OCCDAVE Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) I notice on most sites if not all I always see a friends/hang out option.Well my question and I'd like a girls take as well as a guys why?.Reason I'm asking don't most guys want a gf,wife or maybe fwb and how could any straight guy enjoy hanging out with women ? Then again are those options like saying ya I don't want a rs but you may get some sex? Should it be renamed friend zone ? Sorry hope I made sense just curious Edited January 12, 2013 by OCCDAVE Spellin
sid3 Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 They do that just to trip you up Dave. Are you're doing things to meet women outside of OLD. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 They do that just to trip you up Dave. Are you're doing things to meet women outside of OLD.Well ill be hitting the gym soon and back to working on myself .I also am gonna try to go out more then again clubs won't have gf types most Likely .
outsidethebox Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 There's that whole friends first thing too. The friends/hang out/friends first sorta makes sense in a non-threatening way, I guess like they do on sitcoms, but I don't understand it. I guess that's why I'm reading stuff here.
El Brujo Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 That's why meetup groups have pretty much turned OLDSs into basket cases. I'd guesstimate that most of the people who join OLD are younger men who'll pay to get what they think is a quick path to free and legal sex... and they keep the sites in business.
SunsetRed Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Some women use it so that the men they meet wont be expecting an instant wife, gf or lay. Yes, it is a dating site, so most are looking for someone to date, but a woman w standards isn't looking to immediately sleep with, marry or date a guy that she's only met once. Some people really do want a Serious Relationship so badly that they are ready to jump head first into a relationship after the first coffee or lunch date. They don't really care who the person is or what that person may want, they just want someone to fill that relationship void they have w/in themselves. Some of these people find someone equally desperate and so they end up together...for awhile. They guys I've met on OLD wanted sex the first time we met and a few of the older guys (50 + years) made it clear that they wanted a wife and wanted one NOW as they were tired of being alone. This approach has made me not even want to do OLD. OLD is a way to meet people. In real life, when you meet someone that you really like, you don't start out off the bat trying to get into their pants or telling them you want to move in together. You take it slow..you work your way up to getting to know them and you try not to scare them off by moving too fast. In real life, you meet and see what happens, while hoping for the best. OLD is all about immediate gratification. To sum it up, I've used the Friends thing online because the men seem way too desperate and clingly to me. 1
truth_seeker Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 But I'm convinced that there is something seriously wrong with any woman who needs to go online to find a man. Normal women have a multi-dimensional social web that they have built over the years, and normally find a man through that web and settle down. I'm talking about women who are relatively well-adjusted. The crazies don't have this social web and therefore must advertise their wares on these websites. I thought I was going to do great with online dating until I realized how messed up these women are. With women who are 25-35, I say you're right. The ones above 35 either are there because they are divorced, are transplants or are not of the social media generation. Women in their 20's who use OLD are either unattractive (sorry, but true) or don't have many real friends. 2
Maneater Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 What dating site is OLD?? same goes for men! every guy online has been desperate or crazy or both. once in a great while, there will be a transplant or someone who has been too busy working. I'm one of the few 5% of women who worked on their career and am now friendless because all my girlfriends got married in the past 3 years. 1
CptSaveAho Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Going to an online dating site to make friends is not only stupid.. its pathetic. All women on these sites are their for attention, sex or dating. All the men are there for sex or dating. But I'm convinced that there is something seriously wrong with any woman who needs to go online to find a man. Normal women have a multi-dimensional social web that they have built over the years, and normally find a man through that web and settle down. I'm talking about women who are relatively well-adjusted. The crazies don't have this social web and therefore must advertise their wares on these websites. I thought I was going to do great with online dating until I realized how messed up these women are. This is 100% accurate... Any guy that can't get laid on OLD needs to stop and figure out what they are doing wrong in life OLD = click to F*** If you are looking for something serious on OLD... there's something not right with you.... you are choosing to be miserable and unhappy... Look at the women that have been posting here for months on end, being self destructive and been on 100s of dates...
Maneater Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 This is 100% accurate... Any guy that can't get laid on OLD needs to stop and figure out what they are doing wrong in life OLD = click to F*** If you are looking for something serious on OLD... there's something not right with you.... you are choosing to be miserable and unhappy... Look at the women that have been posting here for months on end, being self destructive and been on 100s of dates... what dating site is OLD? never heard of it. just the normal ones that are more dating and relationship sites.
SunsetRed Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 What dating site is OLD?? same goes for men! every guy online has been desperate or crazy or both. once in a great while, there will be a transplant or someone who has been too busy working. I'm one of the few 5% of women who worked on their career and am now friendless because all my girlfriends got married in the past 3 years. You do know that OLD stands for OnLine Dating, right? There's no actual site called OLD. Although, I did try OurTime.com, a site for people 50 and older. I'm 45 but wanted an older, more mature man, thus I joined. Those guys are crazy and desperate too. The last guy wanted an immediate wife and was ready to move me in after our first meet. He was also so primitive and pushy about getting physical that I view him to be a date rape type of guy. All of the online guys I've met act like they've been on a deserted island or prison for 10 years and that its been that long since they've had sex. Ive never seen men so desperate for sex. I actually do better at meeting random men in bars than I do with OLD and as I don't want to end up grossed out, slobbered all over or date raped, I'm going to give up on OLD.
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