ringoffire Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Six months ago, I moved to a new city, started living a new life and made new friends. The Ex and I have been broken up for seventeen months, NC after the breakup for four months, then eleven since then of NC. I'm forty miles away, have made a commitment to remain single for a year that will be up in the beginning of April....and I'm still mooning over my Ex who left me in September of 2011. Anyone else been there? Feeling like this after eleven months of NC can't be normal, right?
Inviv_girl Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Hi there, my first broke up in my life and I dont know how to handle. 4,5 months broken up and Im still crying. I dont know if this is normal or not but everybody surely have different stage of recovery. We can do anything we can to forget someones who broke our heart but we cannot force it. It has to be happen naturaly. Its ok, you feeling this way, I too, dont know how long it will take me to fully recover (or will I ever??) but dont drawn yourself too much into it. Do something that makes you happy! cheer up, write me anything. You have my support.
Million.to.1 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I was still not over my ex, 7-8 months after we broke up. We were only together 6 months. I found dating helped. I had another brief relationship with an old FWB after about 3months and that took my mind off the ex. It was just some nice summer fun... but when that ended, I was thinking about my ex all over again. I kinda came to the conclusion that even though i didn't want him back or want to be with him, he was who i associated feelings of safety and love and being loved with...... and in my lonely moments, i thought of him. But it's not him. It's just those feelings of security and comfort that i missed. Though i appreciate giving yourself "a year" - maybe just start getting involved with things where you'll meet new potentials. There is no rush "not to be single" - but it's nice to get out there and flirt and have fun and remind yourself what's out there. Distract yourself, and fake it till you make it. When you meet someone new who you really like and who likes you.. your ex will be gone. Pooofff! .. like a puff of smoke.
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