skydragon Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 So last night me and my girl 3m but we known eachother for a few years just broke up. I took her on a date last night at a really nice sushi restaurant and then we went bowling. I even got her a little fake flower...there was no way in hell I'd be able to find a real flower this season. Night was a little bumpy at first but it did smoothen out. I felt her awkwardness and I tried my best to settle that down. When night was over we talked in the car. She saying how she needs to be on her own for a while to figure stuff out and to improve herself. She didn't have the greatest of relationships and guys or family history. She said she's confused about her feelings and feels nothing for anybody The thing is, she knows I am the best guy she every had. Her friends say it, her dad says it. She even said it.. The night ended without any fights are arguments. It was just sad over all... She's getting her space and I understand. I will not pursue. But I hope she can wake up and realize what she lost. Has anyone ever broke up with their amazing partner or said they lost their feelings and then later realized down the road the feelings came back or it was a mistake?
dumPI Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) There is someone else you'll know about it soon. Just telling you so that it won't become such a big surprise for you. On the subject of people recovering lost feelings I'd say I don't think so. Reading through a lot of posts in this forum you can see that reconciliations that happen in a short time are for the worse. I do believe in people losing each other for a long time and then re-entering back at each other's lifes when both are more mature and in other stages of their existence. If it happens, that usually happens when nobody cares any longer, after having dated other people and when you "have forgotten" your ex. So no point in waiting for that possibility Edited January 12, 2013 by dumPI 1
Author skydragon Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 There is someone else you'll know about it soon. Just telling you so that it won't become such a big surprise for you. On the subject of people recovering lost feelings I'd say I don't think so. Reading through a lot of posts in this forum you can see that reconciliations that happen in a short time are for the worse. I do believe in people losing each other for a long time and then re-entering back at each other's lifes when both are more mature and in other stages of their existence. I understand what your saying. But there is no other guy in her life. Yes guy friends but nothing I don't know about. Its more of a personal issue for her. I don't want to put her life story on here but it deals with her parents/divorce/etc. Shes seeking professional help or is about to start it once the insurance settles out. She knows herself no other guy compares to me and I believe her
na49 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 But there is no other guy in her life. Yes guy friends but nothing I don't know about. As someone who was cheated on. I would proceed with caution with this one. My ex had a lot great friends. The day before she broke up with me she told me about her new best friend that I never heard about before that time. She told me how great he was. He's a nice guy. He "gets" her. She may like him, but loves me. Okay... I was pissed as hell, but I trusted her. Just like you trust your ex. NEXT DAY WE ARE BROKEN UP. BYE BYE I WANT HIM MORE THAN YOU I'm saying to myself. Wait a second... I knew everyone who she talked to. I didn't like everyone she talked to because I don't like everyone period. But there's a guy I DON't know about??? I guess what I'm trying to tell you is that, your trust for her might get you burned in the end. I don't believe in people "losing feelings" it's just a nicer way of saying "I found someone better and want them more than you" She knows herself no other guy compares to me and I believe her EEP! You and me are carbon copies. My ex told me I was the greatest guy ever. She felt so privileged to be dating me. I treated her like a princess (her words) and her family loved how supporting of her I was. I did anything I could to make her happy and always had good intentions. So with all of that being said. Why isn't she still dating me? Could she have been lying about that stuff? Well maybe. Or maybe it was what I mentioned earlier. She found a new guy that I didn't know about, and wanted him more than me. Girls are evil witches. Don't believe what they say. Believe what they DO. Believe what they SHOW YOU because actions speak louder than words. If she loves you. She'll show you that and come back. now if only I could take my own advice. :lmao:
Njeanne Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Girls are evil witches. I resent that. >.> I know a couple who broke up because the girl lost feelings, they came back three months later, she told me personally that she has no clue why or how, prob need time by herself. She had no one else, did not meet anyone else. People always accuse of a third party member, seriously cut that out. Your story is yours, not anyone else's. 1
Author skydragon Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 I resent that. >.> I know a couple who broke up because the girl lost feelings, they came back three months later, she told me personally that she has no clue why or how, prob need time by herself. She had no one else, did not meet anyone else. People always accuse of a third party member, seriously cut that out. Your story is yours, not anyone else's. Well said. This one is really because she needs personal space. I don't know what is going to happen but there is just no 3rd party. Its not like it was last time where I kind of felt there was someone else. This time is actually feels its herself that needs to be fixed. And when that happens only then can she reevaluate us. She's a good girl despite her dark cloud....I just would like to have her back some day...
Njeanne Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Yes, it applied to her... sadly doesn't apply to everyone, it depends on the person. Most people that loose feelings just "give up". My boyfriend never told me, he gave up, was his best friend but he didn't respect me enough to tell me or he was afraid he'd hurt me more. Breaking up two weeks before christmas, sucks big time. (two weeks before he was going to come here, shame on airplane ticket he bought month before) edit: still don't understand why he didn't tell our mutual friend that we broke up and is offline on her skype, if I never told her (hard to get in touch with her) she would've prob never know...not hard to say "me and her broke up"
ScienceGal Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 In one of my relationships I completely lost feelings and it was very awkward for me, and very cruel for him because I let it go on for months. I was young (21) and he was late 20s. I realized that I liked the relationship, but he wasn't a long term match for me. That was the only time in my life that I wanted to be single, to be alone. And he is an amazing guy, so it is not a reflection on him at all. It was me, and where I was at. I needed to mature. The point is, you don't know exactly why she left, you just need to accept that she did. You can't fix her, so give her space to do whatever it is that she needs to do. Trust me, you do not want to be with someone that still needs to "figure stuff" out and "improve" them self.
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