Chris2Phenom Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) Hi. My name's Chris, recently turned 23 and this the first time I've registered on a dating advice forum. So last Spring semester, I met this girl in my Acting class. I didn't like her at first but after the assignments got us open, I liked what I saw and we communicated without any awkwardness. So one day, she enters the building and lays her head on the bottom of my thigh while I'm waiting for class and for the first time we chilled a bit. She's has one of the most amazing personalities ever and that "girl next door" look. Then she started being concerned of if I was going to be judgmental of her lifestyle all of a sudden. I messaged her on Facebook if she wanted to smoke sometime and she was up for it. Anyway, at the end of every class, I never get to stick around because of my job. So halfway through the semester, I finally get to talk to a few guys I'm cool with and break to them the news about my attraction to her. I hear from the grapevine this, she's usually just into white guys but if she was to talk to someone away from that category, she looks at me and thinks I'm hot. This was before I asked to hang out with her after leaving for work. What's funny is that she has this double standard about her like, she thinks Latino women are sluts (she's Mexican) and that black men are always serious...which she told to my three classmates who two are black and one is Mexican (and I'm also black). But the fact that I wasn't a number felt good. So the night we were supposed to hangout, she texts me a rain check and I keep a cool head. An hour and half later, she calls to say the situation was over and if I wanted to still do this. Sadly, I'm a UPS supervisor who had to wake up very early for the holidays. We plan next weekend and I later find out she had a family emergency and she missed class because it was serious. Monday's the last day, we get our grades and it's over...until I call her the following Wednesday. I had a music performance final and invited her but she was sick. Then she brought something up about her friends which I had to stop her in the middle of. "Alright, I might as well get this out of the way. I think you're a cool girl and I like you. We can smoke anytime but I'm not trying to be you're friend, I want to get to know you." She said it wasn't a bad thing but right before the semester she had just got out of a relationship, she still loved him and wasn't looking for anything right now. I understood. I also made it clear the plan for us to chill was not supposed to happen that way and that we should still do it one day when she got better. She agreed. I text her once for two weeks to know if she was better, how her break was going. The next week, three days before Christmas invited her to my birthday party on the 29th which she didn't reply to or the call before it. The funny thing is that before I called her, I found out she deleted me from her Facebook page. I had registered a new account the last month and I knew the number of friends I have and one was deducted. It was her. I have been mature about this, especially after finding out it was not only me but a group of other classmates from our class she deleted. There were only two mutual friends that I knew were tight with her. The thing is, I never obsessed or did anything to freak her out. Am taking this too seriously? I do plan to contact her this Fall semester. I said I understood so I know that it takes time to get over a breakup. Excuse the long post but this bothers me. Thanks, Love Shack. Edited January 12, 2013 by Chris2Phenom Title
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