moveONorStay Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Have you ever been completely ignored by someone after a break up? I know a lot of us talk about NC and it being the best way to move on. But have you ever felt that you would do absolutely anything to apologize and try to reconcile a break up only to be ignored and made to feel pretty foolish?
Balzac Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm not sure if your question is: have we groveled, pleaded n made crap decisions? OR is it how did we learn to not do these ridiculous behaviors? It's about personal boundaries, listening to the other person, wanting only to be with partners that value and actively choose to want to be with us. Once I detect loss of interest, it's over.
Inviv_girl Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 We all been to that stage especially for the dumpee!! its hurt and humiliated off course. Not all NC is best way to move on, even after months some people cant seem to move in at all! NC sucks but it is the only way we can do. We cant linger to someone that clearly dont want anything to do with us anymore. Constant begging and pleading wont lead us anywhere.. instead it will only hurt us even more. The dumper doesnt want to communicate in anyway, so NC is the only way!
FailedFirstLove Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Yep! begged and pleaded. Lost all the dignity. completely ignored me cause he was angry. after that I just gave up. Still dying inside but no contact really helps to heal!
Sanctionne Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 That is what I'm going through right now and it's a 1st for me. I have NEVER had an ex not try to reach out to me after the breakup to ask how I am etc. It's been 3.5 months now. I have sent him 3 texts since the split. The 1st was 2 wks after the split, then about a month later and then last wknd and nothing! I cannot comprehend how a person could do something like that? my best guess is that he never really gave a shhh about me. Right now I am determined to move on w/my life and forget about him. He doesn't deserve for me to give him one more thought, because clearly he's not thinking of me which I'm sure has a lot to do w/the ho he met just 2 wks after the split. Karma is a .... well you know
MyAngel Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm in nc for just over a month. (It is still hard but I have good and bad days). If I were to contact I'm pretty sure I'd be ignored. So I will not contact. I would not ignore her if she contacted me.
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I would take the being ignored as a blessing in disguise. At least this way it forces you to move on and maintain NC. My ex use to text me about logistic stuff when we broke up. Every time I get a text I would have anxiety about it. I just simply ignored it and hardly ever responded. Having thought about it now...I think I would rather she ignored me. Trust me...its a blessing when they ignore you. It removes the temptation of you contacting them and it also allows you to move on faster. 1
na49 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I was ignored a little bit when I got too crazy right after the BU. but otherwise no I haven't really been ignored. I ignored my ex though. Before telling her I was going NC or anything. So I can't help but wonder what she thought of all of that... I wasn't trying to insult her. I was doing it because I thought she didn't want to reconcile and if she didn't want me back, I can't handle being friends with her. I hate her so much that I still love her.
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