Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm thinking about it, and I'm really low maintenance. That's not to say I don't have standards, or that I don't think highly of myself, but I'm not really into things like flowers, jewelry, etc. If a guy gave me flowers on occasion, I would gush over them and reward him with a lot of affection, but I don't ask for flowers...ever. Actually, I'd rather have a plant. I already have my engagement ring picked out. It costs $15 and is silver and cubic zirconium, but it's really pretty and simple. If a guy spent a day's salary on me much less two months' or whatever, I'd have to seriously reconsider the relationship. I don't need to be taken out. If I want to go somewhere, I'll suggest it, and then go alone or with friends if a guy doesn't want to go. If I'm asked out, I'll often go because I love it when other people arrange things. The most expensive "clothing" I have is a pair of running shoes at $150. I use them for running and races, and my knee health is really important to me. I don't have a problem attracting men, but sometimes I wonder if men want a woman who is high maintenance. If they do, they need to keep looking, but I'm curious if anyone here is like that. If so, do you see women like that as more of a challenge or something better to "achieve"? I'm only half taking this seriously, as I have a raging headache and just wanted to start a thread, but it's the only thing I feel like asking at the moment, besides how to make sinus headaches go away...
salparadise Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I definitely prefer low maintenance, at least by my definition. Of course I still like a woman to look nice when we go out, but organized and have her sh*t together generally... but the really prissy ones I have a hard time taking seriously.
clia Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 How are you defining low maintenance and high maintenance? Wanting material things and/or the man to spend money on you?
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 How are you defining low maintenance and high maintenance? Wanting material things and/or the man to spend money on you? Yeah, pretty much. I don't mean women who don't take care of themselves. Sorry, I should have specified.
TheZebra Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I think men want the benefit of a high maintenance woman but without the drawbacks. I'm sure most men love it when a girl gets dolled up (good make-up, hair done, nails done, dressed beautifully, heels, etc) because many find that attractive. What they end up complaining about is the amount of money the woman will spend on herself, the amount of time shopping and doing all of those things to look nice. I'm pretty low maintenance like you, but the men in my life have suggested I do otherwise. Before I'd just let my hair dry naturally after showering, I'd just wear a suit to work, and I'd cut my own nails. Now I blowdry my hair after washing, get my nails done every week, and have gone out shopping for skirts/dresses. All to attract Mr. Six-Dates-No-Action . It takes more time out of my schedule and more money out of my pocket, but not such an amount that would annoy a guy, you know? Like, I'm not spending 4 hours getting ready to go out, and I'm not spending all of my paycheck on shopping. The end result is that I appear a lot more feminine and am getting a lot more male attention than I did a few weeks ago. I like to think that this makes most men happy, but we'll have to see what other male posters say Oh, and while the thought of flowers are nice, I'd take a massage any day over the flowers lol 3
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 All to attract Mr. Six-Dates-No-Action Have you not read his palm or stuck your tongue down his throat yet??
EasyHeart Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Women often make the mistake of thinking that high-maintenance has something to do with money. It doesn't. High-maintenance women are women who are needy and demand constant attention. Buying them stuff can be one way of giving them that attention, but it goes way beyond that. As far as money goes, the important thing is that the two people in the couple have similar attitudes towards money. If you're frugal, then you're probably not going to be compatible with with a man who likes to spend money and buy lots of stuff. I always say that I'm way more interested in a woman's "out-go" than her income. 1
Charlie Harper Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 You are confusing low maintenance with cheap and not material oriented. A not material oriented person is the one who doesnt require fortunes spent for details or presents, example: Your boyfriend lover whatever gives you something he made himself or choose something you need, and fit you perfectly, you are happy and you dont care at all if it cost a fortune or not, you care about the present the meaning and the effort to please you. a high maintenance woman or men will check the value of the present the time or the situation and grade you accordingly, example: honey lets Go to the beach all day and return at night and or maybe stay at a hotel near the beach....compared to: You never take me to hawaii or Bora Bora you only want those cheap day trips. etc.. In my view the worst that can happen (to this Mangina LOL), is having a low expectation partner, be a woman or man, someone who is always doing the least effort to grow, to work, to live and to learn new things, very CEREBRAL low maintenance... hence boring as hell and totally predictable...
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 I'm still crap at doing anything with my hair in the mornings besides a brushing and a ponytail or pinning it up, but I do actually get manicures on a regular basis. However, that's because I love the girl who does my nails and we have a lot of fun and she makes my nails look amazing. I've even started carrying makeup around with me, although I still barely do more than maybe apply lip gloss. I do dress nicely and femininely, though! Except when working out, of course...
