singlelife Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 when you know they do. even in a conversation where they flirt they may end it by acting like they don't care. is this a tactic or what.
Balzac Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Immaturity and lack of confidence. Added to that, unaware of normal social man ers.
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 i would never have considered the social norm manners thing. but you may have a point.
TaraMaiden Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 when you know they do. even in a conversation where they flirt they may end it by acting like they don't care. is this a tactic or what. It's called 'playing hard to get'. They believe that if they show they like you right away, you'll think they're saying, "You're cute! Let's have sex, right now!!" Women believe most men dating are actually after sex. Women also think that men don't like easy women who screw straight away, and label them tramps. So if a woman plays aloof, she hopes you'll show enough interest to prove her wrong about you.
Balzac Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Girls learn about intimate, love relationships from their opposite sex parent. First be observing the parent relationship and secondly through adult guidance and teaching. Does this girl live in a home with a male presence? Have you considered that angle? It can be a social class situation but not always. Often girls in rigorous a academic high schools are taught to eschew and delay romantic relationships to put focus on achievement in education. They'll participate in group events but not "dating". No idea of your situation.
monicaelise Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 when you know they do. even in a conversation where they flirt they may end it by acting like they don't care. is this a tactic or what. Perhaps she really doesn't like you and you're just reading what you want to see into her behaviour. 3
truth_seeker Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Depending on the girl in question, it can be a tactic to see how interested you are in her. To see how far you will go to get her. If a guy gives up easily, then she will think he wasn't really into her or was looking for quick, easy sex. If the guy is persistent then it tells her he really likes her. Of course, the girl makes the call if you will get her or not.
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 ok i see. so they can act like they don't like you but that seems risky.
Bristolius Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Girls learn about intimate, love relationships from their opposite sex parent. First be observing the parent relationship and secondly through adult guidance and teaching. Does this girl live in a home with a male presence? Have you considered that angle? It can be a social class situation but not always. Often girls in rigorous a academic high schools are taught to eschew and delay romantic relationships to put focus on achievement in education. They'll participate in group events but not "dating". No idea of your situation. Funny, I was thinking maybe her father tolerates and/or rewards her entitled, petulant teenager routine.
truth_seeker Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 ok i see. so they can act like they don't like you but that seems risky. Just games to test you.
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 bad mistake if they have father issues. 1
carhill Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 why women act like they don't like you? In the context of your OP, one potential is that particular woman wants you to like them. I've noted this push-pull behaviors most notably in 'collectors'; women who collect men to 'like' them. IMO, if you're not seeing/experiencing consistency, and presuming the lady is a fully-formed adult, and this causes you to reflect upon specifics, then it is likely this lady is not for you.
crude Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Not all women behave this way. Maybe the ones who do are trying to set themselves up as the prize that a man has to chase.
TaraMaiden Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Either that, or he's jumping to a lot of conclusions, a little too quickly....
Kylar Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Most girls who have had issues with their dad have problems in early relationship stages
Violet11 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Shy, or felt like they showed too much emotion without receiving enough from you...protecting the ego.
somedude81 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 It's called 'playing hard to get'. They believe that if they show they like you right away, you'll think they're saying, "You're cute! Let's have sex, right now!!" Women believe most men dating are actually after sex. Women also think that men don't like easy women who screw straight away, and label them tramps. So if a woman plays aloof, she hopes you'll show enough interest to prove her wrong about you. So how do women expect men to know the difference between playing hard to get/acting aloof, and not being interested? Woman doesn't like you, she ignores you Woman likes you, she ignores you Somebody shoot me
phineas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 So how do women expect men to know the difference between playing hard to get/acting aloof, and not being interested? Woman doesn't like you, she ignores you Woman likes you, she ignores you Somebody shoot me when they act like this I attempt to hang out with them as "just friends". I might buy them a yogurt or an ice cream or some other cheap thing as a token of "friendship" and I'll lightly flirt with them. But I don't try anything on them & I don't ignore other women for them either. Essentially I don't act like all the other orbiters scheming to get with her. I act like a guy with options who isn't concerned with whether or not a certain woman is interested or not because there is no shortage of women. some women do have trust issues & think being friends lets them get to know a guy better without pressure. some are attention whores that collect men & use them because she can. It really shouldn't take long to figure out which type of girl you are spending your time with. 1
irc333 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Most women I hung out with, hardly did want to hang out or be "Friends" anyways, probably because they figured I had an interest in them for dating purposes, so they did not want to take that risk. when they act like this I attempt to hang out with them as "just friends". I might buy them a yogurt or an ice cream or some other cheap thing as a token of "friendship" and I'll lightly flirt with them. But I don't try anything on them & I don't ignore other women for them either. Essentially I don't act like all the other orbiters scheming to get with her. I act like a guy with options who isn't concerned with whether or not a certain woman is interested or not because there is no shortage of women. some women do have trust issues & think being friends lets them get to know a guy better without pressure. some are attention whores that collect men & use them because she can. It really shouldn't take long to figure out which type of girl you are spending your time with.
phineas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Most women I hung out with, hardly did want to hang out or be "Friends" anyways, probably because they figured I had an interest in them for dating purposes, so they did not want to take that risk. Hence why I attempt to just hang out with them if I consider them a quality woman & get to know them. If they hang out with me at least once a week for a while it usually turns out they are in fact interested in dating. and that is usually revealed when another woman starts sniffing around.
sillyanswer Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 They believe that if they show they like you right away, you'll think they're saying, "You're cute! Let's have sex, right now!!" Women believe most men dating are actually after sex. Yup! I think that most men dating are actually after sex. (but some of us aren't just after sex... we'd like someone to do the ironing, too)
sillyanswer Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 So how do women expect men to know the difference between playing hard to get/acting aloof, and not being interested? Woman doesn't like you, she ignores you Woman likes you, she ignores you Somebody shoot me One imperfect solution is just to keep going and ignore all signs of her not being interested. Of course, that leads to threads on here like "I was clearly not interested but he still tried to kiss me..."
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