mesmerized Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Give out a lot of compliments, tons of sweet talking just to get laid? I wonder how common it is for men to lie extensively for the sole purpose of having sex with a girl. By what I now remember, the only extremely sweet talker I've had turned into a long term relationship. Now there is another guy who kind of acts the same but responds to my texts late and just does not act reliable. I'm almost pretty sure he is full of it and cannot be trusted. Could he really be genuine?
EasyHeart Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Give out a lot of compliments, tons of sweet talking just to get laid? Oh good gravy. Yes, yes, YES!!! 3
Author mesmerized Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 Oh good gravy. Yes, yes, YES!!! See, in my case, guys have mostly been on the moderate side. I get compliments often, It's more the constant "I miss you" etc that makes me wonder. How can you miss someone you barely know or hung out with?
monicaelise Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Give out a lot of compliments, tons of sweet talking just to get laid? I wonder how common it is for men to lie extensively for the sole purpose of having sex with a girl. By what I now remember, the only extremely sweet talker I've had turned into a long term relationship. Now there is another guy who kind of acts the same but responds to my texts late and just does not act reliable. I'm almost pretty sure he is full of it and cannot be trusted. Could he really be genuine? Do you really need to ask? I love men but come on, we all know things come out of their mouths in the pursuit of sex that they absolutely do not genuinely feel/mean (other than maybe at that very nanosecond). I don't think it's intentional deception in most cases. Hormones just seem to take over and retardedness ensues. Spare yourself the agony of actually mulling this over. 1
BehindBlueEyes Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Give out a lot of compliments, tons of sweet talking just to get laid? I wonder how common it is for men to lie extensively for the sole purpose of having sex with a girl. They do it all the time here on LS in threads... 2
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 In a new relationship, tell her that I miss her, compliment her, etc. and want to have sex with her...ah, but i'm also very interested in her. Looking for a LTR and we talk daily. Again, we TALK daily and see each other as often as we can. I've already made it known that I want to have sex with her, so put it out there upfront and let her determine what i'm about. Gosh, just my way of saying...who knows for certain what this guy wants? Could want only sex, could be genuinely interested in you AND it could be combination of both....
ThaWholigan Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 If he isn't consistent then he probably isn't genuine. Yeah, there's quite a few guys who will sweet-talk their way into a girls panties if they can
Author mesmerized Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 If he isn't consistent then he probably isn't genuine. Yeah, there's quite a few guys who will sweet-talk their way into a girls panties if they can as I've already told you, he just doesn't seem like the type that is desperate enough to do that but he most likely is
suladas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Never I very rarely give compliments to a girl and if I do it's the truth and not just trying to get into their pants. Just not something I do at all. 1
EasyHeart Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Look, men lie. We lie all the time. The hornier we are, the more we lie. Until we get to know you. Once we know you and like you, then we'll care too much about you to lie. That's why it's in your best interest to get to know a guy before sleeping with him. It's not all that complicated.
phineas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Jeezus, I can honestly say every woman i've slept with, I've never complimented them on their appearance. Until I saw them naked. 100% serious. Most women know I wouldn't be wasting my time going on dates with them if I didn't find them attractive. but most women do wonder if I like them.
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Look, men lie. We lie all the time. The hornier we are, the more we lie. Until we get to know you. Once we know you and like you, then we'll care too much about you to lie. That's why it's in your best interest to get to know a guy before sleeping with him. It's not all that complicated. I've been on two dates with my current friend. Is that enough time to get to know one another? All very subjective.... The reality is that no amount of getting to know one another guarantees that the guy isn't going to get into your pants and then leave immediately afterwards. 1
Author mesmerized Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 I've been on two dates with my current friend. Is that enough time to get to know one another? All very subjective.... The reality is that no amount of getting to know one another guarantees that the guy isn't going to get into your pants and then leave immediately afterwards. Exactly, there is no fixed formula really. But I think getting to know someone helps you see the red flags and true intentions before jumping into anything.
