sadpanda87 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 so here's the summary: met new girl, taking it slow. been on two dates. she's really sweet and seems normal and engaging in person, but when i try to text / IM her she's not all that responsive. hasnt really initiated any conversations with me online or via text, but comes out every time i ask her so im not sure what the deal is, i can tell she's a bit of a shy person but it also seems like she's not quite into it?
Mysterious1 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 She's not interested. If I am interested in a guy I would respond to his texts and initiate any kind of conversation. 1
Maneater Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Since she still chooses to always go out with you, I'd say it's better if you ask her face to face. Although most people have smart phones now, maybe she can't afford unlimited texts. I had a friend finally tell me after 3 yrs (gf- not guy or bf)that they didn't always respond bc they don't have unlimited texts. Although most people do, there's always some people out there who do not. Is she super busy? If she has unlimited texts and doesn't have high stress job, the she's prob not into. I think you should ask. I think people assume too much now a days. Everyone's life is different.
Author sadpanda87 Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 yeah will definitely try asking next time... just confuses me why she seems eager to hang out but becomes 'dead' once she goes home has unlimited text ... so to speak, and not super busy but she has been stressed about work lately
Nightsky Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 It's lame to txt stuff back and forth. Just use it to arrange dates. You said she's eager to hang out, so that's the time. It's so annoying txting and IMing. 1
GirlontheLam Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 She might just hate texting.. You should hash it out in person. 1
truth_seeker Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 None responsive = Low interest Simple as that. Sorry. Is funny how no one encourages women to keep chasing after a disrespectful man. Its just plain rude to ignore someone. End of story. Rudeness should never be tolerated. And of story. Absolutely right!
Author sadpanda87 Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 yeah just wanted to get some more opinions about the situation before i approach her again... obviously i like her thats why im trying to figure it out, maybe i'll have the answer in a couple of days or so ;] she's been somewhat intimate when we've been out with a group of mutual friends... not the physical touchy feely stuff but other gestures. so getting mixed vibes and not sure how to read it is all
La Trese Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 See if the issue were that she just wasn't the one to initiate contact, then I would say she is just shy. But you said she is unresponsive...if I like a guy I may not respond right away but I will respond and go along with the conversation. I wouldn't just ignore it thats just rude. So I say move on.
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