Lasatra Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 After 2 days of NC (I didn't expect this so fast) she texted me this (I'm gonna try to translate it as best as possible) : "Sorry, I never wanted a fight, I don't wanna that we never would talk again, you mean a lot to me. Sorry, I've been hard for you, but you didn't want to listen and that is what makes me crazy. Sorry x" After 40 minutes she texted me this message, I got another one: "Oke so you hate me clearly , I don't blame you x" I didn't respond (I could maybe respond Monday after my exam, idk). Somebody suggestions what to do? It doesn't seems like it are Breadcrumbs, but my opinion about it is irrelevant.
TaraMaiden Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 It's exactly breadcrumbs. In fact, it couldn't BE more breadcrumbs if she tried!! Look at it again: Notice how she puts herself in the spotlight - so hurt feelings are about her, not you.... "Sorry, I never wanted a fight, I don't wanna that we never would talk again, you mean a lot to me. Sorry, I've been hard for you, but you didn't want to listen and that is what makes me crazy. Sorry x" "Oke so you hate me clearly , I don't blame you x" That, together with the 'please feel sorry for ME comments.... "Sorry, I never wanted a fight, I don't wanna that we never would talk again, you mean a lot to me. Sorry, I've been hard for you, but you didn't want to listen and that is what makes me crazy. Sorry x" "Oke so you hate me clearly , I don't blame youx" This is all to garner a response to make herself feel better, not you. She's more worried about her hurt feelings than yours. NOT breadcrumbs? You're kidding - right?
Author Lasatra Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 I never knew how the BU-things really worked.. I didn't know what breadcrumbs were since a week ago :s I will continue NC than, I have not the urge to send but I wanna be the one in control for ever with her!! In the 'No Contact guide' also is written down "..If you respond to them, be sure to take a day or two to do so...". I should wait for when she sends another message or just forget it for good.. She also means a lot to me (and not because I'm still in love), she just let me feel that I haven't seen everything in life and stuff.. Tara any more suggestion? And if I may ask.. Couldn't be every message a breadcrumb to someone during NC? Like there is no good response except the full 360° apology???
Author Lasatra Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 she now send, one hour later: "I don't want to hurt you, please answer! x" I know right.. I'm starting to feel guilty but it's what they want right? I'm doubting, really am..
TaraMaiden Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Look at this logically. Answering would make her feel better, right? Talking to her again, and making her feel good - what good would it do you? You really Do NEED to block her number and delete it! Read the NC guide again, especially this bit - in fact, this is the bit you must, absolutely MUST use, before anything else: Q. My ex keeps texting me, and nothing seems to put them off. What do I do about this? A. First of all, delete their number and block it. Then the next time they text you, reply IMMEDIATELY - with this message: "Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." Do this every single time they try to text you. (Blocking/deleting numbers prevents calls, but doesn't always prevent texts.) Pretty soon, they should give up. Send that text, exactly as it is typed, and only that - and she will stop. You have to not play into this... She is being a Drama Queen: And you know what they say about Drama People: Dumb Retards Asking for More Attention.
Author Lasatra Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 I never thought of that this way.. I could say other things but it's no use because it's all get down to the NC..
TaraMaiden Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Exactly. You see my point now, don't you? next text she send you - send the 'blocked' message. Immediately. Don't hesitate - word for word.
TaraMaiden Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I will continue NC than, I have not the urge to send but I wanna be the one in control for ever with her!! Gagh!! Read my signature - you have to develop fewer feelings for her - "The one who cares the least, controls the most." - !! Right now, she cares about you least! She cares more about herself and her hurt feelings! She has ALREADY hurt you!! I don't want to hurt you! indeed - so why did she? because she did not care about you as much as was needed! In the 'No Contact guide' also is written down "..If you respond to them, be sure to take a day or two to do so...". Yes, but that is mainly if they are asking to come back to you, and are making suggestions about meeting up.... I should wait for when she sends another message or just forget it for good.. She also means a lot to me (and not because I'm still in love), she just let me feel that I haven't seen everything in life and stuff.. Hey, Even I "Haven't seen everything in life and stuff"... but nobody is stopping me from doing so - and I don't need anyone else to make me do it! You don't need her to go forward - but you will stay stuck here, if you reply!! Tara any more suggestion? And if I may ask.. Couldn't be every message a breadcrumb to someone during NC? Like there is no good response except the full 360° apology??? Read the No Contact thread.... there is a post in there (#12) about someone who thought his GF wanted him back and apologised - and he still got burnt. Never Go Back. never. (oh, and it's 180, not 360. 360 just brings you right back to where you are now. And you really don't want to go through with that....)
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