La Trese Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) Technically its the first date...idk. Second time we met. And I didn't mean to ask if its over because I know its over...I just was wondering why :0 I met him at a party, he was interested in me and pursued me the entire night. I wasn't as interested in him because another guy who was interested in me was supposed to come, but he never did so I ended up giving him my number when he asked. My roommate flirted with his roommate that night and he asked for her number. Second time we met up. I gained a lot of interest. Made the mistake of going back to his place since me and my roommate were on a double date with him and my roommate wanted us to go back and all watch a movie together (we met at the same time, same party). His and my roommate randomly left us alone in the middle of watching a movie to go watch a diff movie in their room. We talked for a while and we started making out because idk even though I didn't intend on it so early on, I felt the chemistry . Me and roommate left, they walked us home. He texted me that night saying "next time I see you i'll take you somewhere better!". Its been two weeks I never heard from him again D: His roommate texted my friend though lol and they also made out so idk what I did wrong here. Now they are texting all the time and NOW she is starting to play the game. I'm speculating its because initial meeting my roommate initiated things with his roommate and got progressively harder to get, while I was initially very disinterested and progressively became more interested, and therefore easier to get? I'm trying to figure it out so next time I don't make the same mistake. Edited January 12, 2013 by La Trese
mesmerized Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Trust me, chances are you will never find out the real reason. Making out shouldn't make a guy less interested if his interest was high to begin with. Just stop trying to figure it out and move on.
veggirl Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 2nd date is not too soon for making out. but maybe you coulda contacted him after the date? Regardless if he was interested he'd have called, sorry. It's not cause you made out though...that would be too soon for sex but not kissing.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 He could have just been wingmanning for his buddy or doing a setup, since women feel more comfortable in pairs but men know they can just seperate you at some point...that's the easy part. Secondly if you get invited to watch a "movie" chances are very high you're just a booty call type, a guy will put in more effort than that w a woman he considers of higher "value" and has stronger interest. Try to avoid the whole flip flopping w attraction...I know that's a staple for many women when guy A falls through but you're just going to come off as a challenge and he will merely want to overcome that challenge...the notch is bigger on the belt for those who are reistant but give in anyway...makes them feel good and you look stupid, and women wonder why men don't stop at no or take it serious? Not so transparent now are we girls? So try to be more in control of yourself, more clear when you are not interested and stand by it, or you're being just as wishy washy as these guys are. Don't just let guys direct you around like a horse to water...speak up for yourself and know what you want or you're also to blame and just rolling the dice in these situations just going for a guy simply because he was there...to only decide oh no he's something more...cmon now. Don't be easy, its ok to kiss on a second date but this wasn't a date neither was the last...this was just an attempt at a hook up. Realize the difference and men meet an expectation or standard or at least or they'll take you as cheap and just another girl to make out or hook up w that just sits there and does what the guy wants just about. They won't respect you for that unless they're the type of guys that respect women....and good luck w that bet.
syw0806 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Every couple has different stories. It's hard to say whether it was too soon or not to make outwith someone on the second date. What you should really care is if the guy is calling you often and care enough about you. If he hasn't called or texted you in two weeks.. I'm sorry, but he's not interested in seeing you again. Let's say something really bad has happened to him, still he should have let you know that he won't be able to get back to you because of so and so happened to him.. so that case he doesn't make you waiting or worrying. Whatever has happened, he knows how to reach you since at least his friend and your friend is dating. Even he was interested, he shouldn't make you waiting for this long. You deserve better.
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