KungFuJoe Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Funny you ask that. I think most guys want a low maintenance woman. I've never heard "high maintenance" used in a positive way.
sid3 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Usually caffeine helps with migranes, not sure about the sinus headaches. Google is your friend. As for the high maintenance, I'd rather date a princess than a witch. Although I've found one can be both. 1
KungFuJoe Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm still crap at doing anything with my hair in the mornings besides a brushing and a ponytail or pinning it up, but I do actually get manicures on a regular basis. However, that's because I love the girl who does my nails and we have a lot of fun and she makes my nails look amazing. I've even started carrying makeup around with me, although I still barely do more than maybe apply lip gloss. I do dress nicely and femininely, though! Except when working out, of course... OH...are you referring to getting all dolled up? Like high maintenance in terms of needing to spend an hour to get ready?
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Your boyfriend lover whatever gives you something he made himself or choose something you need, and fit you perfectly, you are happy and you dont care at all if it cost a fortune or not, you care about the present the meaning and the effort to please you. Ugh, THIS so much!! My most recent ex was lamenting over what to get me for my birthday because had had been out of work and his money was kind of low. I told him I just wanted a picture of him (digital, taken with a cell phone), and maybe an email that was personal or sweet. He got mad at me and said that that wasn't what he wanted to get me, and that if it wasn't a real present that he bought, it didn't count. He was actually angry at me for telling him what I wanted instead of what he wanted to get me. It didn't equate love to him unless he was in control of what it was.
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 OH...are you referring to getting all dolled up? Like high maintenance in terms of needing to spend an hour to get ready? No, not at all. I'm perfectly capably of dolling up, but it's rare that I do so. Maybe a wedding or a special occasion. Otherwise I dress nicely but I'm sort of laid back when it comes to that stuff. However, if you really want a laugh, put me in 4" heels that aren't wedges.
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Usually caffeine helps with migranes, not sure about the sinus headaches. Google is your friend. As for the high maintenance, I'd rather date a princess than a witch. Although I've found one can be both. Yeah, I've Googled, and my doctor and I are on first name basis now because of them, but it's so irritating. Right before I read your post, though, I got a sugar-free Monster.
Kylar Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I don't think I'd date a girl who did require constant monetary proof of affection. I love to provide them, but they shouldn't be expected. I don't even like it if a girl expects me to text her good morning every day, especially if I have to do it first.
ThaWholigan Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Nothing wrong with a low maintenance woman. I'm a low maintenance guy, so that would suit me to the ground in certain respects . What I love about low maintenance women is that their style of romance is very practical in terms of doing stuff for their partner, and that means more to me than the showy stuff - not that I don't like that stuff too . BTW, Cinnamon is good for sinus headaches, as is soup with lots of hard veg (sweet potato, green banana, yam, scotch bonnet/chilli. 1
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Nothing wrong with a low maintenance woman. I'm a low maintenance guy, so that would suit me to the ground in certain respects . What I love about low maintenance women is that their style of romance is very practical in terms of doing stuff for their partner, and that means more to me than the showy stuff - not that I don't like that stuff too . BTW, Cinnamon is good for sinus headaches, as is soup with lots of hard veg (sweet potato, green banana, yam, scotch bonnet/chilli. I LOVE scotch bonnets!! Thanks!
somedude81 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Is this thread for real? Why not ask "Would you date/marry a woman who likes to give oral sex?" You'd pretty much get the same answers. 1
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Is this thread for real? Why not ask "Would you date/marry a woman who likes to give oral sex?" It's half for real. And I ask because of all the "challenge" threads I've seen lately, and guys wondering why they can't get women to go out with them.
somedude81 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 It's half for real. And I ask because of all the "challenge" threads I've seen lately, and guys wondering why they can't get women to go out with them. Hmm, I think I need to join in. Ooh, I got an idea.
Author Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Hmm, I think I need to join in. Ooh, I got an idea. Oh crap... 1
Charlie Harper Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Ugh, THIS so much!! My most recent ex was lamenting over what to get me for my birthday because had had been out of work and his money was kind of low. I told him I just wanted a picture of him (digital, taken with a cell phone), and maybe an email that was personal or sweet. He got mad at me and said that that wasn't what he wanted to get me, and that if it wasn't a real present that he bought, it didn't count. He was actually angry at me for telling him what I wanted instead of what he wanted to get me. It didn't equate love to him unless he was in control of what it was. I have found that finding exctly what a woman, frien lover whatever need and wants makes wonders. I have a friend that I get along super, she is into triathlons and sports stuff, also she has a small iPod water proof and bands for running, also she likes Roses and notebooks. So I went to a digital printer and made a notebook with her name I designed a logo with 2 tennis shoes and the legend " 2013, Run for it!" the covers with Roses printed and in a wooden box in green (her favorite with small comparments for the bands and her ipod and headphones. I wrote how important her friendship is to me in the first page of the notebook. I gave it to her and she called me after Xmas and said, it was the best present she got. <Price less than USD $80.00... but I listened and tried to give her what she needed. Too bad to much people confuse Money and effort with love and attachment. 1
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