irc333 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 This ad kills me, of course I won't post it, but she's been updating her pictures with a professional looking "collage" of posed bikini photos at the beach or at a grotto, or anther one where she's wearing a blouse bearing deep cleavage "real housewives of L.A." style. Then complains about how she gets sexual comments and even defense herself "I know I wear a bikini in a lot of my photos, but doesn't mean I'm desperate" "Of course it does, hon" Then she goes on about the paritculars how the guy that contacts her should have a full head of hair, must be 5'10" and be of only Latin background (but he MUST have grown up in the US and and speak proper English) It's hard to believe that some of these people can actually HEAR themselves? 4
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 My best friend does that all the time she posts half naked pics of herself on FB then complains that guys just wanna screw her I just sit there and am like "-_-" 2
Samilia Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 This ad kills me, of course I won't post it, but she's been updating her pictures with a professional looking "collage" of posed bikini photos at the beach or at a grotto, or anther one where she's wearing a blouse bearing deep cleavage "real housewives of L.A." style. Then complains about how she gets sexual comments and even defense herself "I know I wear a bikini in a lot of my photos, but doesn't mean I'm desperate" "Of course it does, hon" Then she goes on about the paritculars how the guy that contacts her should have a full head of hair, must be 5'10" and be of only Latin background (but he MUST have grown up in the US and and speak proper English) It's hard to believe that some of these people can actually HEAR themselves? I don't think it means she's desperate no, but she should definitively expect comments and she very well knows what she's going. Why else would she post a pic of herself in bikini? .. I agree, if you don't want the comments, don't post the pics for everybody to see. 1
charlietheginger Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Lots a women who fluant their bodies around Half naked are far from desperate. In fact Hot women who show alot of clevage get a lot Of attention and men all over them be it bars Gyms parks.
Mr.White Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 They are attention seekers. Nothing less, but most likely more then just attention seekers. 1
Author irc333 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 I don't think it means she's desperate no, but she should definitively expect comments and she very well knows what she's going. Why else would she post a pic of herself in bikini? .. I agree, if you don't want the comments, don't post the pics for everybody to see. What's ironic is, she sounds rather intelligent, in the medical profession and is highly athletic One pic of her is in a skimpy running outfit , mirror pic...before she heads to the Marathon. Granted, I would imagine she's one of VERY few women in the crowd at the starting line, while other women are wearing baggy T-shirts and shorts...and they're all giving her the EVIL eye. LOL And of course, she might come in first place, while all the male marathon runners stay behind her.
Treasa Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 What do you mean by skimpy running outfit? When I do races I'm not wearing a bikini, but if it's hot out, I'm wearing a tank top or something that's fairly thin and clingy, and usually wearing shorts that are also not loose. Wind drag or anything slowing me down sucks. 2
Treasa Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 If she's highly athletic, maybe she's just proud of the work she's put into her body. I dunno. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 What's ironic is, she sounds rather intelligent, in the medical profession and is highly athletic One pic of her is in a skimpy running outfit , mirror pic...before she heads to the Marathon. Granted, I would imagine she's one of VERY few women in the crowd at the starting line, while other women are wearing baggy T-shirts and shorts...and they're all giving her the EVIL eye. LOL And of course, she might come in first place, while all the male marathon runners stay behind her. So lets see, you first complain about women who wear skimply outfits then get mad at having nothing but sexual comments. Then you make a comment about women in baggy clothes and how they are probably giving another woman the "evil eye" simply because she has skimply clothes on and how all the men are drooling after her. So lets see, this seems to be a thread about putting women down no matter what. By the way, you do realize that men have agency over their own choices right? That just because a woman wears a skimpy outfit that doesn't justify overt sexual invitations right? What are we, stuck back in 1800 where a woman couldn't show an ankle without her being held reponsible for the male response? How about taking responsibility for your own choices? I bet there are men that saw her profile and didn't feel the need to make a comment to her and moved ont to the type of women that would better fit his ideal. I also think it's pretty crappy that you purposely attempted to paint a scene where you are pitting women against women with glee for male attention. You seemed to be very entertained by this scene. That is a scene *you* painted in your head. You have no idea what baggy clothes women are thinking. No offense but us women have a lot going on in our lives that go beyond having to be jealous of other women dressed more skimpy. We have mothers who might be going through uncertain futures, sibilings that might be suffering from medical issues, fathers that might be dealing with addictions, friends that lean on us and our own issues. We are not all jealous of each other simply because some women wear less clothes. Stop painting false pictures of women being mean to each other because you get some weird entertaining pleasure out of it. 4
