Lasatra Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm struggling with the fact that I still think of the things I did together with my ex.. It's just so hard to think of something else (I force myself) instead of thinking how she could be next to me in my bed or kissed or whatever.. And it's getting harder if she would be someone.. They have sex and they do stuff we did together.. How do you get it out of your system? Or just go throu it during the NC? Any suggestions/experiences?
Jono85 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm struggling with the fact that I still think of the things I did together with my ex.. It's just so hard to think of something else (I force myself) instead of thinking how she could be next to me in my bed or kissed or whatever.. And it's getting harder if she would be someone.. They have sex and they do stuff we did together.. How do you get it out of your system? Or just go throu it during the NC? Any suggestions/experiences? trust me man, it's gross. today i had these thoughts, after not having them for a little while. i imagined all the cute/sexy/kinky things she'd do for me (things every guy dreams their gf would do and initiate every now and then), and i then thought of her doing those things to another guy. it's sickening. she was amazing in that way, as in some girls just don't have the confidence to initiate sexy things. but she loved 'giving' in that regard. now she's giving those same things to this new dude. *vomits*
Author Lasatra Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 trust me man, it's gross. today i had these thoughts, after not having them for a little while. i imagined all the cute/sexy/kinky things she'd do for me (things every guy dreams their gf would do and initiate every now and then), and i then thought of her doing those things to another guy. it's sickening. she was amazing in that way, as in some girls just don't have the confidence to initiate sexy things. but she loved 'giving' in that regard. now she's giving those same things to this new dude. *vomits* Yes but the fact she could do it to another guy is making me very sad.. :s She said that no one ever could be better than me in bed to her (last time 2 weeks when we were broken up).. And I want to do everything to her but the fact someone else will touch her is making me f*cked
FailedFirstLove Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 These thoughts really haunt you! I try my best not to think about it... And since he dumped me hopefully he will have enough compassion not to do that. Oh what an I thinking. His probably moved on. Do the dumpers think of these things ? Or do they just not give a **** what you do. It must go through their heads at one point or another right?
cavalier99 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 These thoughts really haunt you! I try my best not to think about it... And since he dumped me hopefully he will have enough compassion not to do that. Oh what an I thinking. His probably moved on. Do the dumpers think of these things ? Or do they just not give a **** what you do. It must go through their heads at one point or another right? The way the get over these thought is do what NavyAir Traffic says in the link his signature. Think of them a lot for a period of time don't suppress them..cry mourn You need to desensitize your brain to these thoughts and really really feel the pain. Imagine her getting laid every which way by a new guy for as long as you can. She is loving it! Doing everything and more than she did with you...etcetera. imagine this for as long as you can until it loses its power. You'll find that your brain will drift to something else and you will see how ridiculous it is...you'll accept that this is what will happen and it wont bother you as much 1
Jono85 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 These thoughts really haunt you! I try my best not to think about it... And since he dumped me hopefully he will have enough compassion not to do that. Oh what an I thinking. His probably moved on. Do the dumpers think of these things ? Or do they just not give a **** what you do. It must go through their heads at one point or another right? i think it does, just maybe not to the same degree. i remember when me and my ex were broken up a previous time, and i put everything on the table, and she needed time to think, she texted me once when we were in NC or a week or two "i had this dream that you and your ex hooked up and had sex :(". i just replied "lol sorry?". she texts "lol have you guys hung out?". so even though i wanted to get back, and she had her doubts at the time, she was obviously grossed out/thinking about me hooking up with an ex. mind you that was when she obv still had some feelings b/c a week later she wanted to get back. but i think when it's over over, and their feelings are gone, sure it would still gross them out, BUT, you have to remember, they don't ever want to hook up with us again. so that's not really a big deal. sure imagining us having sex with new ppl would still not sit well with them, but the fact that they've ruled out us as potential partners, (hence the breakup) it's probably not a big deal for them and also never really crosses their mind.
na49 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I need help with this. My ex hasn't left my mind in three months now. I'm thinking about her so freaking much. I think about how I ignored her in trying to stay NC and never found out what she wanted to talk to me about exactly. I hate feeling like she still wants me even though she was the one to dump me and probably doesn't. I miss her so much. Bleh I'm a mess. The idea of her kissing another guy, holding hands with another guy, and obviously having sex with another guy just makes me want to throw up. I saw a picture of her happy with her friends and felt sick. I'd never wish heart break on anyone... I guess we all have to go through this though.
Author Lasatra Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 The way the get over these thought is do what NavyAir Traffic says in the link his signature. Think of them a lot for a period of time don't suppress them..cry mourn You need to desensitize your brain to these thoughts and really really feel the pain. Imagine her getting laid every which way by a new guy for as long as you can. She is loving it! Doing everything and more than she did with you...etcetera. imagine this for as long as you can until it loses its power. You'll find that your brain will drift to something else and you will see how ridiculous it is...you'll accept that this is what will happen and it wont bother you as much I'm having exams now so this is not the time to feel pain you know.. :s, I already cried for what happened and all but I wish she would send me a message, even if it's just breadcrumbs (I wouldn't answer it though) but just to know she still thinks about me. I'm on NC and planning to continue it.. And before I forget.. We haven't had sex in our relationship because pussy was too tight, I only do the fase 1 and fase 2 a lot and she always screamed it out so I don't think I have to worry for like 7 months to happen it even with a new boyfriend
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