kristi628 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I went one glorious day of complete NC yesterday. It was hard but I felt better than I have in a long time. As you may know, my ex and I still have an apt together. He doesn't stay there but his furniture and personal things are still there. He still pays rent but has pretty much moved in w his new girlfriend. I gave my notice to the apt today that we will not be renewing. They accepted and gave me the prorated amount for march. We were under the impression that feb would be our last month. So I had a decision to make. Either tell him, or pay the entire amount and be done w it. Problem is, I can't afford it. So after talking w my parents and friends, I decided to forward the email. No message. Just forwarded what the apt sent me so that he knows we still had a little bit left to pay. He disnt reply but instead started texting. And what bugged me is that he was trying to seem like such a nice guy. No talk about what happened. Just that "we" needed to make arrangements to have things like washer and dryer picked up. I didn't want to reply at all but we do have things we need to take care of. I kept it to one word answers is possible. Just the fact that he used the word "we" made my skin crawl. There's no we. It's just me and I've been taking care of things on my own since he left. He even went as far as to say he will continue paying for washer and dryer bc he didn't want me to be without one. If he would think he would remember that they are broken and I'VE been paying for them. Not him. Last time we spoke he was a complete *******. Now he's trying to come like this nice guy. He's not. I know the real him. I've seen his worst. I cannot wait until I'm moved out and can change my number. The man just makes me sick Sorry for the vent. I know it's my fault for answering the text but we do have this apt and things to split. I still have to be civil. Even if it kills me.
Missing Him Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I think you handled it exactly how you should have! Good for you. Just be glad that he's someone else's problem now!
Author kristi628 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Thank you! I hate that we still have thing to take care of. Makes moving on even harder. But it will all be over soon. I'll be moving two hours away from him and don't have to worry about accidental run ins. He has text me a total of 5 times. Each time I replied w a one word answer or not at all. I've realized that all of his texts are about the apt or bills. Although the texts were unnecessary bc he already had the info. I thought they were excuses to just make conversation. But the fact that he only talked about apt or bills makes me realize he doesn't care about me anymore. He's moved on. And I'm ready to do the same.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Move on indeed. He is a shadow, a temporal in your life now. The sun has set, and he will disappear without that light. Now focus on yourself. It is your time. Be selfish. Hold onto that essential hope, that soon you'll find someone infinitely better. I am glad you are seeing more and more of what this is,the end, an only end. Besides, you where too good for him.
Author kristi628 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Even saying "the end" still makes my heart race. Really hard to think that I'll never see or hear from him again. Feel like a lost my best friend. Bc he was. I may not have been his but he was mine. But in reality, he's not the type of friend I need. A friend has your best interest at heart an all I cared about was himself.
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