charlietheginger Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Im the kinda guy that does not like to argue Fight or bicker. Every relationship i have been in As its "moments" often i feel a women is pushing My buttons to get a rawer outta me. Guy i know 38yrs old very successful handsome man He got tired of the relationship drama. Flew to thialand Went into a marriage house. Not a whore house but A legit marriage house. These are beautiful women That want to escape poverty and prostitution they join a agency and are set up to meet american men. He picked out a 22 yr old factory worker met her Had dinner with a translator. She showed him the Clothing she made by hand and her talents in homecare Cooking and so on. Flash forward 90 days the engagement visa was granted She came to america. No arguing no drama he spoils her With flowers clothing love and affection. He does Not allow internet or cable tv in his home. They do Things like exercise and read books. Any guys on the forum going to or know anyone who Did this?
sid3 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I bet he does a lot more than exercise and read books with her. Hell, he could do that with his sister. Let's be blunt, shall we? I'll go first. He opted for the younger, skinner option.
outsidethebox Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Pretty hard to argue when she doesn't speak English. 3
Mrlonelyone Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 That's a bad idea if you plan on having children and don't look remotely Asian. Asians are very xenophobic and will treat your mixed children very poorly. You get more acceptance in America. That depends. Charlie being a white guy...his children wouldn't have much of a problem. IT's a way to avoid a green card scammer. He can get to know her, mary her, live with her for a bit...then take her to the USA. If she's willing to live with him inspite of disapproval in Asia for a good while, then, if he even wants to come back to the states, she will probably stick with him. The truest test of a relationship is who's there for you when times are tough.
newmoon Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) a success story for you. i was once roommates with a guy (i was 27, he was like 40ish) and he had been to thailand to 'pick' a bride. he met a woman through an agency there, spent about 3-5 days with her and her family, and then went through the process of arranging a marriage between themselves. he flew back/forth to Thailand multiple times (as per some agreement with the country and/or agency) and after 1 year they were married and he was able to bring her to America. she was not too young, maybe between 25-29. they got married about 5 years before i moved in with them and had a 3 year old son at that time. she had already found employment as a secretary and was driving and watched thai tv a lot, lol. she was a lovely girl and cooked/cleaned for him like no american ever would!! when she wasn't at work she was at the stove cooking thai dishes or doing loads of laundry. they seemed very happy together. in the two years i was with them none of her family came to visit, and she/he only went back to thailand once for like 14 days. i didn't see any evidence that he was supporting her entire family. he was a white guy and struck me as the sort that wasn't really attractive to an average female, so he probably had to look elsewhere. he jad a great job though and was able to live in a wonderful estate with her and the kid, and for about 2 years, me as their roommate. i'm not against people trying this method - why not? but be aware that there are 'requirements' for each country and it's not easy to just go find someone to bring back, lol Edited January 12, 2013 by newmoon
Esoteric Elf Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 No, but I know of a man who is now married with two children and in his fifties who, out of similar reasons, left America in search of a wife. He went to Mexico, got a wife there, and returned. It is an idea I certainly had considered in the past, quite seriously.
rys Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 i'm not familiar with buying bride thing but my mom (Asian) re-married a guy from Europe. They're both in their 60s now and met online. bringing extended family over? it depends. my mom's hubby said he'd like us to live near them because he doesn't want mother to miss us and go back here he doesn't like the weather here. and he didn't ask if we like to relocate. yup, they say that the reason for relocation of the extended family would be the opportunity. but with (South East) Asian culture, we would like to have our relatives near. since we're a 3rd world country and not used to elderly care, we would expect our children to look after us. it may be bec of the different govt systems we have. we don't have a good health care here so we would depend on our family to bring us to the hospital and cover medical expenses. we don't have daycare for little ones, but we have relatives hahaha and so on... if you're considering marrying (or buying haha) an Asian woman and wouldn't like to have her extended family over, you can discuss that you have a good support system there. as for doing the chores. yes, we were trained to be housekeepers. seriously, if you don't know how to cook here, you must have been a spoiled girl BUT also be careful, some are into scamming. i've heard reports that some girls are part of a syndicate/group robbing foreigners. some also would just like to get the greencard and divorce the guy. actually, it's a risk for both parties. 1
Divasu Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 My cousin married a woman who is here illegally from another country, she doesn't speak English. It's worked out for them so far.
Treasa Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I had a friend who did something very similar, only she was from China. When she came over here she didn't have any friends or family, so she became very needy and clingy, and he became miserable.
carhill Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Any guys on the forum going to or know anyone who Did this? Some of the guys I met back in the early/mid 90's after the end of Soviet rule have been married well over a decade now and many have teenage children. A few did get divorced and, yep, some got bit by the green card marriage psychology. Myself, I got as close as seriously considering a K1 in the late 90's but married a local lady. I would never go anywhere to 'buy' a wife. I meet a lot of interesting and different people in my travels. Some of them have been women. Big planet, lots of people. At this stage of life, I'd probably take my skillset to their country and try something different. Opportunities are everywhere.
Citizen Erased Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 A fiancée visa takes longer than 90 days to be granted....especially if they are from a country that has a high number of suspect applications. You know, like every country in Asia.
Samilia Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Im the kinda guy that does not like to argue Fight or bicker. Every relationship i have been in As its "moments" often i feel a women is pushing My buttons to get a rawer outta me. Guy i know 38yrs old very successful handsome man He got tired of the relationship drama. Flew to thialand Went into a marriage house. Not a whore house but A legit marriage house. These are beautiful women That want to escape poverty and prostitution they join a agency and are set up to meet american men. He picked out a 22 yr old factory worker met her Had dinner with a translator. She showed him the Clothing she made by hand and her talents in homecare Cooking and so on. Flash forward 90 days the engagement visa was granted She came to america. No arguing no drama he spoils her With flowers clothing love and affection. He does Not allow internet or cable tv in his home. They do Things like exercise and read books. Any guys on the forum going to or know anyone who Did this? mmh I got to get me a russian guy, how much? jk
Imported Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 That's a bad idea if you plan on having children and don't look remotely Asian. Asians are very xenophobic and will treat your mixed children very poorly. You get more acceptance in America. My dad is white, my mom is Thai. My dad lived in Thailand for @20 years and speaks Thai fluently. I was raised there till I was 8 and my eldest sister was 12 or 13. We lived in a huge gated house outside a small village. I don't remember having any problems and pretty sure none of my sisters had problems. I have never not stood up for myself. I think kids that get picked on because of "xenophobia" would get picked on because of some other excuse no matter where they're at. While I can agree that some dumb ass will behave rudely because of whatever reason, not accepting **** behavior goes a long ways towards not getting **** behavior. Now a days, it should be even easier with Hollywood and the internet being so wide spread. I also lived in Hong Kong for a year as an adult and use to go back and forth to Thailand on my own. I usually stuck to the ex-patriot areas of Hong Kong for my leisure time. I don't think I ever tried to hook up with a local Chinese chick. The only Chinese girl I ****ed there was American bred and sounded like a California valley girl and did not look like local Chinese at all even though she was full blooded. Was a lot easier to get with Euro chicks and the occasional American. Whenever I visited Thailand, I don't think they thought I was Thai, even when I speak fluent Thai to them. I can agree you get more surface level acceptance in America, because let me tell you, if a black guy is not on my work crew, all the white guys in my work crew talk so much ****. But when a black guy is on our crew, it's all lubby dubby. I hate that more than people just being real. In America, are a lot less real up front. They are restrained very well, but don't mistake that for acceptance.
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