Malia25 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Last month I made a thread about wanting to get to know a "stranger" better. I don't want to bring that thread back up from the ls shelf, so basically what happened is that he used to volunteer at my workplace, I never got to converse with him unfortunately....but then I found out we had a lot in common and so I really wanted to contact him, but didn't know how. Plus, he's oh so handsome. LOL. I eventually emailed him to ask him about something that we have in common and to see if he had any connections for me professionally. He wrote back the next day a rather lengthy message and said he didn't have any connections for me, but that we should keep in touch anyways. I emailed him back to thank him and sent him my linkedin profile, suggesting that we stay connected through there. I did that for rather sneaky reasons: 1) I wanted him to read my profile and see how accomplished I am (ha) 2) I wanted him to see my photo so that he could see WHO I am (and see that I'm cute dammit). 3) to see how much academically and professionally we have in common. SO, that was 2 days ago and he hasn't written back or added me to linkedin. I asked him a question in my last email to keep the ball rolling, but I'm afraid my last sentence came off too "final" - as in, I wasn't expecting a reply back. My problem is that I just can't get this feeling in my cheesy fueled heart that I really really want to get to know him better. We have so much in common and I just really want the chance to discover more and also just talk to him. I don't know where to go from here. I feel like I took a chance by contacting him and now I'm just playing a waiting game. What do I do? I did mention in my last email that I would love to know more about the masters program he completed, but I wanted to hear his response before I suggested lunch or something. Do I just remain patient or should I give up this crush after a few more days of no response? It's only been 2 days. I'm so impatient. Lord help me.
clia Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Any reason why you sent him your Linked In profile as opposed to a Facebook profile? Look, he's a guy. He doesn't care how accomplished you are or how much you academically have in common. He cares if you are hot. My worry is that you are pigeon-holing yourself into a "work/academic/professional" role with him as opposed to the romantic, which is what you really want. Don't appear over eager. In maybe a week or two (or when timing seems right for Masters program questions) invite him to coffee or lunch. If he accepts, dress super hot and talk to him about fun, light things--not work or school. If he doesn't accept, move on. Good luck. 1
Author Malia25 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 Thanks for the response Clia! I sent my LinkedIn because I only know him in a professional capacity, so I thought that would be the best way to get connected to him w/o resorting to FB, which would be strange considering I don't know him well. And our emails alluded to networking with others in our field. You're right. I am putting myself into the "professional" role - but I thought that would be a way in, I suppose. I don't know him at all really, so I thought I would start it off this way and see where it goes from there. For the record, he hasn't added me to linkedin and that was 4 days ago. =/ Perhaps, that is my cue to stop - or maybe he doesn't use his profile much. I only recently started using mine so I get it. I'll wait a couple of weeks and see how I feel by then. If I'm still interested (most likely, yes), I will be bold and ask him to lunch. Nothing to lose, except a teeny bit of pride, right? If he says 'no', that's ok. I'll know that I tried. Thanks!!
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