Rosane Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 (edited) Typical. Just when I was coming to terms with the fact I was never going to hear from him again, my ex emailed me, texted and called. I had a separate email acc just to keep in touch with him, so I never visited that email again after we broke up and he ignored a few emails from me. Then after 8 months he emails me, but i hadn't seen any of his emails. Only after he texted me with a missed call from him I realised I had emails from him in that account. I blocked him on my main one. He wrote: 'why are you determined to ignore me? You think I have moved on...well I haven't. I have not forgotten about you as you seem to think I have. I don't understnd why you won't contact me either via email or on my new phone: 077...........' How dare he say I was ignoring him when he ignored me so much at the time? I rang him a few months after the break up and strict NC and he hung up on me. I angrily texted him and after demanding a reply, he says he had moved on and was with someone else. However, in his previous email to that, he says I was right. He hadn't moved on at all (I told him he hadn't, because he felt uncomfortable talking to me on the phone later). He says he's walking in a permanent state of confusion, that he's depressed, blah, blah... I replied to his email with class and dignity but I said what I really thought of him. I still love him, but I know he's confused and doesn't know what he wants. I was doing so well until I got drunk last night and drunk called him, but went on voicemail. This morning I got a text from him saying he couln't talk because he was with his child and said we could speak later in the week. OMG! I was a fool. My email had so much dignity but I screwed things up by drunk calling him. He may have lost respect for me now. Edited January 13, 2013 by Rosane
outsidethebox Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 So you're going to go out on a date with him?
kaylan Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 OP move on. This will not end well at all. Stop blocking your progress.
mortensorchid Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Move on. It's over with and that's that.
Author Rosane Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 You're all right. He was just waiting for my response to treat me like sh** again. Why did he have to poke into my wound again? I just done something terrible, but I think he deserved it. I have forwarded all his recent emails to me, saying he missed me and hadn't moved on from me, to his current gf. His first wife found out her e-address and passed it on to me. She said she's also sick and tired of the games he plays with all his girlfriends. She's still in touch with him because of their child. He's a player. His current gf also needed to know the truth. I resisted believing that he's a player, I finally know now. Moving on for good!! Sorry, guys, I'm not a monster but he went overboard when I was just beginning to heal. He never gave me closure, he just left. Then he tries again. I know I was stupid to believe him too. I know I did something that can bring me karma too, but I can't feel sorry now.
Samilia Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 You're all right. He was just waiting for my response to treat me like sh** again. Why did he have to poke into my wound again? I just done something terrible, but I think he deserved it. I have forwarded all his recent emails to me, saying he missed me and hadn't moved on from me, to his current gf. His first wife found out her e-address and passed it on to me. She said she's also sick and tired of the games he plays with all his girlfriends. She's still in touch with him because of their child. He's a player. His current gf also needed to know the truth. I resisted believing that he's a player, I finally know now. Moving on for good!! Sorry, guys, I'm not a monster but he went overboard when I was just beginning to heal. He never gave me closure, he just left. Then he tries again. I know I was stupid to believe him too. I know I did something that can bring me karma too, but I can't feel sorry now. I don't believe in karma, but if anything, he's the one who got karma back. I'd definitively delete that other email, that way he'll get the dreaded "Delivery failed" message back. Change phone number, byebye player.
Big Blue Box Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Typical. Just when I was coming to terms with the fact I was never going to hear from him again, my ex emailed me, texted and called. I had a separate email acc just to keep in touch with him, so I never visited that email again after we broke up and he ignored a few emails from me. Then after 8 months he emails me, but i hadn't seen any of his emails. Only after he texted me with a missed call from him I realised I had emails from him in that account. I blocked him on my main one. He wrote: 'why are you determined to ignore me? You think I have moved on...well I haven't. I have not forgotten about you as you seem to think I have. I don't understnd why you won't contact me either via email or on my new phone: 077...........' How dare he say I was ignoring him when he ignored me so much at the time? I rang him a few months after the break up and strict NC and he hung up on me. I angrily texted him and after demanding a reply, he says he had moved on and was with someone else. However, in his previous email to that, he says I was right. He hadn't moved on at all (I told him he hadn't, because he felt uncomfortable talking to me on the phone later). He says he's walking in a permanent state of confusion, that he's depressed, blah, blah... I replied to his email with class and dignity but I said what I really thought of him. I still love him, but I know he's confused and doesn't know what he wants. I was doing so well until I got drunk last night and drunk called him, but went on voicemail. This morning I got a text from him saying he couln't talk because he was with his child and said we could speak later in the week. OMG! I was a fool. My email had so much dignity but I screwed things up by drunk calling him. He may have lost respect for me now. The choice is ultimately yours, however I strongly suggest that you move on and he needs to do the same. He sounds very clingy almost to the point of being stalky plus he has played head games with you. If you were to get back with him he could very well become very possessive and he may very well continue to play head games with you. That will not turn out good at all. Again, the choice is ultimately yours so do make it wisely.
Author Rosane Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 A guy you want nothing to do with might have lost respect for you? I can see how you are very confused. Exactly. I am confused because I still harboured strong feelings for him, feelings which I have no idea what they are. Someone mentioned him being clingy. He was when we were together but then I became the clingy one after he suddenly dumped me with no explanations. I know now 100% he's a player. I knew it but was always finding excuses for him and blaming me. I broke contact with him completely for a long, long time after embarrassing myself wanting to know the reasons he went off me. Then he contacts me again out of the blue after months saying he missed me, never moved on, blah, blah and I tried to ignore him as much as I could until he called, I missed it and he left a text and a message saying he so wanted to speak to me. I decided to reply to his emails. I think as soon as I did, he got what he wanted. He only wanted to know if I had moved on. When he realised I still had feelings for him, he didn't reply or call anymore. I stupidly drank called him and he replied saying 'oh can't talk now, speak soon..' I never thought I was better or worse than anyone, now I know I am better than him. When I found out he's still with his gf and doing what he did, I couldn't resist but forwarding his emails to me, to her. I did her a favour. Not a nice thing to do, but he asked for it.
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