PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I called this girl the other night and got a text while the phone was ringing saying...."I;m on the phone" So then my blood pressure goes up because I was like......"Why the F*CK did she feel the need to do that silly sh*T when she could have let it go to voicemail? I was prepared to curse her out because I thought that was her way of pushing me away Then in 5 mins or 10 mins she calls me back and we talk for over a hour???? So you see how I went from being pissed off one minute thinking she was being purposely being rude to get rid of me to getting a call back in 10 mins making me feel like..."Oh she wasn't pushing me away" Now that is what you call a MIXED SIGNAL. She is definitely throwing me curve balls.
carhill Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 You had a choice in how you reacted. It appears you took her phone call and talked for over an hour. Going from 'curse her out' to 'talk for over an hour' indicates an area for work regarding processing emotions. Good luck. 5
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 You had a choice in how you reacted. It appears you took her phone call and talked for over an hour. Going from 'curse her out' to 'talk for over an hour' indicates an area for work regarding processing emotions. Good luck. It was just weird that she felt she needed to text me that she was on the phone when I was calling. And the 1st thing I thought was........"She is talking to some Cool Dude and wants me to go away" LOL
iris219 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 So you see how I went from being pissed off one minute thinking she was being purposely being rude to get rid of me to getting a call back in 10 mins making me feel like..."Oh she wasn't pushing me away" Yes, we see how you feel this way all the time. Can a woman do anything right by you? 1
Keenly Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Whats the problem exactly? She cared enough about your call to A) tell you immediately why she could not answer and B) call you back ASAP What is the problem here exactly? Because if you are really getting mad over this..... 4
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 Whats the problem exactly? She cared enough about your call to A) tell you immediately why she could not answer and B) call you back ASAP What is the problem here exactly? Because if you are really getting mad over this..... There is no problem I was saying how her mixed signal had me go from one extreme to another. One minute I;m thinking she is telling me she is talking to another guy in a indirect way and then the next minute she calls me back.
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 CALM DOWN BRO SHE WAS PROBABLY JUST ON THE PHONE!! Wow.. you really overreacted. No offense but this is psycho talk. Your blood pressure went up because she told you she was busy at the moment? You're going to have to chill out or you're eventually going to explode on her over something stupid and she will drop you. Trust me. Its the girls job to act emotional and stupid. As a man you need to keep your cool. My blood pressure only went up because I thought she was purposely trying to push me away and give me a hint she was talking to some other guy
veggirl Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 You are so cray cray. If she flipped over to your call and was like "hey Im on the other line, I'll call ya right back" you'd be like WHY DID SHE EVEN FEEL THE NEED TO DO THAT!! WTF IS THAT ABOUT!! if she ignored you and then called you back after her phone conversation, you'd be like WHY DID SHE DO THAT! SHE WAS OBVIOUSLY SCREENING!! WHY WOULD SHE CALL ME BACK IF SHE COULDN'T ANSWER THE FIRST TIME I CALLED!!! WTF! I mean like dude...chillax. like honestly have a drink or something. Its afternoon in Philly. 6
Keenly Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 There is no problem I was saying how her mixed signal had me go from one extreme to another. One minute I;m thinking she is telling me she is talking to another guy in a indirect way and then the next minute she calls me back. There is no mixed signal here. How do you know it was a guy? How do you know it wasn't work related? Or just two girls chatting? You are being very paranoid here... 3
veggirl Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 My blood pressure only went up because I thought she was purposely trying to push me away and give me a hint she was talking to some other guy dude maybe she was talking to a GIRL friend. or her mom. or her cousin. or who the fk else! god. you immediately assume its another guy, YOU ARE CRAZYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!! if she wanted to "give you a hint" she wouldn't call you back. 3
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 You are so cray cray. If she flipped over to your call and was like "hey Im on the other line, I'll call ya right back" you'd be like WHY DID SHE EVEN FEEL THE NEED TO DO THAT!! WTF IS THAT ABOUT!! if she ignored you and then called you back after her phone conversation, you'd be like WHY DID SHE DO THAT! SHE WAS OBVIOUSLY SCREENING!! WHY WOULD SHE CALL ME BACK IF SHE COULDN'T ANSWER THE FIRST TIME I CALLED!!! WTF! I mean like dude...chillax. like honestly have a drink or something. Its afternoon in Philly. Keep in mind that I had never experienced that before so it was unexpected.
