ChessPieceFace Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Ten percent of women are lesbians. Actually no, homosexual percentage is around 3% in both sexes.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 If 10% of women are lesbians and 3-5% of the male population is gay...well then society has a bigger problem on its hands than I thought.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Yes, we are in dire straights so continue dancing. Only if we can dance to "Sultans of Swing". Since you brought up Dire Straits and all... 1
ChessPieceFace Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 No, no, no it isn't. Yeah, actually it is, according to basically every scientific study done. The numbers for homosexuality center in the neighborhood of 3 to 3.5%. The only people who quote "10%" are the ones who are parroting the statistic just because it's what they heard (I know many people like that IRL) and the ones fudging the numbers in order to bolster the homosexual agenda. I'm not going to start arguing about gay marriage for or against, but I will not sit silent while false statistics are bandied about. Now if you're trying to make the claim "X% of people had some kind of homosexual experience" then sure, it's much more than 3%, depending on your criteria. Probably well beyond 30%. But experimentation =/= gay. Anyone who thinks it does (or that would even joke that it does) is indeed the one suffering from homophobia. The rational person would say that experimentation doesn't dictate sexual preference (whatever it may be.) After all, would you say a gay man having sex with a woman shows that he is NOT gay? Of course you wouldn't. Anyone saying the converse shows that they suffer from a stigma on the issue. Show me the scientific study where 10% of people are homosexual. It will not offend my sensibilities. But you can't, because studies say 3-3.5%. Fudging the numbers by tripling them doesn't inspire confidence that anything else you say has any credibility. You're just hurting yourself by lying about the numbers.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Over the last month or so, through the course of normal conversation, I've gotten to know that she went through a wild phase in her early to mid 20s where she partied endlessly and generally did things as a way of rebelling against her family. 2- This does make me feel a little insecure (I'll be the first one to tell you). My mid to late 20s was comprised of hunting desperately for work, changing cities, and, due to certain circumstances, having to support my parents. I led a very ascetic and buttoned down life during those years with nary an opportunity to even think of exploring the wild side of life. And by the time I had gotten to a point where I had most things in order, I found that the wild phase had passed me by. The fact that my gf had (and obviously enjoyed) an extremely active sexual and partying phase makes me feel like the lesser one (for whatever reason) in the relationship. This issue typically gets worse the more you begin to care about her. I think it's mostly caused by romantic tunnel vision. Try flirting with random girls to see if that makes the feeling lessen. It may help you figure out how to deal with this better. What would really make me nervous is that it seems the opposites attraction is strongly in play for your relationship. I mean while she rebels against her parents... you take care of them. While she parties and lives responsibility free... you live as a grown up. Party girls always get pissed off later in life when you expect them to act like adults for extended periods of time. The resent the hell out of their children, and constantly yearn for that freewheeling lifestyle. Of course that doesn't apply to all... but it sure fits the vast majority. 1
neveragain34 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Try to see her past as a good thing and consider yourself lucky she "got it out of her system". I have known women that married in their twenties to one of the few men they've ever slept with, if not the only man, and then a few years down the road they feel like they "missed out" and didn't give themselves enough time to find themselves in regards to what they like in a man. Call it a mid-life crisis, but this wondering has led to straying and/or divorce. Another benefit of her past is that she has dated enough men to know what she wants and doesn't want and she obviously wants YOU or she wouldn't still be around.
Author markpr Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 That's a very interesting point of view and I think I find that strangely calming. I did think about it... two things about it though: - The flip side of it is that guy could feel that way too. Agreed, this doesn't happen often for guys but ever since this issue started, I've distinctly started to feel that I've missed out on what a lot of other people experienced during their 20s. In fact, this insecurity probably has been hanging around in the deep recesses of my mind for a long time... I'm speculating that it just got amplified when I found out about her past. - When I came out of a relationship a few years ago, I was so acutely aware of the type of person I was looking for. Some of my friends even suggested that I was being picky - that was true and I definitely rejected several advances and opportunities because I was extremely aware of what I wanted. My regret, then, is that I was focused on my awareness and my idealistic goal that I may've instead forgotten to just live out loud and give in to experiences. I think I'm getting somewhere here.... hmmm.
ChessPieceFace Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Well look at it this way, you'll get to virtually sleep with all the "alpha males" she's slept with too! Maybe she'll even lose track and moan out some of their names during sex. Sorry, sticking to my belief that sluts who chase after alphas deserve to be stuck with those alphas for eternity. Not simply settling for and using a beta when it's convenient. Don't be a chump.
Later82012 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 That's a very interesting point of view and I think I find that strangely calming. I did think about it... two things about it though: - The flip side of it is that guy could feel that way too. Agreed, this doesn't happen often for guys but ever since this issue started, I've distinctly started to feel that I've missed out on what a lot of other people experienced during their 20s. In fact, this insecurity probably has been hanging around in the deep recesses of my mind for a long time... I'm speculating that it just got amplified when I found out about her past. - When I came out of a relationship a few years ago, I was so acutely aware of the type of person I was looking for. Some of my friends even suggested that I was being picky - that was true and I definitely rejected several advances and opportunities because I was extremely aware of what I wanted. My regret, then, is that I was focused on my awareness and my idealistic goal that I may've instead forgotten to just live out loud and give in to experiences. I think I'm getting somewhere here.... hmmm. You were picky, she was not. You should be proud of yourself. Why are you insecure?
neveragain34 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 So in essence the option is get a reformed party-girl or get a girl that has had a few boyfriends along the way. Hm... not much of a contest here... The fact of the matter is, OP stated that things have been going great and beyond amazing. Her past, whether a few men or a lot, has made her the woman she is TODAY that he has fallen for and now she knows what she wants in life. Men sleep around in their early twenties too and when they finally grow up and realize they want to settle down, we don't call them "reformed party guys" and write them off for this. I'm getting ready for a date now with a man who I'm sure has a past sexual history like everyone else, but I'm not going to let that determine my future with him. I'm just taking it one day at a time and if it becomes serious, then I just have to be confident and realize that I'm bringing something to the table that past women didn't or he wouldn't stick around to the point of it becoming serious. OP, you should be confident too and not let her past get to you. If you feel you need to get your wild side out of you as well, do it for personal reasons, not to even the playing field with her. That will only make things worse and you two will never work.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Men sleep around in their early twenties too and when they finally grow up and realize they want to settle down, we don't call them "reformed party guys" and write them off for this. I'm getting ready for a date now with a man who I'm sure has a past sexual history like everyone else, but I'm not going to let that determine my future with him. Correction. Some men sleep around in their early twenties. Many do not. And, not everyone has a sexual history... 2
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