johnallen Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) I have a coworker (Taurus women) who I liked and I was getting mixed signals that she liked me as well. We were connecting well and became office friends. Although we never expressed any feelings to each other. Some misunderstanding/miscommunication happened and I didn't talk to her for 2-3 days and she took it in a bad way and started giving me cold shoulder as which is fine because I started ignoring her first. This led to us ignoring each other completely for 3 months. I never said anything bad about her to anyone in my office but she was actually talking to everyone about me(sometimes bad). I still liked her and saw that it was affecting all our colleagues so I dropped my ego and went to talk to her privately. I apologized for things I said/done and saw that she got little emotional. She instantly saw this and said dont worry about her emotions because she is having a bad day although I don't believe that answer was completely correct. She said that we were good friends, i knew so much about her and she liked me( instantly she changed the line) and she don't know why we stopped talking to each other. At the end my apology was accepted and we agreed that it might take some time before things go back to normal. The next few days when we chatted online in office, she mentioned that she really missed talking to me, but I am noticing that even after a week of our talk, she is still not opening up to me. When we talk in a group, she leaves the group shortly. Maybe she is still trying to recover which is fine by me. Is there a chance of this friendship going to next level? Should I give her time and wait? what can I do to make things work? how can I know if she is still interested in me? So far, I am delivering my promise to her that I'll be nice and improve myself. PS - I don't believe in zodiac signs a lot but she is a Taurus women and what I read about them so far is that they are very stubborn, shy and slow in taking actions. So, I am not sure if I should approach her or just let things be as they are. Edited January 12, 2013 by johnallen
Author johnallen Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 135 views and no reply. I would really appreciate if someone can can give their opinion.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I think just keep this one at work and look for other potential interests.
NoMagicBullet Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I agree with dreamingoftigers: you are better off not pursuing office romance with her, as this "friends" situation has already brought some drama to the work place, and she doesn't seem emotionally mature enough to handle it, if she verifiably said bad things behind your back that weren't warranted. That said, what are you waiting for? For her to ask you out or make the first move? Not gonna happen. Anyone with any sense is not going to open up and share a lot of their personal life in the workplace, especially not in a group setting. If you want to cultivate a realtionship with someone you work with -- and again, I do not recommend this -- you need one-to-one face time outside of the office and office hours.
Author johnallen Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Thanks guys for your reply. I am also debating should I actually pursue her or not. Its just that I am attracted to her so much and on top of that, we can hear /see each other multiple times a day as she sits just 1 row across from me. This is making it hard to ignore her but I am actually trying it. I was thinking to wait for couple of weeks and if she shows some interest then i'll ask her to hang outside of work. Currently we are chatting online a little but when it comes to in person communication, she steps back as if she is either still not comfortable or lost interest. She used to laugh alot at my jokes but not anymore. I know I sound pathetic but that's the truth. Either ways, I really appreciate your replies.
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