Sun Devil Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I was talking with a girl in my class. We both were able to talk throughout the class period. I was able to get her number and i gave her mine. Normally when I got a girl's number, I would text the next day askin if she would want to meet up on the weekend, but that never worked. How should I proceed with this? Should I call her and ask her out, should I ask how is it going? I need some advice
Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Call her. Don't text. Maybe wait until tomorrow or Sunday.
sid3 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm going with the opposite. Don't call her. Talk to her some more the next time your in class. 1
Author Sun Devil Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 The class has around 400 student in it. Finding her will be difficult. Why should I spend more time talking?
sid3 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Didn't you just say it never works out when you called in the past? Maybe its time to try something different. Like trying to build a little rapport first. 400 people is that many, I'm sure you could find her again. Then again, if you think calling is better than asking her in person, go for it. Your odds are 50/50
Author Sun Devil Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 When I would get a number, I would text her and ask her out. I would be blunt. That did not work. I plan on calling her and I would like to know how to deal with a girl over the phone
NateC Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 When I would get a number, I would text her and ask her out. I would be blunt. That did not work. I plan on calling her and I would like to know how to deal with a girl over the phone I would say, "Hey, it's ___. Would you like to do something sometime this weekend if you're free?" Keep it short and to the point, while at the same time keeping the ball in her court so she doesn't seem pressured. If she's interested in doing something, take the conversation from there. The most awkward part of a call is the opening ...after that, it's the same as talking to them face-to-face but a bit easier. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Call her on Saturday and try to set up a casual meeting say for lunch of a snack or something. Then go on that little "date". If that is asking too much then, if I may, she isn't even worth your time. I hope she handles it well if rejection is to be the end result you'll have to see this person as part of your class for the rest of the quarter/semester. 2
Fondue Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I would call her on Sunday, perhaps. And maybe set something up for later in the week? I would be weary of setting something up for her for this weekend-- as weekends are mostly reserved for more "serious" encounters. I wouldn't ever schedule a date/hangout session with someone brand new on a weekend night. Besides, the first date is also the most often "flaky" one, too. 1
Kylar Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 When I call for dates I try to keep it brief, I build rapport better in person. I'll just say i had a great time talking, ask them if they are free that weekend, and if so suggest something. Ahead of time just have a slight game plan, a place in mind, times that work for you, and maybe a drink in your hand if your nervous. If you decide to go with text, I do sometimes, I always just say this verbatim "Hey It was great talking with you, id like to get together soon. When are you free?"
Author Sun Devil Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 So should I wait till Sunday and set up something casual or fun on the weekday?
Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 So should I wait till Sunday and set up something casual or fun on the weekday? Yes. And good for you for getting her number!
sid3 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 So should I wait till Sunday and set up something casual or fun on the weekday? Why are you going to wait until Sunday? If its an attempt to not sound overly interested, I'm afraid its too late already. You seem a bit nervous, kill that by jumping right in. Call her now while your conversation is still fresh in her memory.Be brave, she's only a girl, yeah she has a vajayjay, but so what. It's no different than getting a new bike. At first you'll want to ride it all the time, but after awhile you will lose interest and you'll start looking at getting a new bike..... Just sayin
Nightsky Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 you should have asked her out for tonight or tomorrow in person when you were getting her number. Call her now and see if she want to get dinner, if she says no see if she's free for lunch or dinner tomorrow. Tell her you have a great place you want to surprise her with... Thats right a surprise You can PM if you want more in detailed advice. You like this girl right?
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