busy for you at your job. So I’m going to back up and give you some room and time to think. You know where I stand and you know how to find me if and when you’re ready. Whether I hear from you or not, either way, it’ll tell me everything I need to know.” It’s only been a few days and I do want to give her some time like I told her I would. See, I believe in chivalry and I believe the Man is supposed to “chase” the Woman. But I don’t want to waste my time or hers if she doesn’t want to be caught. So I have a few questions…Do I cut off the flower deliveries until I hear from her? Do I stop the “Good morning” and “How’s your day going?” texts? How do I back off and let her come to me, so to speak, without giving her the impression I'm not interested???
Ssand2 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 So you haven't heard from her since you told her that? I think I would send flowers with a thinking of you note. If you don't get a response, move on. Hope it works out. You sound like a great guy!
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