Author irc333 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 So lets see, you first complain about women who wear skimply outfits then get mad at having nothing but sexual comments. Then you make a comment about women in baggy clothes and how they are probably giving another woman the "evil eye" simply because she has skimply clothes on and how all the men are drooling after her. So lets see, this seems to be a thread about putting women down no matter what. By the way, you do realize that men have agency over their own choices right? That just because a woman wears a skimpy outfit that doesn't justify overt sexual invitations right? What are we, stuck back in 1800 where a woman couldn't show an ankle without her being held reponsible for the male response? How about taking responsibility for your own choices? I bet there are men that saw her profile and didn't feel the need to make a comment to her and moved ont to the type of women that would better fit his ideal. I also think it's pretty crappy that you purposely attempted to paint a scene where you are pitting women against women with glee for male attention. You seemed to be very entertained by this scene. That is a scene *you* painted in your head. You have no idea what baggy clothes women are thinking. No offense but us women have a lot going on in our lives that go beyond having to be jealous of other women dressed more skimpy. We have mothers who might be going through uncertain futures, sibilings that might be suffering from medical issues, fathers that might be dealing with addictions, friends that lean on us and our own issues. We are not all jealous of each other simply because some women wear less clothes. Stop painting false pictures of women being mean to each other because you get some weird entertaining pleasure out of it. You do indeed have a flare for the dramatic. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 You do indeed have a flare for the dramatic. Maybe a little..... *sheepish smile* But I sincerely mean what I say!
xxoo Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Around here, running in a jog bra and small shorts is normal. If I were going to post a pic of me going to a race in the summer, that would be the outfit. She would fit right in at the starting line. You've got some very odd ideas about runners and races 3
Author irc333 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 Around here, running in a jog bra and small shorts is normal. If I were going to post a pic of me going to a race in the summer, that would be the outfit. She would fit right in at the starting line. You've got some very odd ideas about runners and races not really, most of my friends ar marathon runers...they have jog bra on, but they have a T-shirt over it...they do wear spandex shorts, but their shirt is so long, it overs the majority of their backside. Not revealing any skin except their legs.
aed Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 This ad kills me, of course I won't post it, but she's been updating her pictures with a professional looking "collage" of posed bikini photos at the beach or at a grotto, or anther one where she's wearing a blouse bearing deep cleavage "real housewives of L.A." style. Then complains about how she gets sexual comments and even defense herself "I know I wear a bikini in a lot of my photos, but doesn't mean I'm desperate" "Of course it does, hon" Then she goes on about the paritculars how the guy that contacts her should have a full head of hair, must be 5'10" and be of only Latin background (but he MUST have grown up in the US and and speak proper English) It's hard to believe that some of these people can actually HEAR themselves? its because the 'wrong' type of guys make those comments. When a guy will make the same comment she is attracted to she wont complaine 1
xxoo Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 not really, most of my friends ar marathon runers...they have jog bra on, but they have a T-shirt over it...they do wear spandex shorts, but their shirt is so long, it overs the majority of their backside. Not revealing any skin except their legs. Sounds like 1995 These days, we shop at lululemon. Nice bodies and small clothes aren't uncommon at a race!
StanMusial Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I've seen a few extremely skimpy outfits at races. I think the younger generation is definitely more likely to dress really skimpy. Of course they can get away with it lol. I did a 5K this past fall and one girl had a tiny, almost bikini-like outfit on. Mostly it is t-shirts and shorts though. In regard to the lady in the OP, she is probably know she looks good and she wants to broadcast this via the internet. She gets even more attention by smacking down the sexual comments. So it's win-win.