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 There is no mixed signal here. How do you know it was a guy? How do you know it wasn't work related? Or just two girls chatting? You are being very paranoid here... Maybe when it comes to guys she likes she wants to spread her attention around? lol
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 dude maybe she was talking to a GIRL friend. or her mom. or her cousin. or who the fk else! god. you immediately assume its another guy, YOU ARE CRAZYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!! if she wanted to "give you a hint" she wouldn't call you back. I know she wouldn't have called me back which is why I called it a.......................MIXED SIGNAL I was feeling that way before the call back.
sid3 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Just offer her gifts for sex and get it over with already.
Treasa Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Maybe when it comes to guys she likes she wants to spread her attention around? lol Or maybe she was talking to her mom. Or her cousin. Or her friend. Or her doctor... 1
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 Just offer her gifts for sex and get it over with already. I normally would but in this NEW ECONOMY i need to hold on to money for food LOL Now If I offer a woman a gift she has to spend the weekend with me not just a evening
TaraMaiden Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 There is no problem I was saying how... I made assumptions about what she was doing and labelled it a mixed signal, which I could be completely wrong about - in fact, I probably am - and I then got it into my head... to go from one extreme to another. One minute I;m thinking she is telling me she is talking to another guy in a indirect way and then the next minute she calls me back.... I have a really crazy imagination, I jump to conclusions and if that isn't evidence of a crackpot self-esteem issue, I dunno what is.... Fixed that for ya..... 3
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 Fixed that for ya..... My self esteem is high girly, if it was another guy she would have just gotten an invitation to my fetish world.
TheZebra Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Op, you're crazy. I wish that girl could see this thread so that she knows what she's getting herself into with you. 7
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 Really dude ? Seriously, what don't you complain about. Do you think the world owes you something ? She could of ignored you completely and not sent you that text. That text was a courtesy. I know you have no social skills but that text meant "Hey I am on the phone, I am thinking about ya so I thought I would let you know". I back up my statement by her calling you when she was done. Get over yourself. I agree with you which is why I felt foolish. The text saying I;m on the phone I thought was a BLOW OFF. Would you not think it was a blow out if there was no call back???
GirlontheLam Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 It was just weird that she felt she needed to text me that she was on the phone when I was calling. And the 1st thing I thought was........"She is talking to some Cool Dude and wants me to go away" LOL She was hinting that she wanted to talk to you, but that moment wasn't the right time. Sheesh.
Author PhillyDude Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 She was hinting that she wanted to talk to you, but that moment wasn't the right time. Sheesh. I know that now but I didn't realize it right away when I got the text.
TheZebra Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I agree with you which is why I felt foolish. The text saying I;m on the phone I thought was a BLOW OFF. Would you not think it was a blow out if there was no call back??? No.... if a girl doesn't want to talk to you she wouldn't text you, ever, or answers your calls, or call you back. I lost count of the number of times an ex called me when I was busy and I texted him saying 'doing X right now'. I did it to let them know I wanted to speak with them, but couldn't. If I didn't want to talk to them I would've just ignored him completely. Jeez...
Malia25 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 One minute I;m thinking she is telling me she is talking to another guy in a indirect way and then the next minute she calls me back. Is that how [some] guys really think?! If you don't hear back from her via text or phone, you assume she's with another guy? Oh holy hell. Same thing happened to me after I didn't answer a new guy's text quick enough. He bitched me out and accused me of having a boyfriend....just because I didn't text him back quick enough. Do you know how crazy, jealous, overbearing and possessive that comes off as? Because you know, it is. And it's not attractive. Stop it. She will run for the hills - and no, it's not because there is someone else. It's because you're cray! I recommend you work on that. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 Is that how [some] guys really think?! If you don't hear back from her via text or phone, you assume she's with another guy? Oh holy hell. Same thing happened to me after I didn't answer a new guy's text quick enough. He bitched me out and accused me of having a boyfriend....just because I didn't text him back quick enough. Do you know how crazy, jealous, overbearing and possessive that comes off as? Because you know, it is. And it's not attractive. Stop it. She will run for the hills - and no, it's not because there is someone else. It's because you're cray! I recommend you work on that. Listen, I said when I got a text saying........."on the phone" I thought that was her way of pushing me away. I thought it was a weird text and when she actually called back I was shocked. But what else am I supposed to think if I'm calling a girl and she wants me to know she is on the phone? Doesn't that sound like she was saying...Leave me alone? Especially since the text said....on the phone and that's it. Now if the text had said......"I will call u back in a sec I;m on the phone" But when you get......ON THE PHONE and that's it. Most guys will be like WTF????
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