Rhia1978 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Hello all and thanks in advance for your responses!! He broke up with me over 8 months back..we had been together for around 5 months - had a big argument and he called it quits. The first couple of months after that we both did the drunk dialing etc. He deleted me from facebook but then added me a few months later. He had tried to meet me but I had been genuinely busy. After his 3rd attempt to meet he said he wanted to tell me he was 'sort of' seeing someone. After the initial reaction I calmed down when all my friends told me he was playing the jealousy card. Soon after he added me on fb...but misbehaved when he drunk dialed me...so I deleted him. Still we maintained contact all these months via emails at work. He also told me his father was sick..something my friends said was another trick to get my sympathy - while I showed my sympathy I never did anything more. Finally we met after 5 months and had a great time - my friend was there and she said we were a match made in heaven. I asked him about the girl he was seeing and he said it had ended a while back cos she wasn't me. We parted on good terms. Then I came overseas to visit family and he asked me to the cricket - he didn't know I was overseas. I told him. Then his b'day came and I wished him on fb 'happy b'day ' that's all. Next thing I know he sent me a friendship request. I added him and since then the messages have been fresh and healthy...no bad blood. He told me he 'misses us'. I didn't say anything..he asked me 'so are you missing me or have you met someone else there'. I told him 'I miss us too - did I have to spell that out'. 'Well will see what happens when you get back ' he replied. He's been 'liking' my posts and pics in full view of my friends. He also told me if I'd been there I should have gone out with him and his friends. Is this really a 2nd chance coming up? There was no cheating or lieing involved in our breakup. We were very well matched...amazing conversations....common interests and dreams about life and family and kids. Problem was at that time we both were coming off relationship breakups and were rather volatile. I really love him still...but am not sure if he's doing this for the thrill of the chase or genuinely wants us back. It's been over 8 months as I said...surely there's a reason he has kept in touch?
Balzac Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 This should be about you. Why and in what logical world would you ever consider getting back together? That kinda drama after months is epic fail. Who gives any thought to the motives or desires of a guy who behaves like he did?
Author Rhia1978 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 This should be about you. Why and in what logical world would you ever consider getting back together? That kinda drama after months is epic fail. Who gives any thought to the motives or desires of a guy who behaves like he did? Thanks for responding. Yes it has to be about me...and I want to give it another go...that's the reason it has been a substantial amount of time since we had broken up. Which relationship or friendship is without drama? Do you mean to tell me you haven't ever had a falling out with a friend or a partner? Does it always have to smooth sailing - isn't that unrealistic? I don't see where the drama is..we were in a volatile state when we met...it didn't work out but over time we have healed and have closed the door on the last relationship...at least I am ready to start afresh. And I feel the current communication is a nice one...no angst...no grudges...very fresh and healthy. All I want to know is if I am reading too much into it or are these genuine signs that it's worth a 2nd shot. Am not a cynical person and believe relationships need hard work and a strong friendship. The fact that we have remained in touch all these months post breakup without meeting in person and causing further drama must mean something. And most of the contact has come from his end.
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