Sun Devil Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 People have described me as a person who shows no emotion. I know that in order to get a girl to love you, you have to emotionally connect with them. How do you do that?
ThaWholigan Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Learn about your emotive process. You are autistic like me, so this is important that you learn all you can about yourself in terms of emotions, and learn more about empathy. Identifying with other people and what they are thinking and feeling. Understanding them. When you talk to a woman, be genuinely interested in her as an individual person and what she's about, as opposed to just a means to get a GF. 1
DC4 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 You have it backwards. Its the woman's job to emotionally connect to a man. As a man its your job to stimulate sexual attraction. Women bond emotionally to men through sex.. then from that point on.. the woman needs to seduce the man into loving her. You cannot be serious. 2
Feelin Frisky Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 People have described me as a person who shows no emotion. I know that in order to get a girl to love you, you have to emotionally connect with them. How do you do that? It's not a formula that can be said to work the same way on everyone. Your lack of overt emotionality may be seen by some as a mysterious attribute and getting emotion out of you a suspenseful want. What you need to do is develop sensitivity to wants and needs. The prescription for what to do once you "sense" someone else's wants and needs vary. There is no one-size-fits all way. Some women may take you as a rock of dependability in your manner while others may think you heartless if not mindless as well. Therefore, you have to understand that each human being is unique including yourself and therefore consciously want to share your experiences of this unique life with each other on an intimate level. How to do that will always depend on the manner of your partner--whether she likes you for your apparent command of temperament or likes you because you commit kind acts without seeking public validation for it. Just what do you feel? And can you get anyone to care? Or will you attract someone entirely needful and not even sensitive to your vulnerabilities? It's a complex life with lots of potentials and you can do everything right and still get you heart broken. Start by valuing that your not a bag of fears and insecurities. Figure yourself out and work on your sensitivity to others as partners in experience. Good luck. Don't miss the show.
phineas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 It takes months of sex & intimacy Plus treating me as good as I treat her for me to form an emotional bond to a woman. At least a yr of that for it to be a strong bond.
carhill Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Listen..... Bonus points if revelations trigger the emotional memory recording process and you can proactively touch back upon them later in a naturally and comfortably caring way. IME, it's easy to connect emotionally with women; the hard part is inciting desire for them to emotionally connect with you, where your revelations matter to them. Big difference. When I talk about a woman letting you love her, that's what I'm talking about. Good luck. 1
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 It takes months of sex & intimacy Plus treating me as good as I treat her for me to form an emotional bond to a woman. At least a yr of that for it to be a strong bond. No disrespect, but dude! Really?! You must be suppressing for some reason?
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Barring any personality disorder, emotional connect is natural and organic. It is formulated and if you have to ask and discover some formula for it, i'd be worried. 1
phineas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 No disrespect, but dude! Really?! You must be suppressing for some reason? Why? Because I don't fall in love with women quickly?
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 People have described me as a person who shows no emotion. I know that in order to get a girl to love you, you have to emotionally connect with them. How do you do that? You have the order wrapped around. Emotionally connect with them after they are physically attracted to you. Or after you are able to get them into you somehow else. Emotional connection on your end and nothing on their end is a recipe for disaster.
soccerrprp Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Why? Because I don't fall in love with women quickly? No. this thread is about emotional connection. Not necessarily love. Do mske an emotional connection?
phineas Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 No. this thread is about emotional connection. Not necessarily love. Do mske an emotional connection? Has emotional connection been defined? Because emotional connection = caring deeply for a woman which is love to me.
Author Sun Devil Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 What I am trying to ask is how to get a girl to become attracted to me emotionally. I know that girls are emotional and using it can be helpful. I need some tips
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 What I am trying to ask is how to get a girl to become attracted to me emotionally. I know that girls are emotional and using it can be helpful. I need some tips Cocky, funny, walking into the place like you own it, acting like a total d@uchebag, making fun of other men. Basically showing alpha traits. It might backfire, but if you're a nice guy and not attracting any women now, what do you have to lose?
Author Sun Devil Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 I might as well give it a try
ThaWholigan Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I might as well give it a try Probably not a good idea.
Author Sun Devil Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Why would it be a bad idea. I am getting nowhere despite having a social life. Alot of girls have told me that I am a nice guy, but they did not want to date me.
ThaWholigan Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Why would it be a bad idea. I am getting nowhere despite having a social life. Alot of girls have told me that I am a nice guy, but they did not want to date me. Being a jerk may backfire on you spectacularly. You can't just start being an obnoxious prick out of the blue one day. If you want to get a little bit of edge, then just start to have more boundaries and be a little bolder with what you say and do. That doesn't mean be a dick.
Violet11 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 You can't have an emotional connection with everyone. Do you care at all for her? Specifically her and not just women in general? Do you see that she has feelings for you? Do you go out and build experiences together? That's how you start to build a connection, not just pretend to have one to get her...
SJC2008 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 IMO most realtionships lack emotional intimacy so I wouldn't worry about it. Now showing no emotion is another story. Can you give us more details? Do you laugh? Do you look mad when you're mad? I wear my heart on my sleeve! Meaning you can tell what mood I'm in by how I look. It's just the way I am.
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