Jacobchen Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I know this is a dumb insecurity to have but I'm insecure about my ethnicity. When I was still a teenager, I read some very negative online articles/comments about Asian men. These writers wrote that asian men are the joke of the dating world and how Asian men are all seen in real life as beta males and not attractive. They also wrote that non-Asian women would probably never date an Asian man. I've also read some positive articles that stated the reason Asian men don't do well with other races is because they're more reserved and passive. I don't know whether these "ideas/opinions" are true or not and I really want to become confident again and get rid of this insecurity. Please give me a honest opinion on this issue. I am east Asian (Taiwanese) but I would like to hear anyone's advice or opinion on this subject.
NoMagicBullet Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 The internet is full of negative articles about dating, relationships, etc. A lot of these articles make broad generalizations, or at best use skecthy statistics, to support whatever the premise is. Remember, the idea behind everything on the internet is to generate site traffic that makes money in one way or another. If they can get you to keep clicking around their website, buy an e-book, or even get suckered into "coaching" or a "sure-fire program" you may not even need, then the article has served its purpose. Other women can comment for themselves, but as a woman, I deal with men as individuals. I've been attracted to a lot of different men, including a few Asian men at one time or another. In my mind, it was never "Oh, he's an Asian guy, so he's this, that, etc." It was "That's [guy's name], and he's." Ethinicity is part of who someone is (in whatever context it is for them in their life), but it is never all they are. So really, I don't think you need to worry about those articles. Be who you are. Improve what you think you need to improve as a person, but know your good qualities, too, and be proud of them. 1
SpiralOut Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 Okay well as a white woman, I find Asian men to be really hot. I don't know why, but I can't help it. 1
NoMagicBullet Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Okay well as a white woman, I find Asian men to be really hot. I don't know why, but I can't help it. I didn't put it in my original post, but I met a very good-looking Asian man through an online dating site once. (When I say "met", I'm referring to our exchange of a few e-mails; we never met in person, so I can't be 100% sure that he was really the guy in his photo.) Beyond looks, he had a lot of qualities and interests that I think would have been a good match for me, but he wanted children, and I didn't. I didn't think it was fair to pursue a relationship with him, since having children was important to him. So I had to let him go. 1
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