TheZebra Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 But when you get......ON THE PHONE and that's it. Most guys will be like WTF???? No, that's just you...
Author PhillyDude Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 No, that's just you... I don't think so.
Malia25 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Listen, I said when I got a text saying........."on the phone" I thought that was her way of pushing me away. I thought it was a weird text and when she actually called back I was shocked. But what else am I supposed to think if I'm calling a girl and she wants me to know she is on the phone? Doesn't that sound like she was saying...Leave me alone? Especially since the text said....on the phone and that's it. Now if the text had said......"I will call u back in a sec I;m on the phone" But when you get......ON THE PHONE and that's it. Most guys will be like WTF???? I would like to think most guys are not this insecure. Again, you can work on that. I think your lady friend is damned is does and damned if she doesn't. She was just being polite to YOU by telling you she was "on the phone". What you decide to do with those 3 simple words is your own jealousy seeping in. Has she ever implied she was talking to other guys? If she has only been talking to you and you still assume there is someone else in the picture - well then, you have serious trust issues. I'm surprised she is still around! 2
Author PhillyDude Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 I would like to think most guys are not this insecure. Again, you can work on that. I think your lady friend is damned is does and damned if she doesn't. She was just being polite to YOU by telling you she was "on the phone". What you decide to do with those 3 simple words is your own jealousy seeping in. Has she ever implied she was talking to other guys? If she has only been talking to you and you still assume there is someone else in the picture - well then, you have serious trust issues. I'm surprised she is still around! I have to say I was flattered that she ended that convo to talk to me but it sure didn't feel that way when I got that text lol
Trimmer Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Now that is what you call a MIXED SIGNAL. She is definitely throwing me curve balls. No, it's what I call a MIXED UP INTERPRETATION. Every problem you have with this interaction is about your misinterpretation of "what it meant". The mixup is in your head, between your misinterpretation and overreaction to her initial heads-up that she was on the phone, and the reality that she wanted to let you know she was finishing up a call, and then proceeded to follow through and call you back. She isn't "throwing curve balls", you are twisting yourself into a pretzel: One minute I'm thinking she is telling me she is talking to another guy in a indirect way.... My blood pressure only went up because I thought she was purposely trying to push me away and give me a hint she was talking to some other guy ...the 1st thing I thought was........"She is talking to some Cool Dude and wants me to go away" I was prepared to curse her out because I thought that was her way of pushing me away Keep in mind that I had never experienced that before so it was unexpected. I agree with you which is why I felt foolish. The text saying I;m on the phone I thought was a BLOW OFF. I know that now but I didn't realize it right away when I got the text. The only things "mixed up" about this situation happened in your own head, as a result of your jumping to a conclusion that was unfounded. But when you get......ON THE PHONE and that's it. Most guys will be like WTF???? No, that's just you... I don't think so. Yeah, it's mostly just you. Most guys would just think "Oh, she's making an effort to let me know she's on the phone." 2
skylark100 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 There is no mixed signals. She was on the phone and called you back. You arent married to her, you are not even dating her, so you need to relax and let her go about her business. Also your reaction is way overblown. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Oh for the love of.... PD, do you think you overreacted and if so do you think it's part of a larger pattern of being very reactive? 1
MissLiberty Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Oh for the love of.... PD, do you think you overreacted and if so do you think it's part of a larger pattern of being very reactive? I think this thread about a misunderstood message, not a mixed message. This appears to be a reoccurring theme with the OP. 2
Star Gazer Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 There was absolutely no mixed signal here, only a major, major overreaction on your part. I send "On the phone" texts to respond to phone calls ALL. THE. TIME., and not once has anyone, male or female, romantic or platonic, responded that way. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 There was absolutely no mixed signal here, only a major, major overreaction on your part. I send "On the phone" texts to respond to phone calls ALL. THE. TIME., and not once has anyone, male or female, romantic or platonic, responded that way. I explained that was the 1st time someone ever sent me a text like that. So that's why I thought she was trying to let me know in a indirect way...."I am interested in another guy"
Star Gazer Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I explained that was the 1st time someone ever sent me a text like that. So that's why I thought she was trying to let me know in a indirect way...."I am interested in another guy" And that thought process was a major over-reaction. Someone telling you they're on the phone should NOT lead you to reach the conclusion that she's interested in another guy. THAT SAID, so what if she is interested in another guy as well? Is she committed to you? Do you expect fidelity from someone before you even date them? 1
Author PhillyDude Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 And that thought process was a major over-reaction. Someone telling you they're on the phone should NOT lead you to reach the conclusion that she's interested in another guy. THAT SAID, so what if she is interested in another guy as well? Is she committed to you? Do you expect fidelity from someone before you even date them? No she is not so that's why I was going to see if I was wasting my time and call her the next day. But I didn't have to do that because she called back. I been trying to meet someone on her level physically but it's not easy because she is a beautiful woman. If I can meet someone on her level then she will have some competition but right now she has none. All the other girls I talk to are not on her level
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