Indy C Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Hey everyone a thought crossed my mind today and I'm interested in other peoples opinions. Some break up songs leave you feeling empowered like you'll never go back to that person and you feel like you'll be better off. Others make you feel hopless and remind you how betrayed you were and can make your mood worse. So my question is after a break up should you try to avoid break up songs or do you pursue them ? In my opinion they are good for you. Whether they make you feel empowered or depressed everyone wants something they can relate too. After a break up people often feel abandoned and alone, but by listening to a deep and emotional song about a break up it can do two things. It will allow someone something to cling to because they feel that they have found something they can truly relate to and they can help people express them selfs in a way they couldnt before because they are often times confused about their feelings. Sorry if this just kind of sounds like rambling Its very late for me and I cant really sleep because I have to be back at work at 5am and didnt get home from closing till 1am but im am still interested in peoples opinions on this subject let me know what you think and what your break up song is! For me my song was The Waiting One By All That Remains I am the waiting one it seems Days grow somber quickly Now how the quiet is release And I feel so lonely How did you think I would feel Throw me aside again How did you think I would feel I won't let you hurt me again, now I'm nothing to you I can see Just walk away from me I'm torn apart I can't believe You'd stand and watch me bleed She was the one thing I believed That I needed to hold me Still I can smell her hear her breath Feel her body beside me How long I've waited, waited for you To come back to hold me What should I do When I feel so lonely How could you do this to me Betrayed by my closest friend How could you do this to me I won't let you hurt me again, now I'm nothing to you I can see Just walk away from me I'm torn apart I can't believe You'd stand and watch me bleed What should I do? Oh how long I have waited What can I do When I feel so lonely How did you think I would feel You throw me aside again How did you think I would feel I won't let you hurt me again, now I'm nothing to you I can see Just walk away from me I'm torn apart I can't believe You'd stand and watch me bleed How could you do this to me Betrayed by my closest friend How could you do this to me I won't let you hurt me again
LibbyListens Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 This one lifts me up unlike any other. "A Little Bit Stronger" by Sara Evans Woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain But I brushed my teeth anyway I got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face I got a little bit stronger Riding in the car to work and I'm trying to ignore the hurt So I turned on the radio, stupid song made me think of you I listened to it for minute but I changed it I'm getting a little bit stronger, just a little bit stronger And I'm done hoping that we could work it out I'm done with how it feels, spinning my wheels Letting you drag my heart around And, oh, I'm done thinking that you could ever change I know my heart will never be the same But I'm telling myself I'll be okay Even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger Doesn't happen overnight but you turn around And a month's gone by and you realize you haven't cried I'm not giving you a hour or a second or another minute longer I'm busy getting stronger Getting along without you, baby I'm better off without you, baby How does it feel without me, baby? I'm getting stronger without you, baby
stevie_23 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I think they're useful at different stages of the grieving process. In the early stages, it's often way too hard to listen to ANY music that might provoke any kind of emotion. Although sometimes it can be cathartic to listen on purpose to a really sad song, and just let it all out (yet again). As you move through the process a bit, you can listen and really notice some of the lyrics that may take on a deeper and more relevant meaning to you now. You can try and learn and gain insights from them and apply them to your own situation. And it does help you not to feel so alone. It's an age old cycle of falling in love and then breaking up, and you're just a cog in the huge wheel of relationship roller coasters. You make your own feelings and happiness when you're ready. Then later still, you can feel empowered by the songs. You can either get a bit angry, think things like IT'S HIS / HER LOSS! Or build yourself up and gain self esteem and confidence again, or you can just acquire more of a sense of peace and contentment, and finally let a lot of things go.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 looks like we should download Taylor swifts songs and start listening to them! Lols especially we are never ever getting back together!
jovan Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 In my opinion if your going threw NC program, your better off without that kind of song's case they are a reminder of everything you had.
stevie_23 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 looks like we should download Taylor swifts songs and start listening to them! Lols especially we are never ever getting back together! Ugh! That would NOT help me now! lol. This song was constantly on the radio back in June last year when my ex left me for a month. But then he came back, and now he's left again, for good this time. So that song...the lyrics were not true for me. lol. At the time anyway.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Ugh! That would NOT help me now! lol. This song was constantly on the radio back in June last year when my ex left me for a month. But then he came back, and now he's left again, for good this time. So that song...the lyrics were not true for me. lol. At the time anyway. It will remind you to NOT get back with him Tho! and since it happened before he will most likely leave again. so never ever get back together!
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