Treasa Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 not really, most of my friends ar marathon runers...they have jog bra on, but they have a T-shirt over it...they do wear spandex shorts, but their shirt is so long, it overs the majority of their backside. Not revealing any skin except their legs. Ick, I just can't run like that. Especially longer races. And I hope for their sakes that the t-shirts aren't made of cotton. Cotton is BAD for running. 1
bodhesatva Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I won't get in to all the particulars of this debate (it depends on the woman, and on the context, results may vary, etc.) but I do want to point out the difference between taking lots of bikini photos -- especially posed bikini photos -- and simply wearing a bikini, or a thin t-shirt, or what have you. The difference is this: posed bikini photos really have very little explanation other than, "Look at me! I'm sexy!" By contrast, simply wearing a bikini or a thin t-shirt may actually have other explanations. Simple ones, at that, like "it's really hot outside" or "I'm meeting a guy for a date." So if a girl happens to wear a skimpier outfit, I don't think we should say "she's just asking for the attention," which is an argument some men make. If she's got boobs and it's hot outside, what is a girl supposed to do? Wear a parka just to help you keep your testosterone in check? On the flip side, if a girl starts taking sexy/glamour shots of herself in that bikini or deep necked shirt, then that explanation just doesn't make much sense anymore. At that point, if you go out of your way to pose sexy for a photo, you're obviously looking for attention and other more practical explanations no longer fly. 2
Author irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Oh, believe you me....if you've ever seen one of those "Venus Swimwear" magazines....her photos are along the lines of that, she must've put up 3 or 4 of those, mixed in with a couple of photos of her holding a 10 dollar cosmopolitan drink at a high scale lounge. These weren't the standard, "I'm hanging out on the pontoon boat with my friends" or "chillin' by the pool", where she just so happened to be out in the appropriate venue for the occasion/event. These were high resolution, professionally done photos. I've even seen one of a woman in sexy lingerie, she had some nice photos, but she had 2 photos of her in nighys' "Bourdoir" photos (not sure of the spelling) It's like these women went to a professional photographer, and said "I'd like some bikini/lingerie photos taken of me" (But she'll leave out the part, "I'm doing this for my online dating profile" to save herself the embarassment, lol) It looks like they had done up these photos specifically FOR the dating site. I won't get in to all the particulars of this debate (it depends on the woman, and on the context, results may vary, etc.) but I do want to point out the difference between taking lots of bikini photos -- especially posed bikini photos -- and simply wearing a bikini, or a thin t-shirt, or what have you. The difference is this: posed bikini photos really have very little explanation other than, "Look at me! I'm sexy!" By contrast, simply wearing a bikini or a thin t-shirt may actually have other explanations. Simple ones, at that, like "it's really hot outside" or "I'm meeting a guy for a date." So if a girl happens to wear a skimpier outfit, I don't think we should say "she's just asking for the attention," which is an argument some men make. If she's got boobs and it's hot outside, what is a girl supposed to do? Wear a parka just to help you keep your testosterone in check? On the flip side, if a girl starts taking sexy/glamour shots of herself in that bikini or deep necked shirt, then that explanation just doesn't make much sense anymore. At that point, if you go out of your way to pose sexy for a photo, you're obviously looking for attention and other more practical explanations no longer fly.
Aedra Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 This type of woman constantly wants attention, but only from men she thinks meets her standards. Of course she will deny that, but she feels validated when many men hit on her. 1
grkBoy Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I won't call her "desperate", but more "unrealistic". This reminds me of women who put on the skimpiest outfit, go to the trashy nightclub full of horny drunk guys, and then complain how all the guys look and treat her like a piece of meat. I AM NOT one of the people who looks at rape and thinks "well, look at what she was wearing..." However, I also feel that one should know better than to dress up like a tasty chicken and then walk into a lion's den. It's like someone wearing expensive jewelry, clothes, and constantly showing off an expensive phone...but they decide to walk through a bad neighborhood. In terms of OLD, it's the same thing. Women have known that looking good and especially showing skin will lead to lewd emails. So if one is seeking a guy who sees her mind/heart and not just her looks, then she should present herself in that way. Lord knows you can look good and still not look like a tasty chicken in the lion's den. 2
Author irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Right, even a some what decent guy might not directly say something vulgar, but he might give some kind of subtle innuendo or implied sexual, subtle remark about what he's seeing in the picture.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I'd rather talk about all the men that look at pornography and naked pictures of women or oggle nearly naked women on the street and enjpy it all but then complain and want to demean a woman who has a great figure who puts it out there in her own dating life. What business is it of yours how a woman dresses? What does your judgements and comments on her really do in teh grand scheme things? What is your goal by implying women that dress a certain way don't deserve respect of that men can't be held accountable for their own actions? So much judgement on women on this site.
Author irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 I'd rather talk about all the men that look at pornography and naked pictures of women or oggle nearly naked women on the street and enjpy it all but then complain and want to demean a woman who has a great figure who puts it out there in her own dating life. What business is it of yours how a woman dresses? What does your judgements and comments on her really do in teh grand scheme things? What is your goal by implying women that dress a certain way don't deserve respect of that men can't be held accountable for their own actions? So much judgement on women on this site. I judge their actions, not them.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 You aren't judging their actions. You are judging how they dress. You don't know anything about them. You don't know if they gave up their time to help a sick parent. You don't know if they donated money to a friend's sick child. You don't know if the voluenteer at the animal shelter. You know absoluetly nothing about them. Then you further have the aducity to make comments about how women that wear baggy clothes are probably jealous of these women. And why? What is the point? So you can feel superior?
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