FailedFirstLove Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 okay well as i said before he was living here for 6 months and didnt pay for anything at all including personal belongings.. i was able to make him save some money up and he told me to hold his money ( before breakup) Now he wants it back saying that its needed for his apprenceship to buy tools.... Im so angry at how much his changed and going cold turkey on me. Before no contact he would constantly ask me to transfer it him without even asking how you been or apologizing for what his done. His even asked his friend to call me in the middle of the night for it. but now,,, im beginning to feel sorry for him.. i know i should CARE!!! but i keep thinking of how he was before all of this.. he was so gentle and caring . and the old him wouldnt ever care about this money what so ever. I dont know what i should do! i want to give him the cold shoulder and a taste of his own medicine... but at the same time im worried about him. if i dont transfer it would his family give it to him? i obviously still love him and i dont want to stress him out. but his not my concern anymore... he chose to be with his family. im so conflicted =( please give me suggestions and opinions His done so much to me and he no longer cares at all. so why would i care?
ActionJ623 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Hey Love, I read through your story and he reaaaallllyyy got cold during your breakup. I don't even think cold turkey would do his actions justice. I can understand the long distance side of your situations, as me and my ex were long distance and it's really hard. In my humble opinion, if its his money he wants back, I mean it is his, so therefore I would keep it short and sweet. Just return his belongings, cut all ties, and go no contact. His actions speak louder than any words could, and I think he's just not prepared for a relationship and a long distance relationship at that! It's gonna be hard and i'm about 15 days NC myself and I think everybody here would agree it's hell.It's definitely not going to be easy but it gets easier and your right you shouldn't care about him or his problems now. NC NC NC!
Inviv_girl Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Just return his belonging and stay NC! its hard but he dont deserve any concern anymore.
Author FailedFirstLove Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Hey Love, I read through your story and he reaaaallllyyy got cold during your breakup. I don't even think cold turkey would do his actions justice. I can understand the long distance side of your situations, as me and my ex were long distance and it's really hard. In my humble opinion, if its his money he wants back, I mean it is his, so therefore I would keep it short and sweet. Just return his belongings, cut all ties, and go no contact. His actions speak louder than any words could, and I think he's just not prepared for a relationship and a long distance relationship at that! It's gonna be hard and i'm about 15 days NC myself and I think everybody here would agree it's hell.It's definitely not going to be easy but it gets easier and your right you shouldn't care about him or his problems now. NC NC NC! Thanks for taking the time to read and reply! I know what you mean. I was always going to return it. I asked him to sen my things back and ill send him his but I haven't received anything. Apart from saying his going to cherish the memories. I don't have the heart to look at what's left of his stuff now. I was waiting to heal more and then return his belongings and maybe become friends. Ill be wreck again if I start packing his stuff. Right now I just want to heal and toughen up without knowing or be reminded of him at all.
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