cottom Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 My first Gf was my first love, we were together for 2 years and in the end with me at university and work 6-7 days a week there was not much new exciting things we could do. We always just came to my house and sat watched a film for a few hours then she would go. She then left me for somebody else that looked just like me but with no outside commitments (he failed everything so was just sat at home doing nothing 24/7). Next Gf was a 2 month thing we both used it as a rebound really, she just came out of a relationship and so did i from prior paragraph. After 2 months she left me for her ex and i was happy to say bye because she really wasnt what i wanted, never said anything or thought about her again. Then my last Gf came into my life, she was in an abusive relationship, and we would text till 3/4am every morning. She then left her Bf and got with me and we were together for 2 years. This girl and I really connected, we were amazing together, better than the previous ones and we did all knew things together and hardly ever argued. Then she went to her university (local) and we saw each other once a week, i would go round to her apartment and help her with work or sit on her laptop watching catch up TV. We got bored and then other boys started texting her and flirting and making her feel good which i wasnt at the time, one of these looked a lot like me but seemed to be making her feel happy about herself. Then one day we had an argument and i had to go up north, i walked out of her apartment and wouldnt hug her or say bye and didnt speak for a few days. In this time she had met up with this boy that looked like me and flirted and decided she liked him also. She left me stating "she didnt know what she wanted and that she wants to be alone to work it out" all the time she was meeting this other boy she liked. They are together in uni lessons and they have the same friend group and they live in the same building so he is always there wherever she goes 24/7. So basically she left me for a kid that looks like me but was a representative of qualities i dont have right now. This was 3 weeks ago and i havent seen her in persno since i went up north, in that time she started off texting how she loves me and would do anything to make us work, then a week later she misses me and shes confused what she wants and we are on a break, then a week later she loves me but she doesnt love me, then a week later she doesnt want to know me I realised all girls will do this, they can say they love you but there is always somebody better than you out there, you will lack qualities another guy may have and she will get used to your good qualities and leave you for this other guy. Life is lonely when your single but when you in love it will always screw you over.
Mr.White Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Please use the grammar you should have learn in college to break up your huge paragraph. From your title it seems like you gave up all hope because of one girl. I can tell you the obvious, that is the DUMBEST thing you can do. So you will base one view of all women based on a woman? This is like when little girls say all men are jerks.
Zammo25 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I have made an oath to never give my heart again as it is not worth the pain when it goes wrong anymore. Coming to terms with life on my own for the rest of my time now. It is hard and I hate the weekends the most. Remembering the special time of Saturday evening and Sunday, our time which Mr Wonderful is now enjoying and she really doesn't care or give a f*ck if I were alive or dead now.
Zammo25 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Thanks for that. I re-married at 53..... Pleased for you but you don't know why or how I could never get someone again or indeed keep them as my track record shows.
Mr.White Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 There will always be people out there that accept you for who YOU are. If someone does not accept you because of that then screw them. You have a negative mindset which is prohibiting you from even having a chance with another person. A positive mindset will be followed by a positive attitude, and with this positive you can attract woman. Think of them as a negative charge to your new positive thinking, they will simply be attracted to it. A track record is not something stamped to your forehead, it can be brought up at a later time.
stevie_23 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 My partner's mother is 75 and got married (for the 3rd time) last October to her new husband who is 72. It's NEVER too late, no matter who you are or your history.
carhill Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Life is lonely when your single but when you in love it will always screw you over. Giving up on relationships completely can be liberating. I'd suggest, at your young age, to wait a bit before coming to that decision. When you feel that life isn't lonely when you're single would be a better time to make such a decision, IMO. Good luck.
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