New here. Separated 13 months with divorce coming.

[CityMouseCountryMous]

Married 7 years. Lived in the city. Wife moved baçk home to the country 13 months ago. I followed 9 months ago.We have had no contact except regarding kids (5&2 year old boys). Despite no contact I am still the reason for her woes, I'm applying through the court to change my status from separated to divorced this week. I'm sad and wish we could work on the marriage. When I try to talk to her she says "I'm probably never talking to u again in my life, if u want a divorce get it." This is pretty much my last ditch effort hoping someone can sell me a magical makeover so she can see I'm a good guy, but I'm pretty sure it's over. Any advice?

[ataloss8270]

My advise would be to start talking to her as a friend, you can't have a relationship if your not eachothers best friend. Instead of talking to her about where she is at in the relationship when you do call her, just make small happy talk. Leave all relationship issues behind you for a while. Let it go like that for a while and see where things go. There really is no magical Makeover for saving a marriage, because all relationships and individuals are different. Its going to be hard for you because you are so far apart. But it makes me wonder where she is at if she only filed for legal separation. Do you know why she left? Was there abuse?