FaithInTheDark Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Ive never had any luck with men, i always try to play it cool but end up handing my heart over to watch it get steped on repeatively, ive had flings with guys and only had one real hoyfriend in my life that lasted 4 months. Im 23 with a good job Make good money and have my life going for me. Ive been so used to being single and feel like my love life is whays holding me back, i know not to expect à man to complete me but lets be realistic noone Whats to be alone forever. I hooked up with this boy last year and again à month after, ive had à thing for since i was like 12 yrs old, and we ran into each other this xmas,,really drunk and spent the night together again. Hes one of the hottest guys ive ever met ,,,for the record weve never had sex.. Anyway after he emailed me saying happy new year and it was nice to see me, ..i was happy he contacted me first and we msged a little, he works away on à oil rig for weeks at à time. I really wanted to Make sure i didnt Keep msging him or come off strong. or desperate. Theres à concert coming up next month with a musican we really love. I told him he has to come and he said he would never miss the chance to see the musican. I got drunk and emailed him saying i got a ticket and how he looked so good in his picture, he said Thanks and said ill see u at the show. I never replied. Last year i ran into him at a show and he kinda blew me off and paid attention to this other girl , but i admit i was that receptive and i was shy. This time around i wanna see him and impress him with how good i look and Make him want me but i dont know how to have à medium of not being clingy and not ignoring him. I dont want to have High expectations and be disapointment yet again. How can a girl get a man to be drawn to her at à show/ party? I need to develop my skills with men. Any advice id appreciate
newmoon Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 you don't need advice on how to impress a man, you need to work on being more confident. the girl that this guy did pay more attention to - was she outgoing? laughing? paying attention to him? did she look like she was having fun? dressed in a way that made her look attractive to men? it all comes down to confidence. i also was a very shy girl and grew into being a shy woman too, but there comes a time when being shy just doesn't cut it - you have to step outside your comfort zone a bit to attract the attention you want/need, or yeah, it'll be pretty lonely. shy people have a hard time attracting anyone, and remember too that men are pretty dense when it comes to picking up signals. if you truly like a guy (or this guy) - SHOW IT and TELL HIM! most guys have to know you like them and want their (continued) attention.
Keenly Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 We need a woman to be subservient *grabs popcorn*
StanMusial Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Go for men who actually want you and not just some guy because he is pretty. Good advice. Don't chase that guy.
TheZebra Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I'm going to give you the truth. I hope you can handle it.... Men don't need ambition in women...we need them to be hot, kind, and feminine. We need a woman to be subservient, helpful, kind, generous, and a good cook....in that order...cooking used to be higher on the list but we are in a feminist society so even Leisureguy makes compromises. I care not what status or money a woman has....if she is hot that is the first thing..if however she is an azzhole I just bang her and I'm out. Thank God men like you are a dying breed. 1
Necromancer Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Thank God men like you are a dying breed. Aside from the last sentence, he is telling the truth. I don´t give a **** about intelligence, ambition and that kind of stuff all that matters is. 1. Attracted to her physically (meet my minimum looks standards). 2. Good personality (Funny, crazy, roasted and fun to be around). 3. The end.
carhill Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 how to impress a man?? Hang around. IME, that's pretty impressive. 1
crude Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Honestly, it doesn't matter what Leisureguy2020 says men need from women because women don't need men at all. You make money, you have female friends, you can get laid by the hottest guys around if you want, so why the desperate need to have a boyfriend who can stomp on your heart whenever he wants. Stop being so dependent on having a guy.
edgygirl Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 No we believe women should not date azzhole men. Specially those who think a women should be subservient.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Don't appear needful. Dress femininely but don't feel you need to tart yourself up. If you're attractive, it is confidence in that that makes a woman appealing IMO. Tarting up is actually a sign of needfulness and insecurity. Smile, touch, dance, move in toward him and show him he's welcome to treat you physically affectionately. If he doesn't start responding you know it's not really happening with him toward you. I hope it all goes well for you.
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