angel28 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 My of 3 years recently just split from me after new years day. Three days after that I didn't here from. Finally I called and said whats going on. He said I don't want to be with you I cant talk to you the way I was talking we have tried. I hurt so much because he was so easily willing to give me u. He said would could be friends and I begged!!! The worse thing you can do! I said "Do you ever see a future with me down the road" " Later on he said maybe two months or a year. He doesn't want to stop me from moving on. He said he doesn't have time and energy for the relationship. We had problems before this he said iam not respectful,giving and communicating in the relationship. That for two years that is all he did was give. That before he broke up with me that I needed to reel him back in and try to get him back. He didn't feel loved. When all I wanted was commitment, engagement and he took back the ring. Let me also say we were living together for 1 year he moved out on me in October! I am hurting so much I have text him dozens of times. I said I loved him asked can we have a chance. He said maybe he doesn't know. Then I said "Can I do whatever I want" he said yes you can. It was weird I thought he was hiding something. Then I had a dream he was with another girl!! I went into his email and he had a message between an escort and him not even after three days breaking up saying he is stressed can she help him out. He wanted to get laid. I am hurting so bad its hard each day I feel I cant function at work. I confronted him and he said that he would never be able to do something like that. I shouldn't be snooping and if he had a partner he would not of thought like that. He would 100% be a **** **** who deserves no one. He was lonely and hurting. I only want "you" the drama free, secure, giving, empathetic, and loving. ( These r texts from him.) He said he wants his space. I said if you love me you wont go sleep with her. He said remember how long it took for me to kiss her even if I wanted to which I don't.. He said "same to you girlfriend no dating websites". Making a joke. I said "Ok buddy then he said I don't like u calling me that we its suppose to be boyfriend LOL. I said oh wait we are broken up lol. He said u know what I mean trying to add lightness to heavy feelings . Its a saying don't take it wrong. I said well buddy is a saying don't take it wrong. he said I wasn't just coming from u I don't like it because I don't want to be your buddy. I want more, OK better!! I am in good mood just trying to be funny. I responded with not texting back and then he said " I love you". I do really love him I know this sounds **** up but I want him back. I don't want him to sleep with that escort. What do I do?? please please help!!!
Author angel28 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Someone please give me advice! thx u. I hurt so much
KatZee Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 You can want him back all you want, but HE has to want YOU. And unfortunately right now he doesn't. You can't keep snooping into his e-mail, and you most certainly can't stop him from having sex with someone else. You're not his girlfriend anymore. As much as it sucks, he most likely WILL go hook up with someone else. That's usually how it goes, especially since he's the one that left. You can't really manipulate him either with, "If you love me you won't sleep with her." Him breaking up with you shows he's not really feeling that love anymore. Don't let him keep you on a string either by saying "maybe we'll get back in 2 months or a year." That's an extremely ambiguous timeline which could mean anything. He's trying to keep you around on the back burner just in case whatever he tries next doesn't work out. Go NC. Don't beg him or call him up, you need to focus on yourself, your life, your friends, your family, your job...
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