sharkbite Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I'm 25 and she is 3 years older, we dated for about 3 months then made it official for 8 months. We hit it off and had a blast, always laughing, telling stories, spending time together (she lived about 50 min away) i always made time to see her and had a lot of spare time on my hands (i was per diem and wasn't recieving a lot of hours) i still lived at home, she had just recently moved out and was living with her friends. I went out of my way to go see her and take her out, take walks, see movies, plays, shows,festivals anything that sparked our interested. We went away on a few weekend vacations and never had a problem. We went away for her birthday and had a great time, we did an adventure course and she really loved it. A week later we go to a bar and end up getting into a dispute over if i'm going to stay the night at her place (she said it sounds like i'm going completely out of my way and its almost immature because i'd have to take trains and everything the next day) i said i don't care if she was 5 states away i'd still come see her, she did take her fair share of trips to come out to me but she worked long hrs during the week and was understandably not as able as i was to travel. That night we were drunk and upset talking and trying to understand things, a couple days later she texts me ina rapid series of text I'm upset, losing control, don't know why i feel this way never felt like this, talking about how anxious she always is lately and doesn't know what is going on and she's never felt this bad before. we talk for another week or so until i say we need to talk (knowing a break was needed) we ended up breaking up because she said the words "when i think about the future i can't see us together" so i said blatenlty "so do you want to break up?" she says .....pauses.....and says "yea i guess so ...going to be the biggest mistake of my life" i said its alright it happens when it goes for 8 months these things happen we talked a little more she was hyrsterically crying and then i left. she conitnued calling and texting then days later simple texts ....week later she says "have fun at the game" at a football game she was supposed to come with me to. I was being civilized gving simple texts back, then i gave her a christmas gift i had bought for her months ago and left it on her porch and called her and had a civilized conversation. then all my friends had an atlantic city trip planned for months and when it comes time to leave a day before we leave my friend says my ex is going to come the second night because we have a mutual friend who's place we were staying at, i say w/e i'm still going. I don't get a call or text from her until i get there and she says she is coming tomorrow night and hopes i'm okay with it, i say yea its fine but wish you would have talked to me about it earlier. Then i left my phone in the room all night, ended up drinking too much talked to her friend who is a mutual friend and ended up blowing up saying its completely ridiculous she can't talk to me before she just randomly decides to come spend a night drinking dancing and sleeping in the same room together, It got pretty bad and i almost left and got my own room but my friend talked me out of it. They ended up telling my ex not to come . I wrote her an e-mail apologizing and explaining everything she wrote back with a long e-mail saying your forgiven and I'm so sorry for everything she said she has been working long hours and had a lot on her mind and also remembered our nice conversations and the present i gave her in the back of her mind, she said I realize how mad you are at me I will try to respect your wishes and not make contact. She loves my friends but said they are my friends and she doesn't know if she'll be hanging out anymore. That was a month ago since then, christmas and new years went by and still no contact.....i don't know if she was trying to come to a.c. to get back together or just to be part of the group again, I know there were some immature qualities about me when we were together (2 months ago) and now like I'm getting more hrs at work and moved out of my house and am going back to college I hardly ever drink which helped me lose 15 lbs. I just wonder what the future holds and if NC continues to be my best choice, if anyone thinks she will contact me again, or any other advice/comments/empowering statements anyone can give me are all greatly appreciated. I do love this girl, but at the same time. Its heartache when I can be so sure of someone that is so unsure of me.
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