MorganJ Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I was friends with this girl all through school, and for as long as I can remember I had a huge crush on her, but never told her. After graduation we ended up losing contact and went 15 years before we found each other on Facebook. She lives in a different state now, but came back for Christmas. We ended up getting together a few times while she was up here and still got along great. There is definitely mutual attraction between us, and since she went home, we've been texting or talking on the phone almost every day. While she was her, I revealed I had always had a crush on her in school, which completely surprised her since she never had any idea. The thing is, now that we are back in contact, I'm realizing I still like her. Neither one of us have changed much since school, so it was very easy for me to get a new crush on her. All throughout those 15 years of no contact with each other, I would sometimes think about her. She would pop into my head at the most random times, for no reason at all. I always wondered if things would be different if I had ever asked her out. I always told myself that I wouldn't miss another opportunity with this girl if I ever got a chance. So now I have a chance, but I'm not sure if I should just come out and tell her I still like her and would like to maybe eventually be more than friends or just let it work itself out. Part of me says to wait and let everything work itself out. But another part of me doesn't want to wonder anymore. If she wasn't interested, or made things awkward, at least I wouldn't have to wonder anymore. And the distance is making everything more complicated for me. We're about 600 miles apart now, but I'm planning a move down to her area by the end of the year. This move has been planned for a while. To me, it just seems like everything is finally lining up for me to have a chance with the girl of my dreams. I need some advice. Do I come out and tell her how I've always felt about her and risk pushing her away? Or keep quiet and see what happens, possibly causing me to continue wondering about what might have been?
snowangel77 Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 How did your plans to move closer to her come about? If she was involved, i say shes interested.
KraftDinner Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Naw, don't say anything. Just let another 15 years go by. YES, tell her. 1
CC12 Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 I always told myself that I wouldn't miss another opportunity with this girl if I ever got a chance. Then you have to do something. YOU HAVE TO. Do I come out and tell her how I've always felt about her and risk pushing her away? Or keep quiet and see what happens Do not just come out and tell her you still like her and would like to be more than friends. That can make things weird. Let your feelings be known by playfully flirting with her a little and making it clear that you are interested and attracted to her. Keep it fun and light. Don't just treat her like your platonic best friend like you did all those years ago. That doesn't work. Flirt. Be fun. If she seems receptive or flirts back, ask her to go on a date with you. Also, please stop thinking of her as the girl of your dreams. That puts a lot of pressure on this one person, this one interaction. Remember that this is a person you knew 15 years ago and she lives far away from you now. 1
Author MorganJ Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 How did your plans to move closer to her come about? If she was involved, i say shes interested. This move has been planned for a while, since before we met again. It just happens to be to an area that is a lot closer to where she lives. We'd be about 2 hours apart, rather than 700 miles apart. She seemed really excited about the possibility of me moving closer to her.
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