budheavy Posted August 20, 2004 Posted August 20, 2004 Ok...Well, i think this will be a pretty long post, but I want to get all of the details out there..so everyone can give me a good opinion. Ive read some of the posts that people ahve given..and they seem really thought out and honest...and thats what I need here. This is an ongoing thing that im gonna describe. Im going to be a senior in college, and I met this girl sophmore year. it has alot of elements, I will try to not confuse people but theres so much to it..that I may just do that..please ask me questions if things seem uncertain. Somoene else out there has to have been through something similar. Ive asked a few good friends, but they cant offer help because they just havent been there. Ok..enough babbling hehe I used to go to parties at my best friends apartment, and I always just had a great time because I was in the company of so many good friends. Every time there was a party, I would end up, in the kitchen, talking to a girl for a long time, and eating pickles and cheese out of the fridge (the roomate who bought them would always get pissed) I always thought the girl was cute..but it was never an attraction thing. One night we talked all night.. we ended up just sitting on the floor and talking fora few hours. I really was amazed at how cool this girl was and all of that stuff. I liked her. Id say this was march. Another party came..and we were talking. she seemed interested in me..and finally i grew the balls to say somethign to her..i was just waiting for the right time. (im a wuss, it takes me some time) Then a guy I knew (i did projects with him in classes) came up to her and was like..hey, when are we leaving? I was like...you know her? hes like...yeah I am dating her..... i was like...wtf is going on here? Anyways... the reason she was at the party was because some of my good friends were friends with her. So I ended up making contact with her through AIM. then phone... In april, she actually started calling me and coming over. We had a hotub at our apartment and we would go there and hang out and drink a few beers. This happend once or twice a week. I asked her about what was going on with her relationship..and they broke up. So here I was presented with a girl I liked alot....who's recent EX was a guy who i thought was cool as hell, and did projects with (we hung out too) Thats the framework for everything. We hung out alot, but school ended. Over the summer, the girl and guy kinad got back together..but nothing official.By the time school started again they were broken up again. Still they had dated for a long time and were good friends (and im sure more than that, since they were both single...and human) Well last year (junior year) came around. The people I spoke of earlier that were her friends, they ended up being my roomates..so we ended up hanging out mroe and more. And I liked her more and more. Some nights we would just hang out, some nigihts we would dance ( i suck at dancing), some nights we would kinda just go our own ways. A few times she stayed over at my place..and she stayed in my room. There were times when i was interested in other girls..and those seem to correlate with the times she stayed over too. I am a guy who wont take advantage of a girl when shes drunk so I never made a move (i obvioiusly was drunk too) One incident sticks out in my mind. I happned to be hooking up with a girl i met over winter break. It went on for a few months. I had noticed this girl would ask me every time I saw her..what was going on with my other thing (it was mostly a physical thing, but I did think the girl was cool..circumstances werent cool tho...she lived closer to home then school) That valentines day we went out (the girl that I really like) and had an awesome night...and she slept over again. I talked to her about what i felt, and I even asked her if she liked me..and she said yes. I was extremelly drunk again (so was she) and we were both on the verge of passing out..(which we did) but i asked her if it was bad if i would kinda hold her..and when I did I told her it felt really right. She didnt disagree. On that topic...there were times during the school year that I had left her AIM messages (when i was drunk always..which sucks) telling her (after nights we had a total awesome tiem togehter) about how i felt. 2 times it evne lead to us having a person to person conversation. She told me she liked me..but wasnt really interested in a relationship at that time. Thats really not my thing. Even though Ive done it before.... I cant picture myself doing that with a friend. Over all of this time..i really consider this girl my best girl friend. No matter what we do...I always have a freaking amazingly just outright awesome time. Im sure some of you understand. We do **** like go and get haircuts..or have dinner parties for our friends..and its always just a blast. Ive never met a girl that i have that much fun with..and it makes me more and more attracted to her. also over this time..she is still friends (and who knows waht else) with the guy she dated. (thats the story of my life..all the girls I like dont let go of their exes) anyways.... she ended up dating a guy in march or april of junior year... I didint like the guy at all.l i thought he was a peniswrinkle (and it wasnt a jealousy thing) She broke up with him about 3 weeksl ater...and I didnt know. I went to a bar with about 15 of my friends..and she kept saying she was hungry. She asked me if i wanted to get some food with her..and I said sure im hungry anyways. During our meal she told me she broke up with the other guy and this and that... Over the summer..she went on vacation on the west coast..so I didnt get to see her...but we talked in email a few times... Finally I saw her last weekend, and i cant even describe how much I really like her...i just want her so bad. The problem with it is... she still seems to have some sort of feelings for her ex... I think her ex is a great person, and i enjoy hanging out with him...and theres just alot of mixed signals. Ive had the person to person talks..and theres no real negativity..she never is like i dont want you...and she still always hangs out with me..even after those (theres no wierdness) So i just want to know what the hell i should do. i dont know if I should let it go....if i should just be like hey i want o talk to you and kiss her... if i should have another one of our person to person talks..... She seems to be over the other guy in more ways then she used to be (since she dated someoen else) but i just dont know... Please please help. School starts next monday and I dont want to be left hanging anymore. I either want to take care of business or let it go and move on. There are so many other details..but i just cant remember them all...please ask if you have things you need to know... thanks in advance
pitprincess Posted August 21, 2004 Posted August 21, 2004 Hello bud I just read your post and felt the need to ask you something.. Have you had time to be alone with her with out drinking with one another? Sometimes when things like this happen alcohol plays a roll in the emotions of one. I honestly think you should ask her out on a "Date"((ALONE)) Put all drinking aside and get to know one another with out the influence of alcohol playing a roll in your feelings. Get to know one another... Because it sounds like you two don't really know one another out side of party's or drinking with friends. I think its worth a shot to ask her out on a date
jnglebuty Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 I totally agree with princess! Try a few regular dates which don't involve alcohol and then you'll know if you should 'piss or get off the potty'. Good luck!
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