GirlontheLam Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 The oft asked question....to call or not to call..... So here's the (long) story. A couple of weeks ago I was out with some friends at a bar. It was one person's birthday, so we had reserved seats in the lounge. We have prime seats, we can see the entire bar and the door. A guy walks in. and we all notice (mostly women in the group), we joke that the eye candy walked in (dimples! swoon!) He strolls around the room, looking for a seat and then asks if he can join us. Most of the group had arrived so we weren't hurting for space so we say OK. Several of us chat with him while he waits for a friend. A couple of minutes later, he walks in and we get back to our respective parties. So last weekend, I am out with a different set of friends and we head to this bar again. We get settled with drinks. In walks the eye candy again! We make eye contact, I smile and wave with recognition. He smiles, comes over and greets me with a hug. We introduce ourselves and chat for a bit. He intros himself to my group. A little bit more small talk with the group and he heads to the bar (he was by himself). I thought there is no way he is interested, he's just a friendly guy. [Read this as he is super out of my league...] So after a bit of coercion from my friends, I head over to the empty seat next to him and we start chatting. It turns out he is really cool and has a great sense of humor. Turns out it was longer than expected (oops our drinks were lukewarm, we got distracted chatting). He asked for my number, we exchange them. We hug goodbye and I rejoin my friends (it was over an hour later at this point.... ). Should I give him a ring and invite him out...or you know...wait for him to call me lol. Hmmm...... So what do you guys think?
Author GirlontheLam Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 How long ago did you exchange phone numbers? Last weekend.
april38 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 hmmm, I know you want a guys response, so I'm not going to offer advice because theirs is much more valuable. But I'm interested in knowing how a guy would respond to this. Standing by....
TheZebra Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Agreed, you lose nothing by trying. You've waited long enough as it is
La Trese Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) I've literally been in the same situation and my brother gave me this advice: If he is confident enough to approach an entire table full of woman then if he were really interested he would be confident enough to at least shoot a text. Maybe my brother's just being pessimistic though. Wait as long as you can, and then shoot him a text because at that point...its worth a shot. Edited January 12, 2013 by La Trese 1
sid3 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 You've already stated he's super out of your league.
Author GirlontheLam Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 You've already stated he's super out of your league. Sure, but it can't be all bad as we exchanged real numbers. And I am absolutely notorious for meeting someone (friendly or romantic) and forgetting all about them if I don't schedule something soon after. If it doesn't happen it will definitely take 6-12 months for me to get around to it. I think he's attractive, don't get me wrong, but also we had some common interests too. New friends are good too. Booked up for the next few days...but maybe I can come up with something low key later in the week!
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I've literally been in the same situation and my brother gave me this advice: If he is confident enough to approach an entire table full of woman then if he were really interested he would be confident enough to at least shoot a text. Maybe my brother's just being pessimistic though. Wait as long as you can, and then shoot him a text because at that point...its worth a shot. Its funny that people think reality is pessimism...its just the truth, the guys knows how to use a phone he's not three years old, he also showed he isn't the shy type and has likely done this many times before...he'll call if he's interested....that simple and its already been more then three days...I'm sorry but that's not looking good at all, id drop it at this point. All you do by contacting him first is showing interest and availability...for a guy like that its a easy street from then on in, you've provoked a response and showed strong interest and that you're thinking of him....that means another fish on the line, but a guy who really is interested will make the effort...what's the harm in contacting him? How about wasting your time and energy and feelings? Sorry but women just make it so damn easy for men to play the field and become and option...its ridiculous, its almost like people are begging to be strung along...go ahead, knock yourselves out...no harm in calling him or texting? It only defeats the whole point...but good luck w that, I'm sure there is a valid excuse 2
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