Treasa Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I'm both at my sexual peak AND on medication that seems to increase my libido. Just smile at me and you could probably get me into bed, if I don't drag you there myself. Your mouth will be too busy to give me compliments. 2
BehindBlueEyes Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I'm both at my sexual peak. I think I passed mine. Takes me half the morning and a jar of Vaseline to get off these days. My ceiling hitting days are long gone, now I am lucky if I can hit the top of my belly button.. sucks. 1
Treasa Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I think I passed mine. Takes me half the morning and a jar of Vaseline to get off these days. My ceiling hitting days are long gone, now I am lucky if I can hit the top of my belly button.. sucks. God, I needed that laugh, considering my team just lost their game..
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Well...I'm not sure If I should be saying this...but sweet talking used to be my bread and butter when I was young. It's a talent to pull off, it truly is and many men fail at miserably or use the same redundant phrases that they use on every woman...I think men want to be charming/flirtatious and sweet talkers but it takes imagination and creativity for it not to come off generic, has to have some originality and apart of it has to be genuine....basically, most aren't cut out for it, not that there aren't charmers out there, but to me most are highly obvious and noticeable...maybe to women they are impressive because they were showy, but for me It was like the slow rising of the ocean on the beach...rather than a crashing wave. But I wasn't trying to get "laid" I was more so trying to be swooning. I would write or email these elaborate "love letters" with all these crazy things in them that women love to hear, they were young so their heads would float to the ceiling with big red hearts floating all around, like in Charlie in the chocolate factory. I was always good at painting a picture. But I'm willing to bet most men who are good at it now have put in a lot of work to refine that and are likely to be full of BS...being more about pulling the wool over your eyes than being genuine, especially at this age. It's something you learn and only get better at once you get it. The main reason I stopped doing it was because I felt it was apart of my "manipulative personality" and I wanted to change that...words have power, and can invoke strong emotional reactions...manipulate a woman's feelings and pull on her love strings, then she'll be up in the clouds just melting over you like a hot stick of butter. And that's not very fair now is it? Funny enough is I do miss the "art" of it...It was fun for me and interesting to do, there was always a risk you'd say something but instead of coming out "romantic" or what not..it would come out silly and like a joke. I don't know what my agenda was back then, all I know is If I feel like I'm doing it now I feel like I'm "cheating" for a woman's affections. As far as compliments, that's not necessarily the same thing for me...I don't compliment much unless I feel compelled too...and instead of "sweet talking" I try to maintain a neutral "charming" demeanor instead nowadays...that way I don't end up back on the swooning band wagon...although I won't say I haven't muddied the lines or crossed the boundaries...but I try not to as much as I can. 1
mn311601 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Can't say that I ever have. I should give it a try one day, just for the laugh that it would cause. No way it'd work. Probably end up tazed.
somedude81 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Can't say that I ever have. I should give it a try one day, just for the laugh that it would cause. No way it'd work. Probably end up tazed. Same here. I can't imagine myself doing any sort of sweet talking that would have any other affect than her running away.
mortensorchid Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 The ones who do tend to be the more promiscuous types.
Dreamless Sleep Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Compliment to just get laid-no. But I compliment women. I think their panties get the wettest if you mention their shoes.
EasyHeart Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I've been on two dates with my current friend. Is that enough time to get to know one another? No, it's not. All very subjective....No, it's not. Exactly, there is no fixed formula really. But I think getting to know someone helps you see the red flags and true intentions before jumping into anything.There's no formula, but there's good old common sense. If you want a number, start with 3 months.
Author mesmerized Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 No, it's not. No, it's not. There's no formula, but there's good old common sense. If you want a number, start with 3 months. 3 months is crazy. No guy my age nowadays would wait that long nor would I be able to control myself if I'm seeing someone.
xxoo Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Give out a lot of compliments, tons of sweet talking just to get laid? I wonder how common it is for men to lie extensively for the sole purpose of having sex with a girl. By what I now remember, the only extremely sweet talker I've had turned into a long term relationship. Now there is another guy who kind of acts the same but responds to my texts late and just does not act reliable. I'm almost pretty sure he is full of it and cannot be trusted. Could he really be genuine? He could be genuine in his adoration at this point, and still not interested in a relationship beyond sex.
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