bwilder Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I met a guy online and we've gone out casually a few times... I started seeing someone for a bit, and the online guy and I still met up for coffee, lunch- plutonically. So I'm back to being single, and we still hang out. I found out that he was interested in me, like as far as dating, which honestly I didn't know that, I thought we were just friends, although I find him attractive too. I just was kind of happy the way things were. So he tried to kiss me and i freaked out a little bit, but we were fine afterwards and then a week later i smooched him and we made out for a bit. Nothing too scandalous. So the next day or so we talk about it, and he wants to not do that anymore, make out that is. He wants to take it slower and not rush into anything... so maybe we just dial it back a bit. He's a self proclaimed "player", and is still probably making out (and whatnot) with other girls. And I think he's afraid of hurting me and/or going to fast? I can tell he likes spending time with me, just doing regular stuff. He says he's still interested, but I don't know if he's just trying to let me down easy. Is he just not that into me, in a romantic way? What gives? It's like friends without benefits...which i am so good at...until i know you're interested, then I want to move forward, although I do appreciate a slow progression. I'm confused and trying to go back to friend mode, but I'm finding it isn't so easy. I can't imagine any man turning down the prospect of sex...unless they are just not interested. Right?
MrCastle Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Self proclaimed player? Nobody is self-proclaimed anything. If you have to proclaim it yourself, you're not.
Author bwilder Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Self proclaimed player? Nobody is self-proclaimed anything. If you have to proclaim it yourself, you're not. I understand what you're saying. I think it's a bit of semantics though... Basically the dude is into getting with the ladies (whether its a lot or a little, I dunno, but I think he's saying he like his freedom to try to do so, at least for the moment). He wasn't going around announcing it, it just came up while we were talking... that he might be considered as such. I hate that term, "player". Anyway, thanks for reading and for the reply. I was reading from another thread...guys are usually pretty simple, in terms of they generally say what they mean... I'll try to go with that.
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