Sun Devil Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I saw that there are some dating coaches near where I live. I was wondering if anyone has any experience with them. Are they worth it or are they a scam?
MrCastle Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 In my opinion you probably get more information here, from both genders, of varying ages and life experience than you would one solitary person charging you for their insight. Everything you need to learn about dating is either free in pdf form, or on forums like these. 1
Author Sun Devil Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Does anyone else have any experience?
CptObvious Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 A dating coach will physically be there to push you into doing what you need to do so you can be the best that you can be. You ain't got the balls to do it alone, and that's why he'll be there to lend you his. I imagine most of them tryin to act like alonzo harris but if that kicks your ass out of a cold streak then by all means take it.
somedude81 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I've thought about getting one because a dating coach can do what no person online can. Actually observe you and tell you what you are doing wrong. If money wasn't an issue, I'd do it.
Author Sun Devil Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 I am about to hire one. What are your guys experience with them. Are they a scam or do they work?
Bengal Tiger Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 There are dating coaches who offer a lot of great free advice on youtube. Check out Deanna Lorraine for the female perspective and David Wygant for the male perspective. Both will tell you to be more masculine and take confident action. Good luck! 1
Estate Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I saw that there are some dating coaches near where I live. I was wondering if anyone has any experience with them. Are they worth it or are they a scam? Dating coaches vary WIDELY in what they do and how they teach. If they are PUA types then there are some ridiculous scams out there. Just google "Jeffy RSD" and his recent scandals in some LA media. There are other though who while they teach similar stuff, actualyl break it down a little more real for you and cut out the BS and making you feel like a dog. There are also dating coaches who are men and women in their 40's-70's who seem to just have started focusing on relationships have been councellors or pyshcologist... Coaching with them is most likely a therapy session and an aweful lot of bad advice. Bottom line is they are all very expensive, if you can afford it, they don't teach anything you won't find online but you get that inperson demo from them and they will push you into doing some things (not physically, more like encouraging you) which greatly helps people who just can't seem to get out of their head on their own.... so if you need that, it's worth checking out. Someone above posted about taking advice on here? Hmmm... I'd be cautious... BullN, Barnacle, and several other who come to mind have a downright suicidal approach to dating, most others are here because they have problems in dating... there's lots of places to improve yourself online, but LS is NOT the place to meet a large number of people who are willing to get out there and help themselves (except a few).
Author Sun Devil Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 I want to know if anyone here has used one and what was it like
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I want to know if anyone here has used one and what was it like Everything is worth a try I suppose, but in my experience it's more about what you look like and the woman's mentality of what she wants than what you say and do, the latter of which is what a dating coach would address. So given that, the answer is not worth it IMO.
Estate Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Everything is worth a try I suppose, but in my experience it's more about what you look like and the woman's mentality of what she wants than what you say and do, the latter of which is what a dating coach would address. So given that, the answer is not worth it IMO. It's exactly that mindset that a dating coach can fix. Because it is total self deprecating BS (and yet another reason NOT to take advice from guys on here about dating). It's worth it if it's worth it to you. They are VERY expensive but if you need someone to be there in person to push you and this is very important to you then yes, it is worth it. As I said, they won't teach you anything you won't find elsewhere online but for some people they need the in person push to do things and when it's your money on the line, it's motivation enough to go along with it. The coach is not going to walk over to girls and get them for you. You will be doing the work but they will be able to teach you things and improve your approach. If you DO go for it. Do a lot of research on the person you are working with. Look for REAL reviews from REAL people and find out what their background is and what methods exactly they teach... there are a lot of good coaches out there and a lot of charlatans so if you go for it, make sure you spend your money wisely. 1
SJC2008 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I think you'd be wasting your money. Dating is a lot simpler than people make. I used to think I had to do xyz and whatever to impress a woman and when I started to date more I realized that it's not hard. To most people a match is physical attracton + a few things in common + good conversation. I think you'd be better suited for a match maker where they can screen someone out for you given your height and mild aspergers.
Estate Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I think you'd be wasting your money. Dating is a lot simpler than people make. I used to think I had to do xyz and whatever to impress a woman and when I started to date more I realized that it's not hard. To most people a match is physical attracton + a few things in common + good conversation. I think you'd be better suited for a match maker where they can screen someone out for you given your height and mild aspergers. I agree with most of this. But not on the matchmaker part. They have to work with a very limited pool and wil just line up date after date with people you'd never date normally just because it's their job to convince you they are perfect. They will also work saying things like "you both like movies, you're perfect for each other" which means nothing.
jcrew11 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 A PUA coach might be useful. Or you can just start hanging around some "popular friends" who you can watch their behavior around girls, and copy whatever they do. A lot of dating is just exuding confidence, and often times confidence comes from being surrounded by good socialble friends. In that sense, a PUA coach, will help you gain confidence by just being emotionally supportive and physically present to help you. I'm sure the PUA coach can give you some useful tips. What are your goals? Are you trying to impress one particular girl? Or just become a player to get laid? It might help to read Neil Strauss books or watch some videos to prepare and understand the psychology to "pickup techniques" - the "Magic Bullets" Book can be downloaded for free on some sites.
SJC2008 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I agree with most of this. But not on the matchmaker part. They have to work with a very limited pool and wil just line up date after date with people you'd never date normally just because it's their job to convince you they are perfect. They will also work saying things like "you both like movies, you're perfect for each other" which means nothing. lol if a matchmaker tried to pull that one on me they'd hear it from me!
PogoStick Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 There are dating coaches who offer a lot of great free advice on youtube. Check out Deanna Lorraine for the female perspective and David Wygant for the male perspective. Both will tell you to be more masculine and take confident action. Good luck! Wygant is ok but I heard him get interviewed and he seems like a total ass.
El Brujo Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Stay away from the dating coaches who like to talk about how professional they are. Those are the ones who want to fleece you.
mortensorchid Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I don't know the point of those things really. I mean, essentially you could get the same information you could from a self help book. I would imagine a dating coach would do the same things after an initial evaluation. The worst thing about it is the fact that we can't seem to get a good person, no amount of actual coaching or self help books can do that for you, even with the best of intentions.
Estate Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Also... there is a difference between a PUA coach and a dating coach. I'd steer you towards a dating coach.
Author Sun Devil Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Looks like I am going to meet him this sunday. What should I look for? Any ways I can tell if it is a scam or legit?
lino Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I wouldn't waste money on it if I was you. Do you have friends who are excellent with girls? If so, watch and learn from them. It costs nothing and can be a real eye opener.
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