spiderowl Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm sad this evening. I saw the guy I liked being given a lift home by a woman no guy could resist. She shares his interests, is popular and radiates warmth. He usually cycles and didn't have his bike this time so this could only have been planned beforehand. It's highly unlikely they are just friends. So, I'll have to accept this, but I don't know how to react towards him. I feel like I won't want to engage in talk with him now - not that he's much of a talker anyway. I feel upset. I wouldn't be rude of course or totally ignore him, but I'll have to be distant. Dunno, I just feel quite hurt. Thing is, he probably never knew I liked him anyway because I'm very shy. What do you suggest for coping?
andytenshi Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Is this guy just a crush? Does he know you like him? If you 2 aren't dating or anything there's no reason to get upset over it and not talk to him. Just continue to be your same charming self and things will work out the way they're suppose to but if you let something like that get to you right off the bat you're going to doom yourself to failure. Short answer is don't worry about it so much. A ride home doesn't necessarily mean anything.
MrWindupBird Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I would continue being myself and not make it difficult, but I would make my intentions a little more obvious. You can't catch a fish if you don't throw out a line...
Renard99 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 As MrWindupBird says, just be yourself and don't let it get to you. By changing now you main ruin any chance you had with this guy as the woman he was with could simply be a friend. I realise that the signs look like they could be together but at the same time she could just be a new friend or simply someone from out of town. Try to push it out of your mind and try to be yourself. Maybe try to let him know the way you feel about him. You may still have a chance.
Author spiderowl Posted January 12, 2013 Author Posted January 12, 2013 Thanks for your replies. I do like him and have known him (from a distance) for five years. It's only recently I started to really notice him. He was attached when I first knew him so I'd kinda 'written him off' if you know what I mean. I was wondering if he might be interested and we'd chatted a bit more than before, but I am shy and I think he is too. Sadly, I know the woman and she is lovely. She's not someone any guy in his right mind would turn down. I guess they could just be friends but I think that's clutching at straws. I was considering asking him if he was seeing her. What do you think? Would that make it obvious I like him or not? I could be asking just out of curiosity or something. It would at least give him a hint? It would be up to him then.
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