steinbiz Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm in a play with this girl and ever since the beginning of rehearsals we've been good friends. We talk between scenes with each other laughing, smiling and just goofing around talking about nothing really. I seem to make her really fidgety and nervous. And she always seems to try and be around me and talk to me. We're both really interested in the Theater business and seem to be both really similar. So after a few weeks of this, I asked her out(a movie). She said it sounded fun but she was going to be busy for the entire Christmas weekend but maybe after Christmas. I thought, OK that's fine. A week goes by, I ask her again(real casual). She says that she's got this piano thing but she'll let me know if she's free sometime over the weekend. No response by phone or facebook. (at this point I'm thinking maybe it's a "no go"). She finally responds through facebook saying she's sorry for the late response, but she had to babysit due to her sister having food poisoning or w/e. So I just respond and say "Oh that's fine. Sorry to hear that. Cya at rehearsal. For the past week, we're still good friends, no awkwardness between us. But she hasn't brought up "going out" with me at all. Does it sound like she's just not interested? Or maybe she has had very inconvenient events lately? Playing "hard-to-get"?
NateC Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Truly I think you're a bit over-analyzing things. I make that mistake a lot when it turned out to be nothing. Your best bet is to let it sit for a bit (say, a week or two maybe?) then ask again. However, start with "Are you free this weekend?" to get her interested in your question before you even ask.
april38 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Well, we are all different, but it kind of seems to me that she's not really interested. I'm sorry. I'm the kind of girl who wants to be pursued, and will wait for a man to make all of the initial moves, but if he asks me out and I am interested, I will be sure to follow up on time, and if I can't go, then will make suggestions and try to lock down a date that's good for both of us ASAP. If I dilly dally when he asks me, then I'm just trying to find a way to let him down easy....
rys Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Too many excuses and late responses may mean she's zoned you.
Author steinbiz Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 Yeah, it's been a couple weeks now and she still hasn't brought it up yet. I've laid low for these two weeks not mentioning "going out" at all. I still talk, laugh, smile, giggle, whatever with her. But no dates being set. Kinda hurts that I probably just got friend-zoned cause she's so pretty/extremely nice/keeps up with my humor/and overall similar to me.
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