areejjaved Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) Some of u might know my story.. But still i would sum it up in light of the people who commented on my threads before. People said that my bf was using me for everything, that all he wanted from me was sex and nothing else. And i really thought about it and i, myself was getting sick of him and his attitude. I wanted my own respect in our relationship but he was treating me like a slave, thats what i used to feel like with him Okay, i admit i must've broken his heart as he says but he can never prove it wrong that i never tried to work our love out after that.. He knows how hard i tried for him and today when i broke up with Him as u people suggested me to do he just says, "u destroyed my life and without making it right u have given up on me" and later he adds, "dont cry if i die or if something happens to me" and when i said that dont even think about it, he just gets mad and said, "u have done ur work, now bye" And now im dying to know if he's okay or not. Should i text him? Or is he just putting on a drama? He make me think tooo much :/ Edited January 12, 2013 by areejjaved
na49 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 My ex dated a suicidal kid before she dated me. She said the only reason she stayed with him was because he was suicidal. The only reason he said he was suicidal was so that she would stay with him. They're both clowns. How old are you guys? I don't know this guy personally, and you know him better than I do. but in my opinion, he's a drama queen. He wants to stir the pot and make you feel sorry for him, he's doing a great job too. Rather than post about this here, I'd get this kid some help. 1
blotter Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 This is called 'emotional blackmail' look it up. It's a way sick people can manipulate you and keep u under their control. 2
Missing Him Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I don't think so. He's hurt and he's just trying to hurt you back and make you feel guilty. 1
Treasa Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Tell him that if he's threatening suicide, you're calling the cops. And then follow up on it. Suicide isn't something people should joke about. 4
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 You know, if he was going to kill himself: he wouldn't waste time telling you this; no, he'd do it. It would have been done. Don't let him scare you into a miserable situation. If he was dumb enough to kill himself, so be it. It's deceit. People who talk about killing themselves aren't the ones to worry about. It's the ones who say nothing or give hints...they rarely outright say it.
th90 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Tell him that if he's threatening suicide, you're calling the cops. And then follow up on it. Suicide isn't something people should joke about. I agree with this. Suicide threats should never be taken lightly. If he's still below 20 years old especially, being inexperienced and completely hurt by a failed relationship, he may actually do it to show his love. You know, if he was going to kill himself: he wouldn't waste time telling you this; no, he'd do it. It would have been done. Don't let him scare you into a miserable situation. If he was dumb enough to kill himself, so be it. It's deceit. People who talk about killing themselves aren't the ones to worry about. It's the ones who say nothing or give hints...they rarely outright say it. Usually, people who commit suicide will tell their friends/family about it. Suicidal people will plan out how they're going to kill themselves in good details before carrying it out. People may not know whether a person is suicidal, yes, they will usually keep it to themselves. But before killing themselves, they will leave a message such as an SMS, email or a facebook status. We can never say for sure he won't kill himself and ignore him for good. What if he really did it? OP will have to live the rest of her life with guilt. His family will probably put all the blame on her as well. Nobody wants to be responsible for other people's deaths. 3
KraftDinner Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Whether or not he will is, I'm sorry to say, NOT your problem. Do the cop thing as mentioned above and then go completely NC. He's a controlling nutbag.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 True they leave a message when they are going to do it. Even true that the OP would feel guilty. Really, why? It's his choice. She shouldn't have to stay in this relationship under misery just to keep him alive. His choice. Sounds cold? Yup. But so is using suicide to keep a partner locked up. Too many people actually do kill themselves without some idiot randomly saying it just to hurt the OP. I heard way too many people say this, when a relationship ends to know better. So... Her options are to stay emotionally locked to this Guy, be miserable, or risk him killing himself...I'd rather be free(no, I wouldn't want someone to die...but if I was her, he treated me anyway bad, and said this, so what? Doesn't mean I want him to die...it does mean I'm not playing that game -- of he's stupid enough..)
Missing Him Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 On second thought, you might want to consider telling someone in your real life who can better help you handle this. He is hurt and he might not actually be suicidal, but then again... he's hurt, so he might be suicidal. You just can't be sure. 1
th90 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Her options are to stay emotionally locked to this Guy, be miserable, or risk him killing himself...I'd rather be free(no, I wouldn't want someone to die...but if I was her, he treated me anyway bad, and said this, so what? Doesn't mean I want him to die...it does mean I'm not playing that game -- of he's stupid enough..) Of course she doesn't need to stay with him. The key is not to ignore his suicide threats. She should inform his family or the cops or other people who are mature enough to deal with this. It's beyond the OP's control if he still want to kill himself. At least she has handled it correctly instead of just ignoring it.
suladas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Can't believe what some people are saying. You should feel an obligation to do something. Either cops or something like that, or someone close to him so they can find out the deal. No you don't have to stay with him or anything like that, but you should do something. Even if it's mostly a empty threat, a relationship ending can be really tough on the emotions and it only takes a few moments of really bad decisions to end a life. Do you want the chance of having to live with that guilt for the rest of your life?
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